QUESTION:
are there more unhappy married men or women?
I am personally a unhappy married women,I have been married for 9 years and to me the love is gone.I wanted to know or get ideas from others in the same situtation I am in.I would love to find others to be friends with so I am not so lonely and depressed.please give me a answer.Thank You

• ANSWER:
  Just read about this last week. Its women who are more unhappy. They need romance and to feel loved more then men. Men are more likely to stay in an unhappy marriage where a women will end it or start an affair.

QUESTION:
There has got to be some unhappy married women in Norteast Texas who want a man in the same boat.?
Ladies, there Has got to be some unhappy married women in Northeast Texas or the surrounding areas that wants a man in the same boat as them. You don't have to worried what people will think of you on this site, they cannot judge you. I just want to talk with someone and see where it may lead. Where are ya'll at?

• ANSWER:
  Why are you staying in a marriage that is obviously not working for you? Don't you think it would be healthier to end your marriage and then seek some form of companionship? You should have more respect for yourself than that, and for your wife. I don't know the circumstances of your unhappiness, so I will not judge you, but entered into a vow of marriage with another person, and severing that bond should take place before you seek solice in someone else.

QUESTION:
unhappy married women out there?
i think i am....unhappy married woman...im just so tired...i dont really think i wanna live here like this for the rest of my life...the moments when im somewhere with my baby or with my close friends im happier...the moments when i talk to my old friends online or some old flames (shouldve or couldve) just reminds me how happier i was.

my husband gives me the stress, really stress and annoying and it wears me out, there is no communication, no enjoyable, no sharing, just extra load of craps on my mind and shoulder that i really don't need.

Perhaps i need some time alone away?
or is it a sign for me to move on?

the thing is i dont have the heart to leave my husband....

• ANSWER:
  If you were to leave your husband I would say to never get married again. Sometimes you hit a rut and it takes work to get out of it. Some time alone is always a good thing for every relationship. So maybe go away for a few days. Let him do the same thing. If you are feeling this way I am sure he is just as stressed out as you are. So do not move on just look at this as being part of the "worse". A good marriage takes work and work and work but in the end when it all comes together its so worth it. I have been married for eight years this year and been with him for ten. We have our ups and downs but we always seem to meet in the middle. It helps the both of us to know that we are not going to up and go if things get hard. So I can act a fool and he understands and when he is all riled up I understand.

QUESTION:
Why are unhappy married women, unhappy?
Are there any unmarried women, here?

Why are you unhappy?
Sorry, are there any unhappy married women, here?

Why are you unhappy?

• ANSWER:
  I guess because they are unhappily married!

QUESTION:
Do married unhappy women really look for lovers?

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
Why are 99% of married women unhappy and let themselves go?

• ANSWER:
  I don't know. I always run into happy women all the time. I don't care what people say but its hard to workout and maintain that sexiness for both men and women. Not everyone is blessed with that high metablism in their sexy bodies.

QUESTION:
Why do women, especially unhappy married women, hate that men are always right?

Atmoic: only intelligent answers!
Doodle: i feel for your hubby I really do. Poor dude.

• ANSWER:
  Because women think they know everything and wants to put the man down.

QUESTION:
was in relationship with married unhappy women, but now she did a 360 and forgot about me.what now?

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
Do Married Women Unhappy With their Status Life....?
Do umarried women feel unhappy with their current life? Having a completed family of own is a happiness in one but somehow the other she still feel something is missing somewhere? What could it be?

• ANSWER:
  Alot of times married women feel as though they've missed out on life in general. If they've been doing the married thing, raising their kids and have single friends, it's often more noticeable. It has us feeling as though we could be doing something else sometimes. More so when the kids get older. And then when all the kids are in school, we stand there and say "hmm, now what?". Women are natural multi-taskers. If we've completed one job or have it to where we are comfortable with it, we are ready to take on something else. If there's nothing to take on, then, yes, I guess we'd be missing something.

QUESTION:
How can a unhappy married woman leave her husband and start over with nothing?

• ANSWER:
  It would be very difficult, but if that is really what you want to do you can make it happen.

QUESTION:
Do women who are are married and unhappy deserve to step out?
I know a woman who is married and not happy but stays b/c of the kids. I'm not one who goes for married women but doesn't she deserve to get what she needs. What if what she needs, she can get from elsewhere? Why can't a single man supply that need secretly? LOL

• ANSWER:
  A woman who is unhappy, well she usually stays because of children, guilt trip, so if her husband is not providing, emotional support, or what she needs, I say said she is entitled to go and find it, but she must leave the marriage to do so, then that is where things become hard because of the guilt she feels, for leaving, and possible fear of losing custody of the kids, hard one, I know believe me. No win situation.

QUESTION:
hi i am 30 year old married women .i have two kids.but from last 4 y my married life is unhappy wat should ido?
few years ago my husband cheated on me .he used to hit me he never spend time with me we have two kids ,even for kids he never have time he always did what ever he like .he always left me to cry .and i always thought about him and kids.i tried every thing to make him happy .now after long time after giving me so much pain he apologize to me but still i dont thing he is honest so please tell me what should i do?

• ANSWER:
  I'm was in the same situation and I'm only 22. I have two kids by the same guy. i been with him for 6 years and for the first 4years he used to hit call me names.even when i was pregnant. now he is a change man . here and there he will scream but as soon he realize what he is doing he calms down.

  anyways, if you still love him give him time to change some people do change they just need time. but if you do not want to be with him anymore then try to move on. i know it's hard because i'm going through the same thing

  GOOD LUCK!

QUESTION:
Are there any married women that would talk to a married man?
I am a very unhappy married man, I am just wondering if there are any married women that I would be able to talk to. I am not talking about sex, I mean for problems in the marriage? I have ton of problems and I would like to talk to married women with their problems.

• ANSWER:
  Yes. These people are called counselors. Most of them are married and can help you better than any other miserable married woman. You know what they say, misery loves company.

QUESTION:
Why is it that married women were more interested in befriending me when I was fat and unhappy?
When I was 30 pounds heavier, before I started a serious workout routine, married women used to take me to lunch and be full of sexual innuendo. Now I'm thinner, happier and nothing. Nada. It's not my imagination, either. Though the wife is much more interested.

(But was that really my goal in working out? I guess karma got me!)

• ANSWER:
  I thought you were still getting interest from women, married or single. If you were getting more interest when you were heavier and unhappy, it was probably because they wanted to help you. Women can be nurturers and a lot of us like to help people. The fact that you were unhappy can be like a sexual magnet to some women. They want to be the one to make a difference in your life and give you a better outlook on life. With 30 extra pounds, you probably still weren't what most people would consider fat. They probably saw that as part of your unhappiness that they wanted to help you with. Also, some women like a little extra padding.
  If you look great, are happier and more confident acting and looking, they may think that things are going extremely well for you in your marriage or that you're already too occupied with other women friends. They may be a little intimidated and look for someone who looks more like he could use some help.
  Now, whenever I hear the word "karma" I think of Earl! But, yes, I think karma got you good!

QUESTION:
Are you afraid to have sex with an unhappy married woman ?

• ANSWER:
  It depends, is this unhappy married woman my wife or someone else's? If it is mine, no, of course not, if it is someone else's, then yes, because mine would shoot me!!!

QUESTION:
Do you think a sex between a single male with a married woman is justified if woman is unhappy with her marria?
Do you think a sex between a single male with a married woman is justified if woman is unhappy with her marriage? if not, why is that.

• ANSWER:
  Absolutely Not!

  If your the 'single male' in this situation then you need to think about how you would feel if you were in a marriage and had this happen to you.

  If you are the 'unhappy married women' you owe it to your husband as well as yourself to either end the marriage before anything should happen or take the time needed to try to sort your marriage out.

  Being married should mean you have someone you can trust to always be faithful, dependable and honest even if that honestly hurts!

QUESTION:
I married a girl from Europe- why are some american women unhappy?
I married a beautiful girl from Germany. I dated several American women ( i did not have physical relations with any of them), and just found that most of them did not value abstinance, and had alot of baggage ( I was in my mid-20 during this heavy dating time). I decided to go back to the old country and found a beautiful girl that shared my morals. Since I have married, I have met alot of other guys that made a decision to find a wife abroad ( in the Phillipines, Eastern Europe and Russia) because they feel American women have lost alot of the values that you look for in a wife. These guys are physically fit, and have great careers.
Alot of us have gotten flack from american women (including family members) who think we buy our wives ( they us the term mail-order bride). Nothing can be furthur from the truth. These are real people, with real feelings, and both of you have to choose one another. I would like to hear everyones feelings on this.

• ANSWER:
  from a womans point of view, God Bless You! for holding on to your morals and finding a wife that you will be happy with and will be able to spend the rest of your life with, for the most part women have been so abused that they think that giving a man what they think he wants is the answer to keeping a man. I believe that God has an ultimate plan, and that no realationship is an accident!

QUESTION:
i am a unhappy married woman with a kid recently a guy started showing interest in me, so does he likes me?
i met him at a friends house, he knows how i am a sad person, he wanted to lighten me up wanted to know every little detail of my life wanted to get a little up close and personal, he com commented as cute and sweet to me, held my hand several times...specially the look in his eyes..so was it something...

• ANSWER:
  No, but don't get angry-I'm going to explain why. You see, you are old and probably dry. He is a man, and is not only allowed to search for greener pastures, but is encouraged to do so. Greener pastures, you are not. Now, had he been looking for a woman best described as a vaginal Sahara desert, you would fit the bill. With that in mind, lets return to the crux of your question. He is not interested in you but rather something you have to offer. He is either greedy (and after your money), gay (and after your husband), or perverted (and after your kid). I leave it to you to figure out which.

QUESTION:
Are married women off limits if they are unhappy?
Is she off limits since she is unhappy and is about to get divorced? Or should i move on since she isn't that rich and doesn't have any upside except that she is a woman?

• ANSWER:
  OFF LIMITS!!!! MARRIED IS MARRIED!!!

QUESTION:
should unhappy married woman get in touch with old guy friend?
ok so i have only been with my hubby for a few months and i'm already unhappy. it's not that i don't love him, i just don't think i'm in love with him. i feel like we just share a bed and house but nothing more. sure we have a son, but i feel i'm doing everything. i work a full time job then come home and clean the house and on my off days i'm always running around doing things that he said he couldn't do while he was home all day. i'm tired and in real need of a break!
my family doesn't think that i should have married him and even though i did it for my son i feel that it was the only reason! as it is right now i feel trapped and alone! he has told me that he don't want anymore kids so our son will likely be the only one. i'm really upset over this because i grew up in a big family and don't want my son to be alone, but he wont touch me and we haven't made love in weeks...unless you count the so called 2 min quickie. which he only gives into to shut me up! and then when i go to check my email i find all these porn sites on the computor.
i am sad to say that i have tough about leaving him on more then a few occasions and have even though about getting back in touch with a old friend that i haven't seen in years, but always said they would do anything for me. not saying that i want him to do anything, but just the idea of having someone there that will be there for me would be better then having a hubby that wont get off his ass.
am i wrong for wanting more, am i wronge for wanting to leave. do you think it will get better later or is this the best it's going to be?
yes yes i know it's crazy... tried leaveing him before when my son was a baby but it didn't work. he took me to court for custady! even though he was unfit and don't have a job they let him have it because he told everyone that i was doing all kinds of stuff like drugs and wild parties...which i have never done ever! he wont let me leave him with my son and i don't know what to do.

• ANSWER:
  Talk to your husband communication is the NO1 thing that makes for a good marriage. Show him what you have written here, he needs to know these things. I have felt some of the same emotions you have in my marriage but we worked through them. If there is only YOU in this marriage and not WE, I am sorry perhaps it is time to move on especially if he is unwilling to talk or work on your problems. If it were me I know its tempting but I wouldn't get in touch with any male friends, and I do not believe I would talk about the problems in your marriage to people you know, this can be seen as a form of betrayal . Go to your hubby first he should be your sounding board and best friend.
  Good Luck Hun.

QUESTION:
Why do some women make a big deal over their friends not being married when many of them are unhappy?
if you notice, not too many single or divorced women are complaining, it is the married ones who complain all the time.

• ANSWER:
  Misery loves company!

QUESTION:
Why is it that men are so unhappy in marriages? Do married men know something that unmarried men don't know?
It seems like men are always the ones that are miserable in marriages. Why is this? Sure some women are unhappy as well but why do you think the majority of the complaints and advice to not get married come from married men? Opposed to women?

• ANSWER:
  I believe it is because women think and react based on emotions, men on the other hand think and react based on logic. To a woman who thinks with her emotions, she is attached to her husband and will choose to either ignore conflicts and go on trying to make it better or just try to make up for it. Logically for men, however, they are tied down and if things get rough, it just isn't working so thery think there is nothing to do and pointless to have emotional feelings about it. While men DO have emotions as well, they don't allow them to show very often and probably don't think about it very often. Facts and solutions is what they are about. Also, women are much more likely to keep their feelings and problems hidden for ego sake. We women ALL know that for the majority of women out there life and marriage is a full time competition with every other woman around. So we wont tell if we are not happy, we don't want people to know!

QUESTION:
Question for the married women out there...........?
Working in an enviroment with mostly all married women I am starting to see something...now i'm 22 and I have a good job and all...but what is it with married women? They say that they been married for 20 years and they make it sound like its a long time you know sometimes they wear the ring other times they don't but they always are talking to other men and its not in a workly way but in a flirty or friendly way...now if I was married to these women I would be pissed, but of course their husbands don't see any of this..i'm not saying that these women are all out there to flirt and play under the desk but really if my wife was talking to this other guy who I didn't know I would be pissed...I see them going to lunch together and run on their breaks together..it doesn't make any sense to me....somebody explain? are these married women unhappy??

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
Why are most women in a bigger rush to get married than men when...?
Statistically married men are happier than single men and married women are unhappier than single women? That's what the statistics say.

Now.. I have never actually believed those statistics.. but that's what they claim.

But if its true.. it should really be MEN who are in a rush to get married and women who are more aloof about it. Right?

So why is it often the opposite? (Generally speaking!!!!)

• ANSWER:
  Statistically marriage is not to obtain successfully today as the failures have proven out. What ever seems to happen people go on impulse and go for the wrong vain goals that eventually weaken as egos and selfishness along with being spoiled fail to pan out. So the strong traits of people are ignored and the weaker ones pursued. (looks, greed, selfishness and dishonesty) Small wonder that women women keep pushing because the selections get slimmer and slimmer as the years go by. What's left is the guys who failed in other marriages and relationships, along with the guys who have various bad boy issues. (drugs, abuse and never really learned to be sociable with women) More women than men and less guys wishing to make up their mind on commitment. A lot of them are still struggling on texting back on the last relationship or jumping to a cell phone plan they actually can afford on their McDonald's salary.......

QUESTION:
If your are married man and a married women asks you if your happily married what would you think?
Would you think that her comment is inappropriate or if you thought she was hot would you act on it? or Why not? the guy in question has kids and is in a comfortable yet unhappy relationship. I think he knows the married women has the hots for him and wants to hook up. Could he be scared or not get the significance of that question? She has spotted this guy for about 3 years on and off and likes him and she is afraid to tell him because she does not what him to think bad of her.I think the guy likes her but he is shy.

• ANSWER:
  so far so good, they are being responsible for the right or wrong reasons. lets hope she continues to worry about her respect and he stays shy. the consequences are not worth correcting any of these two hangups.

QUESTION:
Divorced Women or unhappy women...a question for you?
This is just my point of view so please dont throw rocks and garbage at me!!..lol I have been divorced for a year now and have met a number of women who are as well. Even plenty of married women who are unhappy(so they say.) It seems the divorced women are a bit "jaded" if they have been through a bitter divorce....or even angry when it comes to men. Most don't act that way around me....but alot do around some of the other guys. Not all men are bad.....but most..."not all" women seem that everything you say is either a lie or just B.S..... However after romance and laughter...they seem to lighten up a little. Do you feel jaded and carry your hurt around on your sleeve to much.....or is it just a passing thing. Go ahead!!!!! Fire away!!!

• ANSWER:
  As you get older and you've been hurt in the past I think its a given you are more protective of yourself unless your a hopeless romantic although once some guy I dated for about a month asked me this same question, and I guess it makes you take a step back and look at how youre acting around the particular person. Its important for the person youre with to make you feel comfortable and relaxed andnot on the defense, because we can end up acting bitter sometimes

QUESTION:
Married women. Are you happy or unhappy or just medium happy?
in your marriage?

• ANSWER:
  marriage is just a piece of paper.

  i think you should ask in their lives.

  Happy!

QUESTION:
What's your sign and do you think men are the reason women are so unhappy?
It seems like so many women today are miserable about men. They have exhausted the possibility that good men exist. I know they do, but I see so many men cheating and lying. Also, most married women I know are bitter because their husbands have stopped pursuing them.

Or do you think the media just likes to "man-bash" a lot? If so, then they have succeed in brainwashing us into thinking that men are nothing but uncaring dirtballs.

I'm a Taurus

• ANSWER:
  I don't believe that men are uncaring dirtballs at all. In most cases, men make much more sense to me than women do; I just don't understand why women have some of the strange priorities they do. Men don't care about such things, they tend to be more direct with what they want and less complicated, at least to me.
  I definitely think that the media focuses on the player stereotypes more than the good guy stereotypes because the player type is more interesting to watch.

  IMHO

  Capricorn

QUESTION:
WHY DO MARRIED WOMEN STOP LOVING?
What would cause a married woman to fall out of love with her husband?

What would cause a married woman want to cheat while married?

What are the chance a married woman who very unhappy would cheat?

• ANSWER:
  because when they've sucked out all of ur life's energy and left a hollow shell there's no more pretending needed to be done

  I'm not bitter I am jus jokin......seriously can u imagine?

QUESTION:
I am an unhappy married woman who is in love!?
I never cheated on my husband nor thought of it. Never looked for love anywhere else just stuck it out. We have been together 5 years and at times it has been abusive. So needless to say I am ridiculous for still being here but we do have beautiful kids together. Recently someone I went to school with for years has came back into my life. Over a few months time I have fallen head over heals in love. I didn't know what this kind of love felt like. I just feel guilty for my husband. I haven't physically cheated but I have emotionally! Any suggestions other than leave your husband?
Thank you for all of the answers I really do appreciate the good and the bad. Although I don't believe some of you all read it thuroughly. I have tried to work it out with my husband and I have NEVER cheated not even with this guy and I will never until we are apart! My husband refuses to listen refuses to talk could careless and in his eyes everything is just great. I am not a nagging wife so he goes and comes as he pleases. When I ask for him to stay and be with me and the kids he doesn't want to pitches a fit as if he were 2 and leaves regardless. When I cry he just says don't start that! He could careless about me or our babies! Work and play is all he has time for. Family life doesn't fit in his life. I have made my world revolve around him and our kids. Now for a change I want to be happy as well!!! My world still revolves around my kids but I have found someone who loves me and treats me like a princess!

• ANSWER:
  Leave your husband

QUESTION:
Why do married women sometimes cheat on their spouse ?
Is it because they are bored ? Is it because they love sex ? Is it because they are unhappy with their husband ? Is it because it's dangerous and exciting ? Is it because men cheat also ?

Question from a single man who is being sought after by a married woman and she has made it clear she wants to have an affair.

• ANSWER:
  women always excuse on having a bad marriage, etc but the Truth is that most of the time they do it fo the sex just like the guys

QUESTION:
Do women have an adequate support network to help sustain a successful marriage?
It seems that today there are more and more women getting divorces or unhappy in their marriages. Relationship expert Shere Hite estimated that 97% of married women are unhappy in their marriages. So if you combine that with the 50 percent of women who marry that file for divorce, that would suggest that 99% of women are unhappy with marriage. So who can a married woman turn to for encouragement and positive support of her marriage? Are the only happily married women the ones who have been married for less than a few years?

• ANSWER:
  Okay, 50% of marriage end in divorce, but some have been married multiple times, so that affects the figures, so it's not 50% of women.

  Over 85% of divorces involve couples whose first marriages, and/or living together, started prior to age 24. Females are the anchor of a good marriage or relationship, but they don't reach full maturity until that age. It makes them better prepared and tolerant of the males, who don't reach full emotional, hormonal, and physical maturity until age 30. Yes guys, your pecker can still grow longer until than.

  I have 20 years, as of March, of working with divorced and single fathers to back that up. And, I do not profit from any of my writings about it.

  Unhappiness is interpretive, and I cannot say what data gathering method she used.

  If you want to speak on happiness, in 1994, Cosmopolitan Magazine (6+ million female subscribers) did a survey of their readers on what would make them happy. Among the questions was if they got a divorce, would they be happier with or without custody of their children? Over 60% responded they would be happier without custody, but followup interviews on a sampling of answers showed an overall fear of the reactions of friends and relatives for making that choice.

  The vast majority of divorces result, not from unhappiness specifically, but from one primary theme. Lack of emotional, hormonal, and biological maturity at the time a couple first enters into a relationship. Evidence is very clear in the defining boundary. Age 24 has a far greater affect on whether a marriage will last than any other factor. The resulting affects of the breakdown of the first marriage or relationship than has a lasting affect on all future relationships.

  But, because young men cannot keep their pecker in their pants, and young women cannot keep their legs together, until they are emotionally ready for such activity, there will still be an ever increasing number of breakups, divorces, and lost children.

  Children are being raised by mothers, who were taught by mothers, that fathers don't count for anything except a child support check. And of course disenfranchised fathers, who were taught the same thing by their mothers, under Hillary Clinton's "A Village Raises a Child". Not an intact family.

  Until we make young folks believe that waiting until their bodies and minds are ready for sexual activity, this will not change.

QUESTION:
any married unhappy woman out there seeking a bf in the same boat?

hey boys I didn ask 4 any lecture. Please and please only those ladies who apply drop me a line! i won bother reading crap advice!

• ANSWER:
  This is not a dating forum and if you know what is good for you then you will not post crap like this here...we all pretty much hate cheaters.

QUESTION:
Are there any unhappy Indian men & women who were arranged married?
I was arranged and have two kids and found that we are unhappy and not compatible at all after 8yrs of marriage. Are you Staying together for the sake for the family & society? Parents get devasted when their kids marriage is not going well. They pretend to get sick, faint, or even say they will kill themselves if the marriage breaks up. They are more worried about what society- friends,family,neighbors will think of them then their own kids happiness. How do you start over when parents are on a suicide mission out for themselves.?

• ANSWER:
  People all over the world seem to think that arranged marriages don't work and that the couple stick together just for the sake of it. They conveniently forget that more than the no., of people unhappy with the A.. Mar.. it is the ones who date, love and marry, break up equally fast. THE FAULT IS NOT WITH THE WAY YOU GET MARRIED - ARRANGED 0R LOVE - IT IS THE PEOPLE WHO ARE INVOLVED!!

  Arranged or love marriage , marriage is an institution which is built on the foundation of compromises. Without compromises in married life, you'll not survive it.

  As for your situation, I don't know the basic facts - so it would be wrong to suggest anything. But one thing I can tell u is that, now that u have 2 kids, their future has to be given more importance. Please think of their plight in case u decide to get out?

  Almost all the answers u get here are from people whose culture, society and way of living is entirely different from that of an Indian. They don't know the ground realities here. So don't get carried away by all the seemingly supportive answers for your state of mind. Think about the kids and act accordingly... Sorry if I sound to be preaching, but it's my wish to be of help...

  All the best....

QUESTION:
Are you a married woman who is in an unhappy marriage ?
I am a married 40 year old man. I have been married for 5 years now.

I am researching the woman's side of the story in an unhappy marriage. I want to understand the women's side and possibly improve myself.

If you an woman in an unhappy marriage please answer what specifically is the root cause of the unhappiness in your marriage from your perspective.

Alternatively, you can also e-mail me directly at accolades123@yahoo.com

• ANSWER:
  I agree with sweet.
  In my marriage, I do all the housework and work part-time as well. My husband works full-time and does the yard work. He thinks because he works hard 5 days a week that he is exempt from: speaking to me, taking me anywhere, asking me how my day was, changing the toilet paper roll, and everything else normal people do. We haven't been out to eat in 3 years. We've never been to the movies together. He gets mad at me and slams around the house, for no reason (or maybe he does have a reason, but he doesn't talk to me.) I know he's depressed but he won't tell his doctor.

  Basically, I would leave him tomorrow if: I had any money and the dog could come with me. Yes, I'm staying for the dog...who I love more than my husband loves me. She's the only baby I'll ever have--I do want kids, but not with a selfish jerk who thinks I'm the selfsh jerk because I want to be married to someone who talks to me.

  I admire you for asking how to improve yourself. That proves you are not selfish. There is hope where your marriage is concerned. Good luck.

QUESTION:
Why are so many married woman unhappy? why are they even married?
Do you know how many woman I have meet that are married and willing to.. go and do anything.. with another man.. because they are not happy.

• ANSWER:
  lol not all married women are unhappy.. but women that are unhappy its usually because men forget what they have, get comfortable in the relationship and stop trying.. women are very emotional needy beings, when their man cant fufill their emotional needs its very easy for another man to swoop in and fill the void.. they didnt start off unhappy, usually unhappiness came after the marriage.. and i doubt they knew they'd end up unhappy when they said "i do" it usually doesnt work that way..

QUESTION:
For women: Are you unhappy with whom you are married to? If so, why?

• ANSWER:
  Nope, very happily married for many years now.

QUESTION:
How to get success in Love affair with Married Women.?
I saw so many male or female r unhappy with their exiting partner so i choose this option for good life because Marriage is temp system by Human the system not made by GOD.presently i m in two Extra martial Love affair with Married women but i m unmarried man they wiil enjoy their life with me.so i deside never marriedbut ever in Love affair. "Sex is a momentary itch, love never lets you go."
I & My Lovers r doing good Sexul Intercoures they always happy to do Sexul Intercoures with me they always said i m the best not Their Husband,they don't like to do Sexul intercours with their Husband.
My Married lovers said they r doing Mistake to do marriage in Their life.so they hate marriage life.they said(Married lovers) marriage is first class,third class system in human life which is made by Human.Love affair is the first class system is made by GOD.so many grate people doing love Affair.check the history.

• ANSWER:
  Remember what goes around comes around. Enjoy your AIDS. And learn English.

QUESTION:
What are peoples opinions of unhappily married women who lead single men on?
Is this the right thing to do to lead a man on say "You're such a great friend." and hint at wanting a LOT more from him than simple friendship, able to push all his right buttons until you've turned him into a quivering mess and when you have him right where you want him totally back off.

Lets not forget the person who did this is in a thoroughly abusive and unhappy marriage.

• ANSWER:
  if he knows she is married he should back off because legally she belongs to someone else. the woman needs to decide what she wants from life and not involve anyone else until she is free.

QUESTION:
Senior ladies, from your experience why are married women generally unpleasant when their in-laws visit..?
Senior ladies, I need your opinion based on your experience and general knowledge on this. I am still newly married so perhaps with time I will get to understand this more. I have noticed that most married women are unpleasant towards their husband's relatives when they visit them even if they haven't done anything wrong at all. They either give them bad attitude, moody, unkind, give them the silent treatment or anything quite unpleasant. As long as its the husband's relative visiting even just for a fee days they are unhappy, WHY?

Do married women generally have unsaid fears about all their in-laws? What exactly makes the atmosphere tense and cold? I know there are exceptions but from my research it is very common. Is it possible that the husband gives his wife too much pressure when his relatives are around such that it becomes all too tiring and unpleasant?

Your opinions will be most appreciated..

• ANSWER:
  I personally never had any bad experience and don't have many friends who have except a few. I believe the main reason why some in-laws are not getting along so well is they forget a marriage is a union between 2 people from very different background and upbringing, every household is in fact 50/50. When a married woman looks at her husband and their house she sees "her own" home, but when the in-laws visit the husband they see a man from their own family in "his own" home. Therefore every one is acting as if they're in their own domain forgetting that each side is only half of the household and they need to respect the other side's way of life and choices. Anything that is not done their own way should not be taken as the "wrong" way.

QUESTION:
Why do married women give their phone numbers and such to single men?
Hi!

Okay, this happens to me a whole lot. Married women approach me a lot at dances and other events and they give me their telephone numbers and ask for mine. These same married women get obsessed with text-messaging, emailing, and such, and try to meet me for lunch. I finally stopped giving married women my number IF I know they are married. BUT there are a good many married women who don't wear wedding rings, never mention a husband, and they ask for my phone number. Then later, I find out they are married. What do these married women want? I have 15-20 married women's phone numbers and it's crazy. I know 10 married women who never mention their husbands and they never wear wedding rings. When I find out they are married, I stop communicating and that makes some of them go crazy nuts trying to find out why I stopped communicating. I'm not making this up. A male friend of mine who is also single said that this happens to him as well. Since Yahoo answers is fairly anonymous, I'm asking the following question.

Married women....What do you want or expect when you give your contact info to single men? Do you want someone to talk to? If it's an affair, I am not into that. I've been told that I am a good listener and that women like that. I try to be nice. Some people think I'm a bit of a risk taker and a rebel, (as is the Yahoo name I chose). But I'm not rebel enough to have an affair with a married woman. But then they make me feel sad with long emails and long text messages about how unhappy they are, and then I respond back. All of this may sound made up, but it isn't. I don't get offended when married women want to be friends, but demand more attention than I can give. I am trying to spend more of my time with single women.

Anyway, just curious as to why married women are so unhappy, why they don't wear their rings, and why they obsesses over single men?
I'm thinking..."If a married woman is that unhappy, why doesn't she get a divorce and then we can be closer" If you have a creep husband and you meet a guy you like, get a divorce, then be closer friends with a new guy. Does any of this make any sense? Or do I sound mentally out to lunch and zany?

• ANSWER:
  Their husbands are not giving them the attention they want or they no longer desire their husbands attentions. But there is something that they do get from their husbands that they are not ready to give up. It's probably an economic thing. It's not just married women that are doing this. Women in supposedly monogamous relationships do it too.

  You seem to try to live by a code of honor about this. I commend you for trying.

QUESTION:
Married women: Do you regret it?
The majority of married women I know are unhappy in their marriages. They say their husbands take them for granted. They feel unappreciated, etc... Do you wish you had stayed single?

• ANSWER:
  Never.

  My best friend is single and I think the whole thing sounds terrible. She hasn't gotten laid since October. She has no one to stay up all night talking to, no one to back her up no matter what, no one to share every part of her life with...and she has to work so hard just to find these boyfriends which all eventually crap out on her because they don't love her for who she is...

  I'll take being loved, cherished, and secure over the supposed "freedom" (see:loneliness) of being single any day.

QUESTION:
What do you do when a married women is interested in you and vice versa...seriously?
She's married and unhappy with her husband. She's shown interest in me and vice versa...I don't want to get involved but she is a really special lady...I believe she should try to work out her relationship with her husband. I need some advice.

• ANSWER:
  Don't fool yourself. She is married, and no matter how you try to say it is ok to mess around with her, it is wrong.

QUESTION:
i m 46 married not happy in my married the desired for other that is white i all way feel desire for white man?
i unhappy married woman to a man that i have no feel for i feel that should be with white guy and i feel comfortable and also no desire to have sex with my husband but desire for a white man what is wrong with me.

• ANSWER:
  Snowman??

QUESTION:
Women over 40 who have never been married or had children? Are they usually deeply unhappy & very frustrated?
I'm talking about women who are good people and attractive?
I've often heard comments such as : 'poor thing' or 'its a pity she never married xxx(some ex boyfriend)'

Worse, 'where did she go wrong?'

Why is this? Why can't people just accept that perhaps, she made a decision to focus on her career earlier on and not to enter into a marriage without being sure it would stand the test of time. As opposed to many people who rush into marriage to see it breaking up within a couple of years.

Aren't there even more married people who are deeply unhappy and very frustrated especially when they married in the first place to avoid lonliness!

• ANSWER:
  Statistics show that never married women are happier than married women.
  And that childless people or couples suffer less depression.

QUESTION:
Why married women over 45 are like this?
(I know NOT every woman behave in this way but most of the ones I know are.) I'm just wondering why...
whenever they see single younger women, they immediately start inquiring like a CIA why don't you marry already, why don't you have kids already, is there something wrong with you??
Most of them are catholic but some aren't. And most of them are unhappy with their marriage and life.
Once I even said: if you don't like your marriage life why are you so eager I get one myself? I got no answer.
So I was wondering, this happens to you and why do you think they react like this?
I know there some man who reacts in this manner, but generally speaking are women.
What do you think?

• ANSWER:
  I agree that that is the case! I am so glad somebody said that - but I think it is women of ALL ages. My husband and I just got married in August, and a few years ago all of our friends were getting married and at EVERY single wedding, we were hounded about when we were going to tie the knot - I don't get it! We always told them, when we feel like it! Now it is even worse because people have started hounding us about kids! Our 1 year anniversary is next month! JEEZ! I think many people are nosy, unhappy and miserable - married too soon and want somebody to share their mistakes. Good question!

QUESTION:
Why do men, who are unhappy in a marriage, stay with the woman they are married to?
Why do alot of men, who are married or in a serious relationship, stay with the women they are with, instead of getting a divorce or leaving the woman that is causing them problems at home, and making them upset?

• ANSWER:
  Cheaper to keeper.

QUESTION:
married men & women! why dont they leave there wives if there so unhappy they cheat. Are they weak?

• ANSWER:
  I dont know why they cheat because its not just unhappiness as my husband had an affair but admits he was happy and he doesnt know why he did it, or at least thats the story hes told me. Things are never the same after someone has had an affair, we try and he says he loves me and is really nice to me no matter how i am with him, but i think thats him feeling guilty.But from my side ive changed now, im not the same person any more, im stronger and very untrusting.
  So yes i just think its weakness , but theres no way to stop the pain it causes.

QUESTION:
Why are women becoming so unhappy with their lives? What can men do to help women?
I was very sad to read that most adult women today are unhappy with their current lives. I was reading most women become unhappier as they get older while men become happier for some reason.

Women report being less happy today than they were 35 years ago, especially relative to the corresponding happiness rates for men. This is true of working women and stay-at-home moms, married women and those that are single, the highly educated and the less educated. It is worse for older women; those aged 18-29 don’t seem to be doing too badly.

But why do you think women are unhappy?
And what can we men do to make women happier?

(NOTE: I POST SAME QUESTION YESTERDAY BUT IT DIDN"T COME OUT RIGHT)

source

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E007Zu00a-Q
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W4WsRnxMZI8
http://freakonomics.blogs.nytimes.com/2007/10/01/why-are-women-so-unhappy/

• ANSWER:
  Women who bought into the Feminist promise of "delivering it all" are bound to be unhappy when they come to the shocking realization that Feminism has done nothing more than creating a rift between the genders and that one canNOT "have it all" without making generous compromises.

  Greed begets misery and Feminism is an apt company to it.

  Edit -- Spencer nailed it. There's no explaining the misery that a gender begets when it is robbed off of its sense of entitlement.

QUESTION:
ive been seeing a married woman for a yr now. she been married 10yrs unhappy for last 4yrs and we fell in love?
she has 2 kids '8'&"2" with her husband... i have a 5yr old. and over the last 4yrs she has been really unhappy with her marriage... ive know her 2 yrs been in love with each other for 1 yr today ... just recently her husband "who's bipolar" has gotten worse" i always tell her do whats best for you hes very abusive verbal to her alot and he drinks alot at night... she has left him before but goes back because it just easier for her. shes not happy but stays for the kids and all in one house that not healthy for them i tell her.. her in I always end up in the same place again in love... and been like that for a yr... and he does know about us too.. recently he put the house up for sale. and she thinks there going there own way after there both unhappy... i tell her to save your marriage and let me go.. i know iam wrong for being with a married woman to began with.. i do love her i just want us both to be happy...and if she can save her marriage she should but it might really be over after the house is sold...my question is iam to blame for this? or iam doing the right thing by letting her go until they figure out what there going to do? And why does Desire hurt

• ANSWER:
  when you are married you either work on it or get out. when a man doesn't have the morals not to mess with another mans wife that is despicable. if the husband is bipolar and she was doing this for her kids they have meds for that. cheating is never the solution and too many men use those excuses as a reason to sleep with another mans spouse. Plus if you were being a friend then you wouldn't be sleeping with her you would be there for her and not confusing the situation. You both have kids what kind of example are you teaching them. lie and deceive if you aren't comfortable with the truth in order to make yourself feel better. Plus if the man is abusive that is what restraining orders are used for so when you say she is sticking it out for the kids an abusive situation is good for no one. so if you really cared you would of just been a friend and encourage counseling.

QUESTION:
Why do married women cheat? especially if they have kids and a secure home & lifestyle with their husbands?
We always address why we think men cheat but, lets shed some light on why women Cheat? What are the men that they cheat with referred to? The Other men? Are husbands as forgiving as wives when they find out hubby is cheating? Please share personal experiences if you have any. I'd like to know.

When I was married I never cheated on my habitual cheating husband.

• ANSWER:
  Simply, I cheated because my husband could not meet my sexual needs. In addition, in today's society women have the upper hand and have more opportunities to cheat. Men have fallen behind... Also, I believe it can be difficult for 1 man to consistently meet a woman's needs while men can be satisfied with a flick of the wrist. Lastly, women to day outgrow their husbands in many cases. In my case, I was more successful and kept myself in much better shape while he was stagnant in his job making less than me and not taking care of himself. We were not equally matched and I made a decision to get a man that has the ability to please me more. While I made the decision the wrong way (cheating which resulted in alot of guilt) it was right for me. Even now though,he still wants me back...so go figure?

QUESTION:
Why do married women cheat on their husbands?
I dont understand why a married women who has a wonderful husband would cheat on him.

• ANSWER:
  OK,, I'm not a woman, but I would suppose they would do it for similar reasons a man would cheat on a wonderful wife. The thrill of getting away with something. There might be something physically superior with a different guy. Maybe great hair, bigger muscles, possibly the thrill of a different race, or her husband could have a small package, and she wants to know what it's like to be filled up all the way.

QUESTION:
why women cheat married ones?
why do married women cheat on there men and risk loosing there families . husbands . and respect by there Friends
like us young guys want them no way

• ANSWER:
  same answer pal you was just there. ok many a married woman don't

QUESTION:
Why do married women cheat on husbands?
Is it only for sex ? Is it that
She is sexually unsatisfied?

1. What are the signs that women are sexually unsatisfied?(As most will not tell by themselves and cheat their poor husbands)
2. Did you had a cheating wife? How did you know about it?
3. If a woman stares at a man’s penis (under jeans just seeing shape), is that woman attracted to that man?

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
honest answers. why married women cheat?
why do married women cheat and loose everything that they have children.s respect. there man and respect from there families this married woman i knew did that and lost everything she had yes it was with me. she was like .42 i was just.18 and it was her idea to do it not mine i was a missionary . and it lasted for about.3 months but she was always calling my cell phone this streach marked thing didnt know when to quit at all
he divorced her when he found out it was her who told him later on about it i am glad i am in texas now not in w.va i am happily married now but she hasn't nothing at all from my understanding from people back there where she lives like the trash she is
i only told her what she wanted to hear nothing more
she was as easy as trash comes

• ANSWER:
  your kidding right you claim to do gods work no way you stated you and your cop anion right i only now one religion that does that. aka. mormons right your age fits it as for what you did with a woman that age is sicking toward you. her and every thing god is against matthew very sicking karma catches all even you?

QUESTION:
Why do married women cheat?
if a married woman feel the need to cheat....why don't she just divorce her husband?
If she is free ,she can do as she please !So what make her want to latch on to the marriage?

• ANSWER:
  POINT BLANK......INSECURITY !!

  HER LOVER MAY TALK A GOOD GAME!
  BUT IF SHE LEAVE HER BREAD AND BUTTER -
  SHE KNOW THERE IS A CHANCE DUDE MAY CHANGE HIS MIND !!!

  The transition period is dangerous !!!

QUESTION:
Why do women cheat when they lack sex in a relationship?
I'm writing a paper on reasons why married women cheat and one of the reasons is because lack of sex.

I'm just looking for feedback. Please be as detailed as possible...

• ANSWER:
  Though there are many haters on this board, I will say this much. People engage in extra-marital affairs for all sorts of reasons. It isn't just sex. It can be a number of factors.

  As a volunteer in-court mediator, I get my fair share of family cases.

  At least half the marriages I see going through the court system involved infidelities. Of that half, a little over half of the remainder involved affairs committed by the wives and the rest by the husbands. In some cases both spouses had affairs during the marriage.

  Of the ones that involved wives that engaged in affairs, most of them complained that they felt unloved or lack of affection, ignored, neglected, used, disrespected or abused by their husbands. In each case, they no longer respected their husbands and had at some point decided to end their marriages. In most of those cases the wives were the filers principally seeking the divorce.

  So I would have to say its a lack of intimacy, neglect, being used, disrespect, or abuse or a combination thereof.

  I would not, however, say that its sex exclusively. The extra-marital sex does play a role in the affairs at least at the outset, since a new sexual relationship provides new energy in either mens' or womens' lives. But I would also have to say the sex alone is secondary.

  Never say never, however, since there was a small percentage of women who complained that there was a complete lack of sex in their marriages that drove them to their affairs. But usually that also involves the other factors as well.

  In a very small number of the cases, the women had affairs because their husbands had affairs.

  Again, the question is too broad in its literal sense, and too narrow in its application.

  Therefore, I would have to conclude based on personal experience that "lack of sex" in the marriage alone is usually insufficient to spark an affair. Other larger factors come into play; however, that said in a small percentage lack of sex would be the motivating factor.

QUESTION:
why do married women cheat with young boys when they are old enought to be there mom?
i have a question why does married women cheat with boys that these women who are old enoght to be there mothers i have a friend who.s wife was seeing a boy her son was older than him why do women do this to run there family life or what i hardley could belive it
the reason i asked this question. a friend of mine is married and i saw his wife she is in her late.40.s. and she was well in a car. the backseat with a teenage boy and they was well getting it on . he couldnt been no more than.19. at tops. how can you tell your friend something like this he is my brother she is married to.
and they have children as well one oldren than who she was well doing this with?

• ANSWER:
  They are no different than the men that have sex with young girls. They are sick. And I don't mean with a disease. These people are perverted people who deserve to have their sexual organs cut off or sewn shut. Your friend's wife should not be trusted around any child, not even her own!

QUESTION:
Why do married women sometimes cheat on their spouse ?
Is it because they are bored ? Is it because they love sex ? Is it because they are unhappy with their husband ? Is it because it's dangerous and exciting ? Is it because men cheat also ?

Question from a single man who is being sought after by a married woman and she has made it clear she wants to have an affair.

• ANSWER:
  women always excuse on having a bad marriage, etc but the Truth is that most of the time they do it fo the sex just like the guys

QUESTION:
Why shouldnt married women cheat?
If men can walk around an cheat, why cant the wife an still not get the crap if we do get caught? We women are too dang nice sometimes. "although if men were real men we wouldnt have to cheat"

• ANSWER:
  Not all men cheat the same as not all women are faithful. It sounds as if you are bitter right now over a situation. That is understandable. However, try not to stereotype people. I know plenty of women with cheating husbands. However, I know just as many faithful husbands with cheating wives. It is the person not the gender that makes this decision. If you are with someone who can not be faithful than for your sake I hope you can get away from the person. Good luck to you.

QUESTION:
Why do women cheat with married men?
I'm asking this question because I'm trying to prove a point. So you don't have to admit that you are cheating, or that you have cheated with married men, just give reasons why some WOMEN rather have a married man verses a single man. And I know the man has fault in the cheating also, but for now I just want to hear the woman side. Thanks in advance.

• ANSWER:
  Obviously I'm a guy.
  I've asked this, in real life. Some Women will cheat with a married man because they just want sex without attachments. If he is "taken", but has a tendency to "stray", that satisfies them.
  Some Women simply want the guy, and don't respect his marriage. If He goes along with it, He does not respect it either.
  Some Women are cynical, they are trying to prove to themselves that "all men cheat".
  Some Women are egomaniacs, they want to prove that "they are so hot, they can steal another Woman's Man".
  I'm sure there are other reasons & excuses, these are just the ones I've heard, or observed. Pathetic, aren't they?

QUESTION:
why married women cheat with younger guys?
how can a married woman cheat with us younger guys and think we would ever stay with them on a regural basis really i was doing missionary work me and a copanion and this married woman age.in her.40.s i was just,18 that trash asked me to do her well it happened right in her home she.s trash and was married as well later on i found out he divorced her good she was nothing but trash and easy
she had the nerve to call my house and now i am married .i live in texas she lives in w.va
i dont know how she even got my phone number

• ANSWER:
  Did you know she was married at the time? If so, then you share the blame because even an 18 year old is old enough to know better.

  But as far as why, I don't know. Maybe they only care about themselves and keep their husbands to keep from being alone.

QUESTION:
why married women cheat on there men?
can you tell me why a marred woman would cheat on her man when she has a good marrage i meet a woman who said she had a good marrage and she had kids but about a week later i did her right in her home she was sloppy those streach marks was sicking i was.18 she was .43
he divorved her about.7 months later she told me i was the only guy she had cheated with on him

• ANSWER:
  well .2. reasons pal lack of feelings toward there spouse .2 and ask your mom matthew i also been with her son?

QUESTION:
so why do married women cheat?
so why do married women cheat on there men and let there children feel at odds over it don't they have no shame at all when it.s there life their running as well no man wants not the guys that's making a ass out of them
that's why they end up divorced

• ANSWER:
  well matt. most married women cheat are self centered but in your case it,s called a mercy lay

QUESTION:
Why do married women cheat? How to find a cheater?

• ANSWER:
  dude not cool

QUESTION:
women only why do married women cheat on there husbands?
only women reply please,women who love there husbands why and do they still cheat on them with another guy, i would really love to know and understand the female mind and the way they think, thank you all for your time who have read and reply-ed to this

• ANSWER:
  As God as my witness here I have never cheated on a man. I am married now and would rather give my right arm than selfishly hurt him. Cheating is an act of sole selfishness within a person.

  Man or woman no matter. Funny I am now watching Sampson and Deliah right now. I have never seen this movie before but heard about it. Probably the ultimate selfish cheating movie ever made. LOL. Well all I can say is not all women are selfish cheaters.

  In your 20's you won't have too much luck finding someone who is willing to give up a fun social life. Can you blame them? Your 20's is a YOU decade in a person's life. Men too. If you want a good loving unselfish woman wait longer in life. Become her best friend and learn all about her good, bad and ugly ways then marry her. If you do this you will be so much more successful. Good luck to you

QUESTION:
Why do married women cheat on there husbands??
Ok so the situation is I started dating a women, oh Im a lesbian by the way, anyways I broke up with this women because she went on a holiday and never bothered to contact me but found out later on it was because she was in a serious car accident and couldnt reach me, a year later she comes back telling me shes been married for 4 years oh but wait theres more... she has a 2 year old child, that she was in an arranged marridge her mother forced her into and that she dosnt love this guy and only has ever loved me and wishes she didnt marry him....
theres alot more to this story but anyways my question is
WHY DO MARRIED WOMEN CHEAT ON THERE HUSBANDS??

• ANSWER:
  the same way married men cheat on their wives

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QUESTION:
Why do married white women cheat so much?
Can't tell you how much booty my brother got from married white women.

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
Interesting posts: WHY DO MARRIED WOMEN CHEAT?
I am contemplating having an affair. NSA sexual affair. Have no intentions on uprooting my roost at home. My husband has taught me that I am not the first thing on his list for way too many years, I've had his kids, I'm a fantastic mother and professional who needs to feel alive, wants to feel alive. Yes, women have needs. They call it "the urge to spread the seed" for men, but the drive and the desire is all the same, male or female. I don't know what in the world would ever bring that back into my marriage, lingerie? bars? swing? he wouldn't do it....my question is "Why get married at all" , some say b/c they'll never be alone, the financial security, they are "happy" yeah right, if so, you are rare and few...being married isn't natural, I don't care how old of an institution it is, and they call it that for a reason.....why can't we have kids, live together, reap the rewards of it, grow old and have NSA's once in blue blue moon...

• ANSWER:
  Woman actually cheat more often than is admitted to. However it is not always about sex that woman end up with another man. Lack of interaction at home, the feeling that she needs more physical closeness, or maybe simply because the husband has an affair himself.
  Marriage is not for everyone, and as we age, it becomes complaciancy that keeps a marriage together often.
  I hope you the best in the future. But before you find "happiness" with a another man, try talking to youe spouse about how things are missing at home. Heck, find a female friend to talk to, you'd be suprised to learn she probably feels the same way.

QUESTION:
why do married women cheat on there successful husbands?
some women haveit all and they still go and cheat

• ANSWER:
  B/c they don't have it all. There is an emotional emptiness that they try to fill. Or maybe it is sexual. Most of the people I know who have cheated feel that the relationship is dead and there is little emotion involved with their spouse. A lack of love, friendship, concern, etc... You understand?

  Some are just nasty.

QUESTION:
Where and why do married women cheat and with whom?

• ANSWER:
  WHEREVER they find ANYONE who GIVES them the ATTENTION not received at home......
  I'm sorry you were unable to fill her needs.........

QUESTION:
Have you ever had an affair? If so, what made you do it? (Just curious as to why married women cheat)?

• ANSWER:
  yes sort of didn't have sex with another man only kissed then felt really guilty to me if I was even willing to do that its time to separate from abusive-non affectionate-unless wanted sex husband-
  I never thought of myself as the cheating kind but I was lonely but it was still wrong

QUESTION:
why do married women cheat on their husbands? and for gay couples, why do they cheat on their wives?

• ANSWER:
  For women.. In most cases, women who cheat are missing something emotionally from their relationship.. most women that cheat its not just because the opportunity was there so they grab it.. most women have sex because they are emotionally attached to someone. Usually what happens is a woman feels emotionally neglected by her husband, maybe the romance is gone, maybe he doesnt notice things about her anymore, maybe he doesnt pay her any attention anymore, maybe their marriage has hit a low and they arent getting along very well and she's emotionally needy.. and then comes along some guy while she's in the "low" of neediness, and he starts paying attention to her, noticing things like when she changes her hair or buys a new dress etc.. he listens to her, etc etc etc.. and she finds herself emotionally getting attached to this guy and emotionally becoming detached from her husband to a point that she risks it all to feel loved, desired, needed, wanted, etc.. ITS very rare for a woman to cheat on a guy just because its someone new.. not saying it doesnt happen, but its rare.. women are more emotional creatures of habbit then physical ..

  Most women who cheat actually have "affairs" not just one night stands.. its emotionally wrapped up not physically..

QUESTION:
why do women cheat with married men, but a man will rarely cheat with a married woman?

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
Why do married women cheat with there ex boyfriend?
My sister has informed me she still has a desire to be with her ex boyfriend. Her husband is a good man. She says she needs some closer with her ex, is seeing him a bad idea?

• ANSWER:
  yes, seeing him is an extremely bad idea since she still has feelings for him. i don't know why people do this, but it seems like when they are having problems with the one that they are with they start thinking about old times with other people and that they might be happier with them. but they have to think that they are ex's, they didn't work out for a reason. there is no sense in breaking up a happy home over a crush!

QUESTION:
Why do married women cheat more than married men these days?

• ANSWER:
  Where did u get that statistic? If that were true, I would guess that women need alot more attention than u think!!!!

QUESTION:
why do married women cheat on their husands?

• ANSWER:
  Because they didn't get the type of attention that they wanted from home. It has to do with immaturity too. Some women get married to the first guy that comes around, but then take the time later on to figure out that he wasn't what she wanted for long term--then instead of being mature enough to end that relationship, they step out.
  The other scenario is that they really do love the man, but he isn't giving the type/amount of attention that she wishes, so in order to 'supplement' the relationship she steps out.
  Why?

QUESTION:
why do married women cheat and totally lie about it even when you have all the legal proof you need,pictures?

• ANSWER:
  because we are total b*tches. i hate all girls except a select few.

QUESTION:
Why do married people cheat? Why do women sleep with married men?
Why and how can a woman try to develop a relationship with a married man?

• ANSWER:
  Lack of self control. It's not surprising that women fall in love with other women's husbands--stuff like that just happens sometimes, no matter what your intentions. To give in to the feeling when the guy is still married shows a lack of self respect, a lack of respect for marriage, and a lack of respect for the man you love.

QUESTION:
Why do married WOMEN cheat?

• ANSWER:
  All sorts of reasons.

  They make more money and don't want to pay their taxes, so they fake up a lot of receipts.

  Oh ... I see. You mean have extramarital affairs?

  Again all sorts of reasons.

  1. They feel unloved.
  2. They are unappreciated.
  3. They feel disrespected or marginalized.
  4. They feel as if their needs are being ignored or not met.
  5. Sanity saving device.

  Amongst many.

QUESTION:
why do married women cheat?

• ANSWER:
  The same reasons men feel they must cheat. They feel something is missing, and instead of confronting their spouse and working it out they seek someone else.
  Why that is beats the hell outta me!

QUESTION:
Why do Married Women Cheat ?
By going to Vegas and Clubs using there husbands Credit Cards

• ANSWER:
  Same reason married men do. They do not love their spouse.

QUESTION:
Why do women cheat? Married, long relationships, newly married, etc...?
We know why guys do it but, why do women do it?

And don't abstain from answering if you have done it.
Good answers guys, keeping coming!
Dang...after all we're not that different. 'Women equate sex with love'?....that's a damn good truth.

Anyone else? Ladies? Stories, perhaps?

• ANSWER:
  I think the reasons are pretty much the same. The only difference is that many women equate sex with love, while many (not all) men don't.

  I think that a lot of women feel neglected in their relationships, and they are looking for a partnership that they are missing right now.

QUESTION:
why do married men cheat with prostitutes but married women never cheat with male prostitutes?

• ANSWER:
  A women does not have to call a prostitute she can get one for free.

QUESTION:
why do married women wanna cheat on good husbands and vice versa.?

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
why married women do this?
why do married women cheat with us younger guys we dont want them for life but will use them till we get back with our girlfriends we only do them out of pity i did this .42 year old tramp just for fun while i was a missionary she was easy
she was .42 i was just.18 she was to easy and had.4 kids and married she was real easy
her idea to do it not mine i did her right in her home while.every.one.was away
her man is a minister

• ANSWER:
  matt why don't you grow up and leave older women alone ok or i see your mom again pal seems that joann may knows you pal you are a sick person i would not call you a man oh ask your mom about what you shared with us all

QUESTION:
Why does it seem so many married women cheat with their personal trainers?
Is it a self-esteem thing, a body transformation thing, a sweaty heat thing?

• ANSWER:
  because personal trainers see them as someone whom they can easily change into a beauty and respect them as women..
  husbands see them as fat, old women with full of "kitchen oil" smell even perfume can't help..(it's like the old faulty used car with petrol smell all over) while others women are beautiful, sexy and even their sweat smell great (brand-new sports cars...even the seats smell great....real leather)
  sometimes words from husbands can be so hurtful that it make one feel totally lost of attractiveness ..
  husband telling his wife that she is old, fat, ugly and no more attractive is equal to wife telling her husband he is impotence and better see a doctor..these words hurt equally bad.

QUESTION:
Why do all married women cheat?

• ANSWER:
  Division by zero.

  Your question does not have an answer because the conditions do not exist. Not all women cheat.

  Had you asked why some women cheat, then I could answer the question. But as phrased, the best I can offer is division by zero or undefined answer.

QUESTION:
do married women cheat and why?

• ANSWER:
  same reason married men cheat. cowardly idiots.

QUESTION:
Why do women cheat with married men and don't care that he has kids as well?
These women go after married men who clearly and mostly don't want them, and they guy repeadily tells the woman he loves his wife. Why do women have no compassion, don't they realize it doesn't just hurt the husband's wife but it ruins the lives of the children he has psychologically. i know from experience when my dad hurt my mom, and the woman he cheated with wreaked my home causing them to divorce and once the woman had my dad and my parents were divorced she dumped him and my mom was then forced to fend for me, my infant sister and herself, not to mention I had problems in school and had to go to numerous counseling sessions with a therapist. My best friend also went through the same thing. Why do these women hurt the home, marriage I thought was sacred, what's the point of getting married if you just get hurt.

• ANSWER:
  There is a lot that goes into cheating. There are two kinds of guys when he gets unhappy at home. The ones who cheat because they like it, and then the ones who wished or want to find someone to take care of what their wives are not doing for them, and so many women operate under the idea that they are do everything their man needs, but so many have so many hang ups it would make someone outside the fishbowl wonder how the marriage stays together. Often when you are in the marriage, you can take a blind eye to so much. Take stuff for granted or assume they can get over it or ignore something. When it comes to a guy's sexual needs, it can be quite a job at times to really blow their minds.

  Of course there are many women who are lonely, and they are attracted to guys who all ready have it all. They look like successful men who have their acts together, are confident, and in lieu of all the crappy men in the single scene who only want a hobby than a partner, that after some time many women in the single scene give up on what seems available. Biologically they attracted to the bad boy who mistreats them, not attracted to the dopey good guy who seems like the bore of the century, so what's left, your husband. And to make it worse, I think they get into these things unconsciously. They know they are married, know they should not mess with it, but once you start to like someone, if they seem interesting, things will lead somewhere married or not. Kids and the wifey take a back seat then, even with the best of intentions.

  The only time this stuff makes sense is when you are the jilted one, who sees the carnage such as yourself.

QUESTION:
Why do married men and women feel they need to cheat on their partners? ?
I wonder if these men and women cheat because they have a vanity complex? Or is it because they need constant attention from the opposite sex? Also what makes them end their affairs?

• ANSWER:
  Good Question!
  A survey has actually been done about such a subject and surprising about 85% of people stated they have cheated not due to sex or the like, but the unemotional responses their spouses give them. No words of encouragement or loving gestures - that their spouses are giving them the cold shoulder. When someone else begins to show them interest and listens to them, it's something they need and crave.

  Honestly, wouldn't you want attention and gestures from your spouse and/or loved one? I think what makes them end the affairs is guilt because no matter what, they still love their spouse.

  I will say this: I'm not saying other people don't cheat due to sex or just that they have the roving eyes. There are many out there that do too.

QUESTION:
Why do married men usually cheat with much younger women?
I'm seeing an older married man he's 20 years my senior. Why do men usually in their 30's 40's and 50's prefer to cheat with younger women?

• ANSWER:
  The same reason married women usually cheat with much younger men. People want to hook up with attractive people.

QUESTION:
why do married women always blame the other women when their husband cheat?
i read other posters saying they want to kick the other women butt. calling them a home wrecker. Calling the other women telling them to stay away from their husband.
they never seem to blame their husband. and always take the husband back.
If my husband cheated on me; i would be happy to kick his butt out.

• ANSWER:
  THANK YOU!! Is she a slut? yes. Is she a whore? yes. Is she a prostitute? Yes! Is she a homewrecker? NO! she's not the one who's married, he is! women can be cowards! instead of blaming the right person, they blame the third person! who violated the vows? He did.

  My own experience: I dated a married man but never knew he was married, his wife attacked me saying it was MY fault that he was unfaithful and i seduced HIM!! Why didn't she confront her husband? why me? ESPECIALLY her knowing that i didn't know and when i knew broke everything off!

  Some women are just cowards man!

QUESTION:
Why Do older Mature married Woman cheat on there Husbands for younger guys ?
Why do Mature Older Woman cheat on there Husbands for Younger men ?

I only ask this since im 20 and iv got acouple of mates and they have all hooked up with married woman that have husbands ? Why do Married woman feel they need to do this ? Do you get Fed up with your Husband and just want some fun

• ANSWER:
  Because they do not have GOD in their lives.

QUESTION:
Why do married men & women cheat? What is it that they makes them look for sex outside their homes?

• ANSWER:
  Boredom from the relations with the same partner. Man is basically a heterosexual animal.

QUESTION:
why do married women still cheat and date younger guys or just sleep around with different guys behind their
husbands back?

• ANSWER:
  They obviously are not happy with their relationship or they have a sexual promiscuity problem. Not all wives cheat, of course. I never did.

QUESTION:
Why do married women who cheat make the best lovers?

• ANSWER:
  Because they wanted to make the most of their new lovers and enjoy every bit of the moment they share!

  What is the importance of their cheating if they don't enjoy and make the most of it?

QUESTION:
Why do some married women cheat?
honest answers please.

• ANSWER:
  Why do men cheat? It goes both ways. They cheat because they are too frikin chicken to just tell their partner that it is over or they can't seem to keep their legs closed.

QUESTION:
Why do married men and women cheat?
I have noticed that married men who have beautiful and skinny wives, cheat with heavy women. I have notice men who are married to heavy women, cheat with skinny women.
I noticed the same thing for women who marry heavy or skinny men.
Are married couples just looking for variety when they cheat or is it something else?

• ANSWER:
  It's the excitement of sex with a stranger. There is no history with a stranger.......no arguements or disagreements. Just a couple of hours of great sex.

QUESTION:
why is it women always presume that it is just married men that cheat?
just as many many married women cheat today as men, or is that because its not classed as cheating when women do it.

• ANSWER:
  well I'm not a woman that shares those thoughts since until this marriage i always cheated so women do cheat and usually as much as men men just are not as suspecting and women do not get caught as much

QUESTION:
Why are married women flirting with me?
it's not that they're women but that they're married. do i seem desperate or something that i'd have 3some with their husband or are most women bi or i've just met some weird people? it's more than innocent straight girl flirting.

• ANSWER:
  lol..think where in the same boat..wats your yahoo messenger?..this lady who is married also has been flirting with me...don't know why

QUESTION:
I am a married woman, and i am flirting with women in chatrooms , is that cheating ?
I am also bi and my husband knows , well he does not know I am flirting with a girl. She is also married . Am I cheating ?I love my husband and I don't want to hurt him , should I tell him ?

• ANSWER:
  Cheating is defined by you and your husband. If he's ok with it, then it's up to do you two and not really the business of any of us here on the Internet.

  Enjoy.

QUESTION:
why at work is this married women flirting with me?
it's really weird she smiles and approaches me all the time and makes physical contact by touching my arm etc despite it not being appropriate
she makes conversation with me with a big grin on face i quite like her but she is married what should i do
follow her lead or be moral and say no way

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
How often do married women flirt?
I am 21 and I always notice my 29 year old professor flirting with me after everyone leaves. But she is married. So do many married women do this?

• ANSWER:
  Quite a few will flirt, many fewer will act on it,.......thankfully

QUESTION:
Why do married women flirt with men at work or bosses so they can get what they want?
I have never really seen a prompt on time female. And according to statistics, women call into work 2 times more than men and always run late. Among other things, get more vacation or excused days off.
I am not a sexist , I BELIEVE IN FAIRNESS among the sex.

• ANSWER:
  yeah:)

  women flirt because they know they have sexy beautiful parts, and we're naturally hot...so we want to see if we can attract attention for our personality, and if we do it makes our day. We don't flirt to get what we want, we're already getting that.

QUESTION:
Is a married woman flirting with another woman or being friendly?
My friend and I understand each other. We get each other's jokes or even finish our sentences. But, the thing is she's married and I'm bi. She doesn't know that I am attracted to her. She sometimes stares at me and when I stare at her for 1-2 sec, she holds her eye contact until I look away. She sometime winks at me. This makes me more attracted to her, but I wonder why she is doing this?

• ANSWER:
  She knows you're bi, and she wants you to find her attractive, that's all...maybe she flirts with men too, some people are just flirty...
  Honestly, no matter what her reason, don't pursue this at all because a) she's married; pursuing marrieds never ends well, and b) she's your friend, and pursuing this very likely would change your friendship forever, possibly ruining it...there are plenty of singles out there, stick to them...

QUESTION:
How do you tell if a married women who flirts with you is merely flirting innocently or does so for a reason?
in other words, is there a reliable way to tell if she's interested in more?

• ANSWER:
  I think if a married woman is flirting with you, it is usually for a reason and i believe the reason is her own lack of self esteem and security.... Woman and men i believe need to know that they can draw someones attention.......And the attention is all it usually takes to satisfy them.......And know that if she is married and flirting with you...........she would do that same thing to you............

QUESTION:
Why do married men get a lot of attention from young women ?
it seems that once a man is married single women are suddenly more interested in him.

i have seen many guys who didnt get much attention from women but once married women flirted with them much more and gave them sexual attention.

what can be the reason?
im not generalizing and saying ALL women do that but generally a lot of them do.

• ANSWER:
  Nine times out of ten, if you're a married guy, then it shows to the world that
  1) Your d*kk works
  2)Your private personality is tolerable
  3) You make at least some amount of money

  Marriage is like the most honest form of social proof.

QUESTION:
How do I deal with a married woman flirting with me?
Engaging in extramarital activities like that does not interest me the least. We share a workspace though, so encounters are unavoidable.

• ANSWER:
  Maybe they aren't looking for extramarital activities, some married women just want to feel attractive and that's why they flirt. If you're not interested just politely mention that you have a girlfriend and would prefer to keep your friendship with them on a professional basis.

QUESTION:
why do married men get a lot of attention from young women ?
it seems that once a man is married single women are suddenly more interested in him.

i have seen many guys who didnt get much attention from women but once married women flirted with them much more and gave them sexual attention.

what can be the reason?
im not generalizing and saying ALL women do that but generally a lot of them do.

• ANSWER:
  As a guy, that's happened to me before. I have never accepted because I love my wife and would never cheat, but have been offered more than once to "hang out somewhere else"

  I think part of it is that people want what they can't have. Plus I think when you are with someone you are not looking to impress any women. I am a "nice guy" so I often ask how people are doing and have great conversations with both men and women. I am confident and smile alot and I make good money. I guess for younger women, all those things are very attractive...I don't know?

  I would interested to hear what other women say about this.

QUESTION:
flirting with married women?
isit a good thing to flirt with married women to see if they will take the bait?

• ANSWER:
  That depends on the bait!

QUESTION:
Why do married men flirt with single women?
I mean "some" married men, and I know some even flirt with married women, but I'm asking cause I'm single.
Do they think the girl is easy or that they can get away with it and stuff?

• ANSWER:
  they still need validation from other women other than their wives.

  married men who do this are typically chronic cheaters, meaning that one woman will ever be able to give them enough. they will continue to have relationships with multiple partners their entire lives.

  a married man who cheats is very insecure and needs validation.

QUESTION:
What compels some women to flirt with the playa/lady's man, if he's flirting with every woman & married/commit?

• ANSWER:
  Because if she "wins" his attentions she is automatically bumped up to the top of the pack and becomes alpha female by being the woman on his arm.

  It's all about status and image and has nothing to do with the people underneath (which, incidentally, is why the relationships are so unfulfilling).

QUESTION:
Flirting with Married women.. PLZ help?
Okay,, let me get to it..

I've known this lady for about 5 years. She is married(kind of) Her husband is been away out of the country for about 6 years now..
We are kind of close friendship wise. She will talk dirty and pulling her skirt up just to tease me. I made a move on her about a year ago but she turned me down... I have not make any move from her ever since.
She will call me after work to come over and hang out with her at her house just us alone for sometimes 4 to 5 hours. She like to talk about sex and teasing me for being young and stuff. I don't know if she is playing hard to get or she just want to tease me and never gets any closer..

Any idea.
PS; I'm 24 and she is 30

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
do married women flirt with other women?
or is it all in my head, i'm convinced this woman is flirting with me but she's married.

• ANSWER:
  women tend to just flirt.
  it is fun.
  it doesnt mean they are actually interested in 'having' the person with whom they flirt.
  Whether the woman is gay, straight or bi, and whether the person is a man or a woman......

  they simply flirt.

QUESTION:
Married women and flirting?
Im a young buck, 24 to be exact, and I work for a labor company however I do make rare small inquiries pertaining to my job within the main offices of our business at various times throughout the day. During these inquiries i engage in conversations with office personell, most of which whom are married women. Not to sound like im full of myself or conceited but Im starting to feel uncombfortable every trip I make because I always notice the ladies staring at me or glancing at me out of the corners of there eyes where even sometimes they lean over excesivley exposing there breasts or bend over with both handz on there ass to pick somthing up they accidentally dropped like a cliche movie as if i beleived it was even at all an accident,The other day I was talking to this lady that works in financing and I caught her looking directly at my crotch and I just pretended not to notice although she gave me a smirk like shed just been caught for half a second and carried on with the current conversation we were having. And although there have been a number of times this has happened, mainly i think its my fault because our work dress code is formal casual meaning snug fitting slacks/jeans and a dress shirt tucked in I do have a long penis that runs midway down my thigh but i cant necisarrily hide it weather i run it down my left leg or sideways along my left thigh and i think this might be the nature of the problem. this cant just all be in my head. Either way I cant say its sexual harassment because I dont think it is and if it is nobody would beleive me I mean im a man for sakes! Even if it was everyone in the office would think I was a jerk for saying somthing like that and I have to work with these ladies. What can I do to solve the problem?

• ANSWER:
  .....and then he awoke from his dream.........

QUESTION:
Do married women flirt with much younger guys and mean it?
To start off with, I am NOT even thinking of getting a married woman to run off and have an affair with me, I just was wondering if this lady digged me or not. I think that it would be pretty cool to have a 43 yo lady hitting on me, since I am only 24. To start off, I have flirted with her a bit, just for the heck of it. Do married women flirt with college guys, and mean it. Or is she just playing with my head on this. One other thing, her husband is like 65 yo, and he has money, a lot of it, and she is like his 3rd wife. I was just wonder the above question. Like I said, I will NOT be an adulturer here. I was just wondering for my own ego. I do not think that flirting is wrong in this matter, but I figure that she would ignore me if I was flirting, and not play along with me on it.

• ANSWER:
  lol....yeah she probably thinks ur cute and wants to see if she still has it, so to speak. Its good ur not thinking of her seriously, 'cause I doubt she is of u. She probably thinks ur cute, but that's it.

QUESTION:
Why do c0nservatard men flirt with married women?
So much for supporting family values, eh c0nservapubes?

• ANSWER:
  Fail.

QUESTION:
Why do the all the women I flirt with turn out to be married or have a boyfriend?
I can't seem to meet any single women that I find attractive and approachable. Is it because married women are easier to talk to and more confident? Is it because I'm subconsciously scarced of available women. Or is it because all the good women get taken fast and I'm not interested in whats left?

• ANSWER:
  Join the club. That's the story of my life too. You didn't state your age but I suggest you suck it up and try online dating. It is not looked down upon like it used to be and it's really the simplest way to meet single women. At least with online dating you know they are most often single (but not always). It will at least save you the disappointment of finding someone you connect with only to find out her husband likes the same stuff to.

QUESTION:
To all married women. My wife and I have been going at it for years about flirting.?
I have gotten caught text flirting a few times over the years with other women. NO CHEATING. I try to txt flirt or just flirt period with my wife and she just dont want to do it. She wont even try it. She says its because of the flirting with other women. BUT if I cant flirt with MY WIFE then what should I do? I ask her all the time what can I do for her to get her in the mood. She has told me that there is nothing I can do to get her in the mood for sex. I'm trying my BEST!!!! Its only when I get soooo frustrated that I would randomly flirt with someone else. WE ARE MARRIED. That means we have committed to each other that we will be together for life!!! I would do ANYTHING to make this work. I have vowed to stop flirting with other women. Thats a promise to her and God. Im done. Im not asking her to be nasty or nothing like that. I just want her to make me feel like Im wanted sexually. She makes my feel like the perfect husband and father, but i dont feel like a good lover. Somebody please help me!!!! She knows what I want, why cant she do it? Im not blaming her. I messed up.

• ANSWER:
  You are cheating mentally -- your wife is the one you are supposed to be texting an flirting with, not other women. If you need other women to *make* you feel wanted sexually, that's a HUGE RED FLAG that there is something WRONG with you or your current relationship. Period.

  BTW no one *makes* you feel one way or the other, you CHOOSE to feel that way.

QUESTION:
This married woman keeps flirting with me right in front of her husband?
He is starting to look more and more angry at me each time she does it eventhough its not my fault. What should I do before this guy attacks me?

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
What Are The Consequences of Flirting With a Married Women??
Yes Brianna Iam talking about you LOl

• ANSWER:
  LOL! Nice question!

QUESTION:
Should I ask the married women I flirt with if they have big husbands?
Or if they have any martial arts training?

• ANSWER:
  What's the fun in that? I'd just worry about the married ones that you are sleeping with.

QUESTION:
Is it true that babies and puppies are like magnets that make women flirt with u? married women included?
theres this lady who Id love to get with but shes married, my youngest is a real cutie and all the women go crazy over her so i thought that might be worth a shot, shes 3 though not a baby but she doesnt mind people fussing over her.im divorced by the way so Im free to get with whom I please

• ANSWER:
  It depends on the type of woman you want to attract. I like guys involved with theatre and those who likes cats. I would be too distracted with the kitten to flirt with the guy...

  My husband likes cats, but isn't interested in theatre. He also treats his mother with great respect and that is what I looked for.

  Babies and Puppies wouldn't attract me. But if I see a man with a child or a puppy, it tells me he may want to have a family and could possibly be a man of commitment.

QUESTION:
Is there any harm in a married man flirting w/ a single woman no matter the womans age?
Or the oppsite married woman flirting with a single guy no matter the age!

I'm trying to prove a point, to a close friend!

• ANSWER:
  If there's no touching, it's not cheating but you have to take people's feelings into consideration -- as long as both parties know it's flirting and will never go any farther, then it can be fun and an ego boost but if one person has hopes of taking things farther then there is a real problem.

QUESTION:
Help with this married woman flirting thing! HELP!?
I am 26 and this married woman who is 38ys (her husband is in his 60's) seems to be flirting with me. Shes a very attractive woman, and I didnt realize she was married when I first started flirting and hitting on her. I know married women can by flirty, but its usually flirty in general, not usually directed at a certain person! Could she want something more? Ego Booster? I mean, if I was married and I had some chick hitting on me that I didnt want to possibly be with, then I'd prolly shut that person out completely, and not keep inviting attention. Also, if I was a flirty married man, I wouldnt think it'd necessarly be an issue to be openly flirty to everyone, but I would prolly see it as potentially offensive to select one female to constantly flirt with, Opinions?

• ANSWER:
  She most likely hasn't been pounded like meat at a butcher shop for the last 5 years and is looking for you to do the deed.

  Ask her is she wants to get stuffed like a turkey and see what her reply is.

QUESTION:
What do you feel about married women who flirt and talk to other guys about having sex with them?
Are they simply having fun or are they tramps?

• ANSWER:
  They have no respect for themselves or their husbands.

QUESTION:
Do married women flirt alot and is it wrong or is it just to make the work day go by faster?
I have seen and heard that alot of married women flirt although they don't actually cheat. When I say flirting I mean talking dirty with co-workers, possible touching, and possible kissing. Through my experience I know that men do this but I have also seen women do it although they are reluctant to have sex or follow through with the "work fun". Is this wrong or is it just good clean fun? Is it wrong to talk dirty in the break room and then go home to the hubby like nothing has happened????

• ANSWER:
  Yes! It is absolutely wrong! By flirting with anyone besides your husband, you are showing a lack of respect for him! This tells other people that you don't respect your husband enough to keep those thoughts for only him! This could lead a man on and even lead to rape, which would be that woman's fault in that instance. Then to go home to your husband and act like nothing happened... that is keeping a secret from the one person in the world that you should have no secrets from. Unfortunately, in today's world women are made to feel that if they don't act this way that they will be outcasted. In certain situations, like a bad economy the outcast will be the first to go. But she should still at least tell her husband and begin looking for other types of employment.... As far as touching and kissing... that is not flirting... that is cheating! That breaks your marriage vow. What is going on in the world?

QUESTION:
Do married women flirt with or fantasize about younger men?
I'm a good looking 21 year old guy and ended up conversing with this really pretty mom at the mall last night. She had her kid in the stroller but we walked through the store together talking about clothes, her kid, but then she really got touchy after I told her I was a nanny.

I left the store and that was it...for obvious reasons i wouldn't have taken it any further but I couldn't get over the fact this 36 year old woman with a kid was laughing, talking, and totally flirting with me.

Was this just some rare case or do a lot of older, married women with children enjoy interacting with college guys?

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QUESTION:
Why do married women flirt with me?
Now mind you I'm not complaining. LOL. I enjoy the flirting. But I find that the only types of women who flirt with me are married or in serious, committed relationships where they live with their boyfriend. I am wondering if there's something about me that draws me to them. I'm single, in my 30s, an average looking guy who's a bit overweight. Are they looking to cheat or just for attention? And why me, when there are plenty of men in better shape than me, and who look more like Brad Pitt than I do? Do they assume that the Brad Pitt types wouldn't want anything to do with them because they're married?

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QUESTION:
Is it okay to flirt with married women??
I work with a lot of attractive girls, married and single and they all like me and flirt all the time. Should I stop flirting in case it can go further ??

• ANSWER:
  There are two kinds of married women happily married , those ones you can flirt all you want with and get no where , unhappily married you can flirt and if you aren't the one the next flirt guy that comes along will be the one......

QUESTION:
Why do so many married women flirt at work?
I know men flirt too, but it seems to be an epidemic with women. One guy I used to work with told me that when it happens to him he handles it by starting to talk about thier husbands. I tried it and it works!

• ANSWER:
  awww. i think its very respectable that you handle it that way.
  i dont do it, but i guess women just want to feel like men are still attracted to them even tho they are married. some hubbys forget to tell them that they are pretty...

QUESTION:
What is crossing the line for a married man who is flirting with a married woman?
What do you think about a married man who is flirting with another married woman at work? What behavior is crossing the line? Is any touching acceptable like sqeezing your arm or knee, sitting so close to you at lunch u touch, "accidentally" touching your hand when he is pasing something to you. Are these all harmless or do you think they are intentional and that he is getting something out of it?
very admirable to not play mrdanno. Should be more like you!

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  oh plz..dont fool urself..u know he's doing it purposfully ..DONT ENCOURAGE HIM

QUESTION:
Why do married women flirt?
I can't walk into a Starbucks without a married woman gawking or fake looking-away. Sometimes they even have their babies with them. Also, married co-workers seem to flirt more than single women.

Are they aware of how pathetic and lonely they come off?

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  Marriage doesn't mean "commitment" to most people today. People are always looking for something better. The thing is, there is always someone that appears to be better and married people get caught up in that. One can be happy with whoever they are with by working together in a relationship. If married people flirt, then they should not be married in the first place. They obviously don't understand the vows they made upon marriage.

  Also, I have to agree that some people just want to see if they still "have it" by seeing what kind of reaction they get from the person they are flirting with. However, it's wrong to do this because if someoene is married, they shouldn't be flirting at all.

  This is the reason I'll never marry. It seems that everytime I am with someone they are always looking for someone else, always flirting, etc. Yet, they want me to be their possession and not do the same thing. Totally unfair!

QUESTION:
WHY DO GUYS FLIRT WITH MARRIED WOMEN?
What is their purpose? How far are they willing or wanting to take it? Don't PPl flirt to get to the next step? If they already know she is married...what's the point?

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  because they like the adventure of the chase and could care less is they are married or not. Actually, they like the idea that the person is already committed to someone else; so it makes the "involvement" with less strings attached!
  they are slime!! LOL

QUESTION:
How to pick signals from a flirting married woman i know?
She is attractive, sexy, married with three kids. I am in a serious relationship, attractive and horny. We clicked the first time we met. She attracts me. A lot. Once we started making regular and prolonged eye contact and talking about noting she brought her husband to introduce him. Later she came and asked about one of my female companion and how were we related? She would come and make deep eye contact with me with 100 watt smiles, sometimes showing pleasure that i am there. When i was absent for a few days she asked my superior where was i. When she sees me she is unable to break the eye contact and theres a smile on her sexy mouth. I want that body. What should i do know if she wants sex and how to proceed. But we are not regular friends but meet occasionaly at my worklace for a few minutes when theres business as usual.

P>S Dont give advise about moral issues. I am not a kid. Now bring on the seduction ideas.

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QUESTION:
Married woman is flirting with me and I like it, so what should I do?
should I keep paying my trophy wife extra "allowance" to keep up her act that she doesn't know me and flirt with me until I give in for wild sex, or should I make up a new play acting game? I've got nothing but time and money.

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  Why don't you ask her??? Same ol', same ol' gets boring...

QUESTION:
Guys dont you just love flirting with women online?
its one of my favourite pasttimes , even married women cant resist me ha

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  No, I Don`t .....................................................

QUESTION:
Married woman flirting with me, what action should I take?
I am in a bit of a fix as I really like a married woman who I thought totaly unavailable.

We work together and have grown really close.

She is always 'hugging me' and 'invading my space' with touches and careses.

It sometimes goes really quiet for a while when we give each other a certain look.

I have known her for two years she has had a child 6 months ago, and ever since the birth of her baby she has been more touchy feely and wanting to spend more time with me.

I am single and really like her, but respect the fact she is married.

Any suggestions ?
Could it be a hormonal response from her after the birth of her child, she has never mentioned anything about not being hapy with being married.

Its difficult to like somebody a lot who is married.
Could she just beflattered by a yonger man showing her interest ?
As for the NILF guy, SEX isnt the issue, its been made obvious that I could sleep with her, but I like her too much just to have a one night stand with her.

It would mess with my emotions too much to sleep with he rmaybe once and then not again.

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  IF you have a relationship with someone that cheats, even if it's cheating to be with you, I promise you, u will always wonder if she's doing it to you, if she's going to the store or to meet another, such and so on. It's great in the beginning, but trust is a major part of a relationship, and she will never truely have your's.
  Plus, how are you going to feel breaking up a family? How you going to feel when that baby (who u will end up helping raise) is told by dad or someone the events of why mom and dad isn't together? You sound like a nice guy who's going to let all this stuff bother him as time goes on, which is a good thing.

QUESTION:
I have found that since I've been married , more women are flirting with me now than when i was single, why ?
more women are interested in me now that I am married than when I was single and ready to mingle. what's the reason behind this backwards phenomenon.

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  The wedding band is a beacon for women. You're off limits so you're seen as a challenge. And they say it's only men who like the chase!

QUESTION:
is this married woman flirting with me?
i work at this school for part time since few weeks back and i noticed a women i had a crush on when i was very young.....she was a teacher working there...at first it was hard for me to believe she was working there...couldn't believe my eyes...ha ha...but she was ignorant to my presence for the first few days but later one fine day i saw her and caught her eye and continued looking at her...she looked at me and away and then again she looked and went away....

the next day as i was in the office she came and talked to the person next to me while she catched my eye again...after some time she came again with some work and i helped her finish it and she said thank u very profusely....the next day i summoned up the courage to talk to her and i did so when she came again to the office and i asked her whether she had a daughter?...i asked this in a questionable kind of way as though i genuinely din know...( although i knew )....she smiled or blushed i din know what she did and she told me she had two daughters and walked off....afterward while she was leaving she glanced at me again and left....and the next day i caught her looking again but she turned away immediately then after some time she came to the office for some work now i grabbed a chance to compliment her....i told her her writing looks very nice she smiled very profusely or even blushed i don know and said thank you she was acting a bit nervous too

please help me on this one....i don know whether she is even remotely interested in me or something.....do explain to me whether she might be even remotely interested in me thanks in advance for ur replies and yes tongue in cheek comments are welcomed

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  Whether she is or isn't is not what is important. What's important is that she is married and you need to stay away~

QUESTION:
Why do married women flirt with married men, vice versa.?
There is this woman at work. I work at a hotel. She made friends with a gentlemen taht is staying here. She called his room to tell him bye and to have a safe trip. When she got off the phone, she said she was about to faint and she was blushing and smiling. I said "But your married!" she goes "He's married too." So i guess my REAL question is why do peoples partners have no regard for their husband/wife and flirt with random people, even sometimes more........if you know what i mean.

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  Marrieds flirting "harmlessly" with marrieds is one thing. A smile, a have a good day..something that makes you feel like "hey..i am still attractive to someone else..I think I'll go home and throw a little love my husband's way" type of flirting is different than:

  SINGLES flirting with marrieds or marrieds flirting with SINGLES is a recipe for heartache.

QUESTION:
please help. how do i know if a married woman is flirting?
i know this woman for almost 3 years, she keeps seeing her former boyfriend, sending him gifts, money and everything. this woman is already married with 3 children? does this woman is faithfull to her husband or what? flirt?

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  Well if she wants to do this - she can but she can also accept the consequences of her actions when the tables are turned
  She is not just flirting but is still trying to be a part of his life and needs to let go for his sake and also hers and her husband and family

QUESTION:
Why do married women flirt with men, especially at work?
I work around a lot of women, and a few of them flirt with me. Though, I feel flattered, deep down I feel frustrated, and confused, because, for one, these women are already attached, or married. Second, if I try to hit on them, they seem to back away a lot. I try to avoid them, but it doesn't work, because, they're sexually attractive to me, and I see them every day at work. Besides, if I try to avoid them, they act offensive. Are they using me for something they can't find in their relationships? Why do these type of women flirt with me? You're answer is much appreciated!

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  Flirting is natural. Some women just do it for attention. Getting attention from another man might show that they're still attractive. Others are out for bad things. Some women might flirt looking for an affair...and if you feel thats what they're doing stay away from them. But in general, most just flirt because its natural...its like high school kind of, how the girls flirt with guys to get attention, even if they might to be interested or have another boyfriend.

QUESTION:
how can single people compete with married people?
If you are single and working in a office where married women flirt with the few single men available, how do you handle that? be jealous? ignore them? there is one married woman who is flirting with a guy I like and he seems to be more interested in her than me. He talks to me too but stops when other women is around. We are all the same age.

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  I don't see any competition in that situation. Any single guy who would be interested in married chicks, isn't someone I'd want to waste my time with anyway.

  Find dudes outside of work...don't screw the crew, so to speak.

QUESTION:
Is it okay to flirt with married women as a married man when your wife gives you no sexual attention?

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  Sometimes flirting isnt harmful, but sometimes it can lead to something harmful. And I think if your wife isnt showing you any sexual attention & you're not happy about where your relationship has gone and what it has become, you should address it to her. Cause you guys are only living on a lie or hanging on to something of what used to be.

  Maybe then ...u wouldnt have to be flirting with another married woman. You guys are both married, dont you remember your vows?

QUESTION:
A confession and fetish all rolled into one about married women?
I like to talk to women, i like to flirt with women. And for some reason, I get most turned on when talking to and flirting with a married woman.

Don't get me wrong, i have no intention of doing anything in real life with them... but it's a huge turn on to me knowing that a married woman is attracted to the thought of flirting with another man for whatever reason they may have. I can't seem to get enough of it. I like making a woman feel good when they may not be feeling their best from their husbands. It's wrong... i know.. but i don't care.

Any thoughts? or things similar?

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QUESTION:
How to stop loving a married woman,she is flirting a lot ony work place?
There is a rumor of 2 of my coworkers already had sex with she and also I saw the way she treat some guys , I'm her boss

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  Being her "boss", I would have a talk with her. Let her know you've heard some not too desirable talk being said regarding her behavior with some of the male coworkers. You like to pride yourself on running a "respectable department" & this could reflect back on you. I would inform her you're giving her a warning this time, & trust you don't hear of anything further going on in the future regarding this situation. If you don't stop it now, it's going to keep repeating itself. You don't have to say it in an accusing way, just state it as "factual". This should put an end to it all. Let her know it is interfering with the workplace moral which you do not need...best to you...:)

QUESTION:
Why are most women attracted to married men?
I’m a 24 year old single guy and it doesn’t seem like girls are attracted to me. I get a lot of compliments from people that I’m good looking, so I know I can’t be THAT ugly. But I’ve never dated mainly because girls don’t seem to be interested. However, it happens a lot where I see women flirt with my dad. And my dad and my mom get annoyed because they’re happily married, but women are trying to flirt with him. I was asking my dad why women are so crazy about him. He said, he was in the same position as me when he was young. When he was single, he had an EXTREMELY hard time finding a woman interested in him. But now that he’s married, women are suddenly going for him. He told me to watch out…..when I eventually meet a woman and get married, woman will start flirting with me.

So what is it about married men that women find attractive? And what is it about single men that most women don’t find attractive?

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  I think those women want what they can't have and that is what draws them to married men. And I applaud your dad for staying faithful to your mother. He must be a good man. Most men betray thier wives for those lonely bimbos who flirt with married men.

QUESTION:
My pastor is continueally flirting with single and married women, brought it to his attn nicely guess what??
Seems to me that a leader should respond positively to observations given in love, is there another way, he seems to think this is OK behavior. I know some women who do not like it but were afraid to speak up, being male I thought he might understand more but no.

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  Just because he's a pastor doesn't mean that that's where God wants him. There are any number of people in ministry who seem to treat their position as more of a job than as a call from God for their lives. If they're treating their position as just a paycheck and not as a divine appointment, this kind of think is all too possible. Of course, if God HAS called your pastor to in fact be a pastor, he'd better make sure he gets his focus back on God--or else all hell will break loose. Congregational discipline is definitely in order, as Jason M. said above.

  I've written an article about problems pastors encounter and pondering whether we're praying for our pastors, as we are Scripturally commanded to do. Check out the article at the first link below.

QUESTION:
I am married, looking for an 1BHK acco, in and around Bangali square, my budget is 4k all inclusive, cn I get?
I am a bangali brahmin, Jayanta Roychowdhury, Recently posted at Indore. I do work for Reliance, BIG AIMS. I am looking for a decent rented accomodation in and around Bangali Chowraha. My budget is 4000 to 4500k.

• ANSWER:
  It would be a good idea to ask the locals, may local merchants or business owners. Basically, someone who knows the area. Good luck.

QUESTION:
How do I meet some single ppl for a friend. Happily married looking for a single gal?
I have a coworker that wants to meet single ppl but sence he does what he does...he has a hard time finding a nice gal...he asked me if I had any friends....unfortunately I do not. I am a married women and really have no time for friends...how to I point in the right direction of good, nice, single women?? between the ages of 25-30

• ANSWER:
  well church i guess since u r lookign for nice single women if not tell him to hit the clubs after work or something trust me after coupel of shots he'll be a pimp

  answer mine please
  http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnzFLgqGwZfgtNW7yhFjXHHsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080908121843AAEerYQ

QUESTION:
Best friend getting married- looking for a strip club or gentlemen's club featuring natural girls in LA area?
I need to plan a date before November. Need to find a place featuring NATURALs only or a place that has a set natural night during the week. NO silicone or fake breasts.

• ANSWER:
  Miss Kitties in El Monte or Sprear mint Rhino in City of Industry....Rhino does have lie 2 girls with fake though the rest natural. Miss Kitties Is best all natural my BF told me

  Miss Kitty's Topless ent.
  13079 Valley Blvd
  City of Industry, CA 91746-1868
  (626) 336-1453

  Strip Joint Advanced
  1405 E Mission Blvd, Pomona - (909) 865-8989
  (man there ALL natural and BEST PRICES TOO)

  SPEARMINT RHINO GENTLEMEN'S CLUB. ADDRESS: 15411 E. Valley Blvd. City of Industry, CA 91746. PHONE: 626-336-6892

  BEST ONE's but it's in Ontario and Montclair Been there all NATURAL

  Eyefull Adult Entertainment 1 0 5282 W Mission Blvd, Ontario, CA 91762

  Synn Gentlemen's Club ... 4711 Mission Blvd, Montclair, CA (909) 628-6764

QUESTION:
24 married looking for best way to start retirement plan?
I really don't have any idea where to begin my company dosen't provide any benifites

• ANSWER:
  you should look into either a traditional (pre-tax) or roth ira.(after tax). both have annual limits but if you start now you have plenty of years ahead for your investments to grow. one company that offers a wide variety of options is fidelity.com. congratulations on starting this early in life.

QUESTION:
Two wildlife biologists getting married, looking for unique awesome gift for them. HELP?
So my really good friend is marrying another wildlife biologist. They love nature, the outdoors, hunting, reading and love cooking. I want to find them a unique gift they can both use that they would never think to get themselves or ask for. 10 points! I want it to be a gift that really shows how much I care about them, which is a lot, and that is also shows some thought and thinking outside the box.

• ANSWER:
  -Birdhouses & Birdseed
  -A donation to the World Wildlife Foundation
  -Camping supplies
  -Binoculars and a bird book
  -A tree to plant
  -A telescope (not Biology related, but it seems like they'd still like it!)
  -A sundial for their garden
  -A wildlife painting
  -A small pond (bin) along with lilypads, or a gift certificate to a pond store.
  -Hunting gear
  -Fishing gear

  Edit: To Ashley L, you can love nature and hunt at the same time. You can eat the animal and respect it. I love animals, and yet I killed a chick the other day for one of my labs. Not every nature lover is a PETA vegan person.

QUESTION:
Married looking for some fun... How do you start that conversation?
Hi... So my husband and I are wanting to "adventure" out some... However he wants ME to be the searcher and find her. How in the world do you do that? We've been together for 12 yrs, we're very happy and very sexual! But we both like women... So what would be the best way to approach someone you're interested in? Any and all idea's and advice would really help me out!

• ANSWER:
  Hey,

  You sound GRREAT!

  I'd say start by finding someone for you. That is the key. Find a girl you like and are comfortable with just make sure she is bi too and not gay.

  After you two have a relationship going bring out the idea of each of you making your guy's FMF dreams come true.

  You can bring her home for you and him. Then one night you can go home with her and do a favor for her making her husband's dream come true.

  And don't forget...each of you might get to invite both hubby's for a special night for you.

  Sound like a plan?

  BC

QUESTION:
How can I stop thinking about other women? I'm married. Looking for spiritual advice.?
I've been faithful to my wife for 7 years, but I feel like I wanna find another girl to have some good loving.

I've been told I'm attractive by pretty women and I feel to tempted, I don't wanna lose control, and I wanna stay faithful to my wife.

I am firm believer in Karma.

What does the bible says about cheating or thinking about other women?

• ANSWER:
  Lust is lust. It is normal and biological for a man to think about sex with women.

  However, we are also human beings, with a soul, who can think out the consquences of our actions. You have feelings, you do not act on every feeling.

  You may feel like telling your boss that he is an idiot, but you consider the consequences and control your actions.

  One feels like sleeping all morning on a Thursday, but you think about the consequences and get out of bed and get ready for work anyway.

  One wants to use the credit card to getaway to Maui for the weekend, but you think about the credit card bill and spend Saturday at the lake instead.

  You get the idea, a temptation is not an action. When we feel greedy we don't steal. When we feel angry we don't kill. When we feel lusty we don't act out .

QUESTION:
We r bengali married, looking for decent friend for long term friendship?
We r good looking open minded couple from kolkata age between 36-39, we r in search of very decent bengai genuine married couple with same mindset and attitude, please reply us if you know such friendly couple from kolkata, plz repy

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QUESTION:
Just moved to San Antonio and want to get married, looking for a small 25 person wedding?
We have been looking but have not been able to find a location, caterer, DJ we are in the 78240 area and would sure like some help with this
Prefer indoors, no church but ceromony area same as reception no travel

• ANSWER:
  What kind of location would you like? A Church, outdoor, same as reception?
  Here's a list of sites in the San Antonio area: http://www.sanantonioweddings.com/advertiser_search.asp?phase=1&category=2
  Good luck!

QUESTION:
Can a non dancing good looking married woman become a burlesque dancer?
or is it too provocative for a married woman?

• ANSWER:
  Oh yes I think so.

QUESTION:
planning to get married looking for a cheaper place for reception?
i am in manila philippines, looking for a place for reception that would not cost as much preferebly eat all u can.

• ANSWER:
  try this one:
  http://www.nike338.com
  moons

QUESTION:
Just got married looking to go to Hawaii for a 3 island hopping honeymoon. Which ones should I choose?

• ANSWER:
  Unless you are planning to spend a week on each island, I think 3 is too many. It's your honeymoon, for Pete's sake! Don't spend half your time packing and waiting in line at airports, renting cars, etc. If you have 7-10 days (typical amount of vacation time), pick one island...two at the most. You don't say what you are interested in, so here are some highlights:

  Oahu - lots of dining, shopping, nightlife. Beautiful scenery outside Honolulu; great beaches. 'Iolani Palace, Hanauma Bay, Diamond Head.

  Maui - less urban than most of Oahu but getting busier. Maui Oceanarium is really good! 'Iao Needle, Haleakala, Lahaina Town, Wailea Beach, road to Hana.

  Big Island (Hawaii) - very rural. Even the 'cities' are very small. Volcanoes National Park, Punaluu black sand beach, green sand beach at Ka Lae, Place of Refuge, Cook's monument at Kealakekua Bay.

  Kauai - the Hawaii most people think of when they hear the word "paradise." Dramatic coastline (Na Pali), great beaches, Waimea Canyon (the Grand Canyon of the Pacific), Hanalei.

  Molokai & Lanai - I haven't been to either of these islands but they're very rural and small. No nightlife to speak of, very little shopping and dining. Molokai has Kalaupapa and the mule ride and Lanai is the Pineapple Island, so I'm assuming that pineapples grow rampant and are farmed there. Those two islands sound the most 'honeymoony' to me.

QUESTION:
Getting married and looking for a house on the beach?
I am getting married and I am looking to rent a house in the beach around the Miami–Fort Lauderdale area for ceremony & party after wards. I have around 150 Guests.

Any idea of where I could find this house or something similar ?

• ANSWER:
  Start with a vacation home rental agency. But.....I don't know about having 150 guests in a house! That is like renting an estate! You will have all sorts of problems...from parking to bathrooms, etc.

  If you are having that many guests, I would suggest having your reception at a banquet facility that can handle that many guests....not renting someone's home!

QUESTION:
What do you think of a married man looking for a married couple?
I am looking for a married couple to experience with.
If you are going to be an hypocrite do not reply to my answer.

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QUESTION:
One of my daughter is getting marry and looking for a nice title for my daughter ?
Her best friend is going to be her maid of honor, her other friends is going to be bridesmaids, she wants a nice title for her sister besides those titles, please help us

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QUESTION:
for married bWhat are some placesut looking to find people in the netherlands?
I am married but looking and want to play around with other married chicks, no single chicks, too talky if you know what I mean.

• ANSWER:
  I am very glad that I am not your wife, that is all I can say.

  I do wonder why people get married in the first place if the actual meaning behind the marital vows are not considered valuable in any way, shape or form.

  You see it as "playing" but playing with the sanctity of marriage, the trust & emotional wellbeing of your wife, and the russian roulette of STD's - well, that is not a game in my opinion.

  There are plenty of dating sites around, and some cater for your "wishlist", but please take a step back, look at what is missing in your marriage and try to solve that - rather than taking the 'easy' option (which can be very costly in the long-run)

QUESTION:
Travelling to Las Vegas to get married, looking for ideas?
hi, getting in married in las vegas in 2008, am from ireland and we hope to have around 30 guests travelling over with us, want to get married in a nice traditional chapel, and maybe a reception afterwards, just wondering with only around 30 people travelling over, am i better off just going out for dinner after the ceremony, and any recommendation for venues? Also, any ideas for cool wedding favors for the guests, something different, maybe something with a Las Vegas theme.... Thanks for your help

• ANSWER:
  hi there - congratulations! The site below covers every chapel in Vegas, has images for most of them and lets you search every ceremony by cost and theme/traditional ceremony.

  In terms of your reception, 30 is quite a large number (we've got a similar number going over this month). The same website lets you search every reception venue offering set price menus by cost and cuisine - which helps with your budgeting. We've chosen Mon Ami Gabi, but Voodoo Lounge and Top of the World are also great venues.

  Good luck - and have fun!

QUESTION:
I am getting married - looking for invitation and booklet download that are free - i want to do myself. Thks,
Also, I help finding wedding supply stores in Ft. Lauderdale/Miami that would sell wedding items such as decorations, unity candle, pillow, bridal arch.......disposible dinnerware.....

• ANSWER:
  As far as the downloads, that could work, but it might be just as expensive to do what we did and buy the cardstock paper complete with a designing CD to help wth format, wording, font et. reply cards and everything included. They cost less than .50 cents an invite at target and thye were embossed with silver and looked very classy. That was so easy and it was still very do it yourself as you design EVERYTHING yourself but still have the formatting and wording choices that makes it easier.

  As far as wedding supply stores, just as a suggestion, try to steer away fom them when possible as they are at least twice, sometimes 3 times as expensive. Decorations can be found at craft stores, I found my decorations, wedding arch, unity candle, pillow and flower girl basket at Micheal's. ( a craft store), you can also find some stuff at walmart and target for a lot cheaper. Also, it is worth it for your wedding costs to steer away from "wedding" dinnerwear that will cost you SO much more and go to Sam's or BJ's or another wholesaler and buy maybe your wedding colors or something.

  Do whatever you like but this worked for us and we saved a BUNDLE. Also, I found things like disposable wedding cameras and bubbles online from ebay (most of the time the sellars bought too much for their own wedding, or it wasnt what they were looking for and they were never able to use it and the stuff is brand new. Also, I knew a few people that got their favors off of ebay, we also bought personalized wedding ribbons off that site for half the price of the store prices.

  Good luck.

QUESTION:
Getting Married? Looking to talk to couples for Channel 4 Documentary?
We're looking to talk to couples on the verge of getting married, about their reasons for getting married and their hopes and fears for the future. We want to explore the highs and lows of modern marriages, so be prepared to be honest!
In talking to me there's no commitment to being filmed, it's all just research at this stage.
(UK Only)
please email poppy.dixon@talkbackthames.tv with contact details

• ANSWER:
  Bugger got married last year but would be happy to tell you why if your intrested?

QUESTION:
Newly married couple looking for organization tips for home?
Married in August and the house is a disaster area. We are cleaning it up tomorrow and wanted to know if there are any hints and tips to help us either with the cleaning or with keeping things clean

• ANSWER:
  Well, I will tell you what my Grandmother told my Mother and my Mother told me and that is; if you get it out, put it back. When you cook, clean as you go. If you take the flour out, use it and put it back same with all other ingredients. Clean pots and pans as you use them and then when the meal is done all you have to clean are the dishes. Make the bed as soon as you get up. Clean the bathroom sink, mirror and toilet on a daily basis and then once a week do the floor and tub. If you don't pick up and clean up on a daily basis then it gets out of hand and becomes a really big job that takes all day. When you keep up with it on a daily basis it only takes minutes a day. Organize your kitchen so things are easy to get to and easy to put away. Same with bathroom. Get into the habit of having a place for everything and then make sure you use it. Hang up coats and clothes when you come home. If you don't have a closet for coats then buy a clothes tree and put it by the front door. Just do things daily.

QUESTION:
What the best way to find Married Women looking for fun?
I want to cheat on my wife and find married women who cheat. I have never done this before so I want to know the easiest way.

• ANSWER:
  Go to hell, man w*ore!

QUESTION:
Help. I want to get married but looking for a beautiful intimate place around Western New York. ?
We are getting married and want a nice outdoor scenic place to have the ceremony with just about 20 other people. We don't want Niagara Falls, so any other ideas would be great. Thanks!

• ANSWER:
  Knox Estate in East Aurora, The Roycroft in East Aurora, Letchworth State Park in Mt. Morris, Ft. Niagara in Youngstown.

QUESTION:
Advice for married couple looking to join the Air Force as Officers?
I have a financial management degree and my husband has an information technology management degree. Looking to see if we have a good chance of being stationed together in the states, neither one of us really wants to go overseas.

• ANSWER:
  It really varies. But, if you get picked for an overseas assignment you either go or you end your career. It's that simple. I've known folks who spent 30 years and never went overseas. And, I've known others that spent 1/2 their career either in USAFE or PACAF.

  The other thing to note... just because they will talk up the joint spouse program doesn't mean it will always work. Especially in the officer corp, where spots are only 1-2 people deep. We have a couple here who have had a rough 3 years.... both of them officers and well into their careers. They came to England together. Then she did a 6 month deployment. Then they were together. Then he did an 8 month deployment. Then they were together. They just got their stateside assignments... She's going to Scott (Illinois), he's going to McChord (Washington State). So much for joint assignments!

  Be prepared!!

QUESTION:
If you are not married, and looking for a significant other, is it sinly to be lustful?
If lusting for someone outside of marriage is a sin, and you're not married, then how do you get married/is that even a sin?

Help me out here, I'm trying to stay faithful but still find the right person.

• ANSWER:
  This might help.

  But I find that Jesus' words that "if you desire (lust for) a women, - then you've committed adultery", - the kind of reminder that we're all sinners. And in the end, we should focus on that God forgives, - and not focus on ourselves.

QUESTION:
Poll: Are you single, married, looking, not looking, for a BF or GF?
What is your dating status?

• ANSWER:
  Single and looking

QUESTION:
Married couple looking for something fun to do at night around Akron, OH?
Me and my husband live in streetsboro, oh and we are looking for something fun to do tonight. Anywhere near akron, streetsboro, hudson, and kent is great.

• ANSWER:
  Here is a link to some great activities in Akron. I hope this is helpful and I hope you two have a great time.

  http://attractions.uptake.com/ohio/akron/42860200.html

QUESTION:
Married couple looking for a Girl for threesome and ideas where to look?
Yes we live near overland park ks and are looking for a girl for a threesome whose willing to have sex with the both of us but havent had much luck with the dating site as we are not going to pay to find someone on the internet

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QUESTION:
I am a married male looking for a long-term serious relationship. How would I do this safely?
I don't want someone who just sleeps with anyone. I want someone I can be friends with so it doesn't look weird when we spend a lot of time together.

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QUESTION:
I am a married guy looking to have a discreet affair (terrible I know), what are best websites for this?
I have tried Adult Friendfinder (a bit too nasty for me) and Ashley Madison (ok but a bit limited) but I have heard that some normal dating websites or other types of online dating programs have some people looking for that type of thing? anyone with experience in this area have any thing to share? Don't just tell me not to have an affair, save the moral BS. thanks!

• ANSWER:
  TRY DATEHOOKUP.COM...OKCUPID.COM...PLENTYOFFISH.COM THESE HAVE LINKS FOR MARRIED MEN AND WOMEN. JUST BE CAREFUL. REMEMBER WHAT HAPPENED ON CRAIGSLIST

QUESTION:
I am getting married and looking for engraved bracelets as presents?
Does anybody know where I can get engraved silver bracelets from? I have looked into argos and they don't seem to do them, I need :

1 male adult
1 female adult
1 female child of 6
1 female child of 1

• ANSWER:
  www.evesaddiction.com

QUESTION:
How do you say "MARRIED BUT LOOKING" in a language other than English (please state which language)?
It's not for a personal ad! I have a book title I want to translate into various languages to see how it sounds.

• ANSWER:
  German : verheiratet aber nicht abgeneigt
  Italian : Sposato ma guardando.
  French : Marié mais Regard.
  Spanish : Casado pero Aspecto.
  thanks

QUESTION:
Why some married women looking young guys for sex?
Why some married womens looking young guys for sex? am 34 year old married women and am dating and enjoying my life my my bf who is nearly 13 year younger to me... i really love him i too... but some married womens looks young guys only for sex and they just enjoy sex with them.. why its like that?

• ANSWER:
  When thinking of a possible lover, a woman often considers a younger man. This does not involve a woman of eighteen with a young man of sixteen. Rather, it includes those scenarios where the woman is old enough to be considered an adult by any standard, and the man is young enough still to be considered boylike.

  When a woman is in her twenties, this might involve a difference of as little as five years; later it might be more like ten or fifteen. There is considerably more difference in social position and experience between a woman of forty and a man of twenty-five than between a woman of twenty-seven and young man of twenty-two.

  The "older-woman, younger man" combination meets with much more social disapproval than does the association of an older man with a younger woman. It is a less likely combination in terms of marriages and probably is also less common in terms of love affairs.

  The media image of such involvements has not been very positive. One such example is the relationship between actress Demi Moore and actor Ashton Kutcher. The media has, for the most part, treated their relationship as an aberrant and questionable pairing. On the other hand, the pairing of actress Catherine Zeta-Jones and actor Michael Douglas, an older man and younger woman, has not received the same negative press, nor has its legitimacy been publicly questioned to the same degree. Another example is the affair in Dustin Hoffman's hit movie the "Graduate" in which the older woman, Mrs. Robinson, was not exactly a heroine. Stephen Vizinczey's novel "In Praise of Older Women" conveys a more positive attitude. Unfortunately, although the book sold well, attitudes change slowly; and outside of the world of Hollywood, many people still consider such pairings to be morally unacceptable or, at the very least, the subject of ridicule.

  When thinking about a possible lover, there is sometimes an undeniable appeal to a beautiful boy-child in his late teens or early twenties who has finally finished growing and is just beginning to find his place in the world. For one thing, his body is still strong and straight. Being strong is not really important most of the time; it is certainly not necessary in order to make love well, but it is a nice plus. The boy-child's skin is smoother, the breath is fresher, and the eyes seem to be bigger and softer.

  He is more likely to have the charm of enthusiasm. He can still be impressed by many things and is willing to show it. And he is, of course, more potent than he will be later in life. He man not make love very well, but he will make love and make it often. He can, perhaps, also be taught to make love well; and then his boundless enthusiasm and virility can be a source of great joy.

  Sex roles do not change very quickly, but they do change somewhat with each new generation. Today's generation of young men has escaped some of the rigidity of sex roles that their father's learned. They are more able to express a range of emotions beyond the traditional ones of lust and rage. Younger men have the gift of tears as well as laughter, and that makes them more sensitive as well as more fun.

  A young man also helps to keep you young. He is into a different style of dress, a different music and dance, a different language. By osmosis, you absorb more of the current trends in the popular culture than you would otherwise. It is somewhat the same function that children have in keeping their parents in touch with the latest fads and fashion - except that the young man is bringing you the more relevant components of adult culture albeit that of the very young adult.

  There are also a downside to having a relationship with a younger man, but that is a different question than the one asked.

QUESTION:
"I'm getting married and looking for a photographer, what are the best prices?"?
There are TONS of companies and people and I don't know what to exactly look for? What prices are reasonable and what should be included? I'm looking to have them for about 8-10hrs. Only one is needed.

• ANSWER:
  This depends greatly on your market, and what you're looking for. Your wedding photos will be the most lasting reminder of your special day, lasting long after the food, flowers, and decorations are gone. So I'd encourage you to think about photography as an important aspect of your budget. If you are looking for a bargain, I'd say that you should look at getting a quality photographer for less time, or a smaller initial package (fewer prints, album pages, etc) rather than rolling the dice in order to get more coverage or product.

  FWIW, if you're getting married on a non-Saturday, some wedding photographers offer deals, since they can book a weeknight or Sunday wedding and still do a traditional Saturday wedding. Most wedding pros look at it as only having 52 Saturdays a year to make money: any non-Saturday wedding is gravy.

  I would say that any photographer with solid training, insurance, and equipment is going to be MINIMUM in the 00-00 for that amount of time and a basic package. This is only a starting place, and your market may run higher! I'd say a digital photographer needs a bare minimum of 00 in equipment to reliably produce quality wedding photos, to put this price in perspective. Also realize that a digital wedding pro is probably spending double the time he/she spent shooting processing the images in Photoshop or the like.

  One story I love to relate is that I met a "wedding photographer" in my camera store the other day buying a new camera. She struck up a conversation with me, talking about her purchase. It turns out that she figured out that she needed a second camera when her only camera failed in the middle of her last wedding.

  I feel sorry for that couple. This is what cheap "wedding photographers" do, though.

  Some questions for your wedding photographer candidates:
  1. What is your training?
  2. Let me see a COMPLETE wedding, cover to cover. (Not just selected photos).
  3. Let me see ANOTHER complete wedding. (Not just one)
  4. Name your f-stops 1-16. (You don't have to know what this is, but if the photographer looks at you blankly, run away).
  5. Do you carry insurance?
  6. Are you a licensed business?
  7. Do you have a back up for every essential piece of equipment? (Cameras, flashes, lens redundancy)
  8. Are YOU the photographer that will be shooting my wedding?

  Hope this helps!

QUESTION:
I m married. Looking for a matured girl as a good friend with whom i can relax. Is there any one to help me?

• ANSWER:
  Why? your wife is not matured? and a good friend of you? Go to brothel house if she cant meet the requirements or expectations of you stupid.

QUESTION:
Getting married? Looking for the perfect wedding song?
I am not advertising...just asking....

I am thinking about starting my own songwriting business. I am an experienced songwriter, and have written and performed several songs for weddings (and people seemed to love them.)

If I could write the perfect wedding song for you and your fiance based on your stories and your experiences, how much would you pay me to do it? Do you think it's a good idea?

Songs would be pretty lyrics, piano, and strings. Serious answers only please.

• ANSWER:
  that is a really cool idea, music is very important in this special occasion and you will make a tune of the love story or whatever the couple wishes, i think its a brilliant idea and i dont know how much really, but i guess it must high price then and for only those who really appreciate the art of poems and music.

QUESTION:
My Dad is married but looking at websites with women my age.?
My dad and my step mom have been married for 16 years and now my dad is looking at women that are my age on websites (20-25) Neither me or my mom know how to handle this or approach it (or if we should approach it at all) any suggestions.
He has also been caught chatting with other women when he is over seas. my moms been asking for my advice and it honestly bothers me that these women are my age.

• ANSWER:
  How sad!!! Your mom will have to decide if she can handle this...You can support her as much as you can but the hurt is going to be so hard for her...Shame on your dad this!!!

QUESTION:
how do i find if someone has gotten married by looking for the license online?
Im looking to see if someone got married in arizona cant find it at county recorders office website

• ANSWER:
  That's because they are generally filed at the clerk of court website; and may not be online at all.

QUESTION:
Getting married and looking for something to do the week after?
Me and my fiance are getting married on 07/14 and have the week after off. Unfortunately we don't have the money to go do something for the honeymoon so just plan on being together. I was wondering if there is anything going on the week of 07/16-07/20 in Nebraska, Iowa, Missouri, or Minnesota. I cant really do too much traveling due to budget but if we can get away for a couple of days during this time it would be great...

if nothing is going on in this timeframe can i get some ideas for things to do. I know the Omaha Zoo, Mall of America, and Worlds of Fun and such, just looking for something different to go do. Thank you for your help

• ANSWER:
  When my wife and I got married we purposely went to a small cabin my Grandpa has in the middle of nowhere. We took some movies, games, and puzzles and just hung out together. We didn't have to worry about "we didn't get to see that!" or something similar. We ate a couple meals at small out of the way restaurants. We walked around the small town nearby and visited small shops.

  Citysearch.com has guides to what's going on in different cities, and you could also see if any cities you are interested in have a visitor's guide. AAA also has some traveler's guides for different states.

  Hope you have lots and lots and lots of fun.

QUESTION:
Indian married couple looking for 1bedroom flat in Sharjah?
looking for 1 bedroom flat in Sharjah,
(1)can any one guide us where n minimum hue much rent?
(2)m a fashion designer but will be dependent on my husband work permit, is it possible to design and sell my design from home (small business)
m basically into Indian outfit like punjabi suits n sarees...embiodary n stuff?

Information wud be appriciated

• ANSWER:
  Please use the link giving below for searching a flat:
  http://www.gnads4u.com/properties

  Yes, you can have your "small business" beside, but don't advertise in any papers. Without a trading license your business has to run on mouth to mouth. A friend of mine is doing the same thing (different style, no Indian) and is very successful.

  Take care.

QUESTION:
Getting married, looking for a great photographer in southeast Michigan, any suggestions? really want good pix

• ANSWER:
  Are you getting married in SE MI and have you determined where you will have your wedding and reception? If so, you might ask both venues with whom they have had positive experiences.

  Churches have guidelines for what is acceptable and banquet halls go out of their way to make everything work but without defaming bad crews could recommend good crews.

  Also, if you do a google/yahoo search for websites for photogs in the SE MI area you should find urls with samples. You could try to match what you like with recommendations and or visit them to verify their results are at the standard you desire.

QUESTION:
I am married, Looking for friend to flirt, Is it right?
Married but feel loneliness, Got bored with life.

• ANSWER:
  no its not right, if you're bored then you shouldnt be married in the first place

QUESTION:
Goin on 20yrs married, looking for gift ideas for husband?
He's in law enforcement so doesn't wear a ring or any jewelry. We are going away for a long weekend and I want to make it special....HELP!

• ANSWER:
  Find a picture or momento that he is fond of, bring it to the photo store, get it enlarged and then frame it. If it's a shot with some buddies or family members in it, get them to autograph it first before framing it. Then wrap it up and present it to him.

  You can also find a picture that he really loves and have a local artist do a painting of it. My girlfriend did this for her husband (it was a picture of his hometown) and he cried when she gave it to him. Awesome!

QUESTION:
How do i get rid of spam that advertises married women looking for...?
I'm a female. My real name is Catherine. Can't they tell which sex I am? Do they just send out some sort of mass mailer to millions of people or what? I'm sick of unsubscribing. With some of these you type out your email address and click on unsubsucribe and you have to do it again and again ad nauseum.
Thanks Tom. Can you be a little more specific. My area is humanities and social sciences. I'm more of a techno-ditz.

• ANSWER:
  http://www.microsoft.com/protect/fraud/spam/email.aspx

  Never unsubscribe. These spammers have millions of email addresses. They could care less about the sex, age, etc. of people who get their email. Never, never, never unsubscribe. All this does is to tell them that yours is a good email address. Then, they can sell it to some other spammers.

  Just block them with whatever method your email program has. Click spam at the top of the page where the email is listed at yahoo!.

  You might notice that sometimes the email address they send to isn't exactly like yours. They may use c@yahoo.com and it could go to anyone with a c in their name. They get enough replies to make this worth their time and apparently it takes very little time once they have their spam program set up.

QUESTION:
What are the best bars in Miami for a couple of married guys looking for some young waitresses to flirt with?

• ANSWER:
  get whores off craigslist

QUESTION:
What's the deal with people who are separated (still legally married) looking for dates on the internet?
Not for me to judge, but I really do want to know what they might be thinking. There are even internet dating sites that enable married people to seek "discreet connections?"

My question is why stay married if you are looking for "dates?" Another question is what are the legal ramifications, during divorce proceedings, for a separated person who is "dating?" Is this considered adultery?

What is your take on this?
Thanks for your answers, everyone. Keep in mind though that I am not judging. I am asking for my own personal reasons, DEE, not to be nosey. Without going in the details, let's just say that I being on the dating scene, I have been approached by both separated and married men. However, point well taken that these are two dif. scenarios. This is a sensitive issue, I know. I am a sensitive person. Please don't get me wrong. Peace...
lol...I really should proofread...mea culpa.

• ANSWER:
  What's wrong with looking for friends? It's kinda lonely being separated. It's nice to have people to meet and talk to.

  And in legal terms, this could be considered "adultery" if they are having sexual relations. However, if they are already in divorce court, then adultery isn't going to change anything.

QUESTION:
Young married couple looking to adopt baby?
so. Me and My husband have been married for a while now. He is 19 and im 18. we are looking into adoption becuae we figure that an adoptive child needs love too. WE were wanting to know if we have a stable income and and nice apartment. could we be considered for a baby. we are looking over seas right now. but we are alittle confused with the matter. can some one help us. we know it is a great responsibility but we know all kinds about kids and we always watch our friends kids so we know alot. some one help us??!!

• ANSWER:
  Some reading for you...

  * "Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self" by Brodzinsky, Schecter, and Henig

  * "Journey of the Adopted Self" by Betty Jean Lifton

  * "The Primal Wound" by Nancy Verrier

QUESTION:
Married looking for friend of opposite sex.?
My spouse travels overnights usually 4 or more days out of the week. We have a 12 and 17 year old and I sometimes can't handle all the crazy teenage hormone stuff! Is it wrong to want a friend of the opposite sex to talk to or go out with occasionally? I am not looking for an affair. Just companionship. My wife tells me to find people to meet but if I do most people will think I am looking for an affair. How do I handle this?

• ANSWER:
  Man, don't bother to think about it ok?

  Setting aside what other people may think about that... What will your kids think about it???

  Consider other things but not this "RISKY" one..

  Smile

QUESTION:
If you were a rich middle aged guy who is good looking and married with kids, and had other girls willing?
So if you were a rich middle aged guy who is married with kids, and you have other good looking younger girls flirting with you - who would probably also be willing to go to second base with you, what would be your impression of women?
Yes he flirts back to the younger girls as well, and might have even had an affair.
Do you think that someone such as him could ever respect a woman or are women only objects for him that he thinks he can manipulate?

• ANSWER:
  The fact he cheats on his wife means he doesn't respect women, regardless of women flirting with him.

QUESTION:
Looking for married or at least more experienced women to explain if guys' dangle or no-dangle is sexy?
Looking for those who might make comparisons, tell what they prefer when seeing guys in the buff.

• ANSWER:
  Kinda sexy if it hangs below a T-shirt, out the side of briefs.... Woman told me once she had this guy who liked to walk about let it dangle...a turn on for her. Don't know how it is with most guys? I'm straight, but the bi generation might have some ideas. Best....

QUESTION:
I think my boyfriend may be married. Looking for free website that can help find out.?

• ANSWER:
  i have no idea about where you live...but here in the county i live in (in florida) we can go to the clerk of courts page and view any marriage license that was filed in our county. of course, i guess this may not help if he has lived several places. but good luck. women's intuition is normally correct!

QUESTION:
What business is it of yours if two men or women get married?
It should be none, right? I see no reason why you should be concerned if two men/women get married.

So why is everyone concerned if two men marry or two women marry?
Those who say it's against religion- church and state are to be SEPARATED.

• ANSWER:
  It is so bigoted and asinine when people immediately shoot back with something as ridiculous as "Then I guess I can marry my pet dog!" It's so incredibly ignorant and demeaning, it makes me sick. To equate homosexuals with people wanting to marry an animal is so absurd and just plain wrong. It's people with views like this that make me embarrassed about certain people in this country. So to them I shoot back an equally over-the-top statement: Should we have separate water fountains, bathrooms, restaurants, modes of transportation, schools, etc. "Homosexual drinking fountain HERE."

  Sorry, I couldn't help myself with this little rant. The bottom line is, if two CONSENTING adults (an animal cannot consent, folks) want to get married, then they have every right to do so. We are SUPPOSED to live in a country where there is separation of church and state so people who try to fling religious (garbage) arguments around are completely worthless. Those people just use religion as an excuse to try and cover up their real problem, and that is they are homophobic and bigoted. The bottom line is, I have certain rights because I am married. I chose to get married to my husband because I love him and want to be with him and have a family. Who has the right to tell anyone else that they cannot love who they want to love and have it be recognized in the same way? If two men or two women love each other and want to marry, they have every right to do so just like my husband and I did. If we don't allow them to marry and continue to try and claim that civil unions are the same thing, then our marriage rights are now privileges and that is not what this country is supposed to be based on.

  "All men are created equal." Pretty simple statement, yet we continue to have trouble with it.....

  Ah yes, and yet other brilliant people like GOZ2FAST.... your whole argument is flawed because you completely contradicted yourself. I'm not even going to begin to go into your laughable, made-up 2% (Who told you that? Fox News? Rush Limbaugh? Ann Coulter?), but for argument's sake, let's just say that it is that small of a percentage... Whether it's as small as 2% or nearly 50%, that proves that it DOES exist in NATURE. Then it isn't unnatural. Animals have instincts, they don't have complexities like humans do. Instincts are built within every living thing. If there are homosexual bears, it is not against nature, because they didn't think and choose it, it was their natural instinct! So there ya go - it is NOT unnatural. It DOES exist in nature and it DOES exist in the human race. Deal with it.

QUESTION:
if its spiritual to get married, then why do women stay with men for secular reasons?
I mean why is it that women marry men for security if its meant for them to marry for the right reasons. Men dont do that why do women.

• ANSWER:
  Invest in your love and to be happy.
  When you make a commitment to a relationship, you invest your attention and energy in it more profoundly because you now experience ownership of that relationship.

QUESTION:
Is there a difference in the way married women and men PLAN to have affairs?
For example, are married men likely to decide to have an affair in ADVANCE - or does the affair "just happen"?

And do married women PLAN to have an affair - or does the affair "just happen"?

Of course, both men and women DECIDE to have an affair - but are men or women more likely to CONSCIOUSLY PLAN - in a deliberate way - to have an affair?

Of course this depends on the individual man or woman - but it's possible that there are some interesting sex differences too.

Whatdya think? Thanks all.

• ANSWER:
  First, you have to consider the reasons for cheating.

  Men typically cheat for sexual pleasure and for self-confidence reasons OR they are looking for a new relationship with an "upgrade" either in quality of partner or degree of control.

  If men are doing it for pleasure and self-confidence, the affair is likely a short term, opportunistic, possibly including exchange of resources (money, raises, etc.). This may also include measures to protect and maintain their primary relationship.

  If men are doing it looking for a replacement, it's more likely to be planned, involve reduction in investment in the current relationship, and involve "shopping behaviors".

  Women typically cheat for self-esteem reasons, to garner resources, or to gain access to "better genes" (Read: hotter men on opportunistic basis).

  The self-esteem and better genes reasons are more likely to be opportunistic and short term--individually--but may evolve into multiple "affairs" with different men over a period of time influenced by both their reproductive status and position in the ovulatory cycle along with the relative characteristics of their current "mate".

  The resource drive may include aspects of the other reason for cheating, but are likely more "planned" and can involve both funds or access to more resources including positions of influence. These may be more calculating and may also include the tendency to try and protect the initial relationship while engaging the other "affair(s)".

QUESTION:
Why do women find married men so attractive?
A few studies out there say married men are more likely to get hit on by women. Why is that? Is their something about a married man that makes him more attractive than his single counterparts? Would you date a married man?

• ANSWER:
  because they can't have them, i guess that makes them more attracted? but no, i would never, cuz u could never have them, and u'd be doing a horrible thing to his marriage

QUESTION:
Can women find married men more attractive?
I am not talking about an affair or anything like like.

But it seems like alot of women almost look up to married men in a way that they don't with single guys. Is the fact that a man is married attractive?

• ANSWER:
  Definitely. It's a shame to admit it but married men are a lot more attractive. Think of it like this, single men are looking for somebody, so if you give them attention they'll just end up with you. Married men though, they're taken, not interested, not looking....it's such a challenge, and we girls love a challenge. I would never date a married men nor would i want to break up a family. But it is sexy...don't ask me why!! lol I wouldn't know.

  p.s its not EVERY married man, they've got to be good looking, of course. Marriage doesn't do miracles.

QUESTION:
What are the common reasons some women date married men?
What motivates this? And how about women that date men with girlfriends? Is there a difference between women who date married guys and women who date guys with girlfriends?

• ANSWER:
  i have no idea but i would never do that!

  i mean... maybe... the man is probably good in bed and the non married women wants it and the married one isnt at home?????

  there are lots of reasons sure but i wouldnt do it.

QUESTION:
Do you think single women proposition married men more than married men proposition single women?
I think they do, because married men have more to lose & I think most married men reject single women who hit on them, again, because they have more to lose. Thanks.

• ANSWER:
  Yes. I'm not able to offer any statistics to back this up, but generally men (even those who aren't on the level) are at least cognizant that marriage represents a choice. However, single women are at no point involved in this decision to get married. Solely from a guilt perspective, there's often very little guilt displayed by the sort of single women who pick up married men, whereas there is usually (barring sociopathy) some degree of guilt from the married men, even notorious cheaters.

  I actually had a coworker who was into seducing married men. Someone once scolded her, "You know that guy's married?"

  She replied, "So? I don't care. I just wanted a bit of fun."

  I find this perfectly represents the mindset of single women who go after married men. They aren't committed to anything, so their end (in their minds) is guilt free.

QUESTION:
What are the best sites for married men/women looking for an extra marital affair?
I've tried myspace, plenty of fish, facebook for meeting other married women.

Does anyone know of any other FREE dating sites for men and women that want to date have sex outside of marriage?

• ANSWER:
  Save yourself some hassle, and ask a divorce attorney where you can pick up some action on the side. At least you'll be familiar with them when you do find one and get your just desserts!

QUESTION:
Who cheats on there spouses more Married Men or Married Women?
Help me answer a question that me and my wife argue about...

Who cheats on there spouses more?

Do Married Men cheating on there wives, or Married Women cheating on their husbands?

I say the Wives cheat more.... She says the Husbands cheat more....

What do YOU say?

• ANSWER:
  50/50 - I know a lot of unhappy married couples out there and it's not only about the sex (or lack of it) So many other factors enter in. Stuff happens - people change.

QUESTION:
Why do more women go for married men, than the opposite?
Men really just go for women if she is married then its oooops, but a lot of women like married men.

• ANSWER:
  I heard this once "Men see their best mate happy with their girlfriend and the man thinks 'damn, i want a woman like that', and women see their bff happy with their boyfriend (or husband) and they think 'damn, i gotta get me that man'".

  I think it may be because many women want a 'complete' man and not a work in progress...and they are silly enough to think that just because a man is married that he is complete or, lol...a catch. I mean, c'mon, if a man cheats on his wife to be with you, then he's obviously not a catch.

QUESTION:
How can women fall for married men?
I'm referring to a movie and what I have read on here
"I'm in love with a married man for 7 years oh my!"

Ok first of all how can you fall in love with someone who doesn't return those feelings or return romantic/sexual feelings?

Don't you need to be stimulated romantically(verbally and physically) in order for you to fall for someone?
Thanks! =)
Bonus question: Do men fall for married women? if so how if she doesn't return the feelings?

• ANSWER:
  Why would you think that those feelings are not returned? I had an affair that lasted 4 years and neither he or I were interested in our spouses anymore. You become unattached and withdraw more and more from your spouse emotionally and physically so I don't know what your talking about. Now there are affairs that are purely sexual and that is different but you can't sit and gereralize nor can you come up with the one answer that explains why people have affairs. People get married and since there are a lot of people on the planet you are bound to find someone you are attracted to and if your marriage is bad than you may act on that attraction. But to answer you other question, you can fall in love, it happens all the time. People get divorced everyday in this country for that very reason, they fell in love with someone else. Just like the song says "I fooled around and fell in love".

QUESTION:
Why do married men flirt with single women?
I mean "some" married men, and I know some even flirt with married women, but I'm asking cause I'm single.
Do they think the girl is easy or that they can get away with it and stuff?

• ANSWER:
  they still need validation from other women other than their wives.

  married men who do this are typically chronic cheaters, meaning that one woman will ever be able to give them enough. they will continue to have relationships with multiple partners their entire lives.

  a married man who cheats is very insecure and needs validation.

QUESTION:
Why does it seem like a lot of single women are attracted to married men?
Has anyone else observed this? For some women a married man is like an aphrodisiac. What is that all about?

• ANSWER:
  Several reasons:

  1. Forbidden fruit: We always seem to crave what we cannot have. A married man is just another thing a single girl is forbidden to touch. And that makes them juicy targets.

  2. Pride: Women tend to measure their self worth (or part of it) by how desirable they are. If a woman is desirable enough to make a man's head turn, that's a plus.

  If she's desirable enough to make a man forget his vows...that's even better.

  3. Envy: Married men are, by definition, marry-able. In other words, another woman chose to marry him. So he must have some good qualities. He's reliable, committed, dependable, and skilled. That is much more than most women can say about single men, who are notoriously afraid of commitment.

  4. Jealousy: Often, women judge a man's wife to be an inferior partner. They naturally assume that they would be a better one. "If he was MY man, I'd give him more (respect, sex, affection, understanding, trust, forgiveness, happiness, etc).

  Women tend to like a fixer upper, no matter who is currently occupying him.

  5. Wickedness: Some women delight in hurting other women by stealing their husbands away. It shows power. It shows superiority. And some girls just like smashing things that they feel they could never have on their own (so why should you have it?).

  Those are some reasons.

  Good Luck!

QUESTION:
What do most married women or men do when they are craving intimacy but their partner is not available?
As a married man I often crave intimacy and intercourse but my wife is either traveling for work or not interested. I'm a bit embarassed, but most of the time I just "take care of myself" and relieve myself so to stop thinking about it so much. Do most other people do this too?

thanks

• ANSWER:
  They call them "Hands".

QUESTION:
What do you think of women dating married men?
I mean, it's just as wrong as a married man dating another women right? Are they both committing a sin here...?

• ANSWER:
  If the lady did not know he was married, I wouldn't think anything less of her but it is the man that I would think less of. He should be man enough to be honest from the get go. Man enough to know not to cross that line and to handle his problem if any at home.

QUESTION:
when it comes to having a chance with another women,for married men is it all about the love you have or your?
self control in that moment to refuse the advances of another woman,and being married i pretty much know his every move but people have said if your gonna cheat their is the parking lot at work or lunch hour in the office,but that is so sleazy!who would even want to do that??and compromise a good wife and family, does that only happen with the men who have no morals and conscience?

• ANSWER:
  There is nothing you are going to be able to do to stop a cheater. It has nothing to do with you, your actions or lack there of. It is totally the individuals lack of self esteem and the need to validate themselves. This applies to women as well as men because women will also compromise a good husband and family through cheating.
  Easy women and men are out there it is our self control fortified by our self esteem that enable us to exercises our commitment to our partner and say "No" when the overtures are made.
  Morals are negotiable and so is conscience. We have been taught to rationalize, to transfer the responsibility, to ignore.
  It is when we are "Self Aware" and have found "Self Esteem", (Mature) that we can start controlling and taking responsibility for the choices we make in life.

QUESTION:
Are you disgusted when people ask for help with their affairs with married men/women?
Do you get completely disgusted when people ask questions on how to finally secure the married man or woman they are having an affair with?

• ANSWER:
  It DOES show somewhat of a...oh...how shall we say...

  Cold Black Heart...

  (I prefer my women to have warm blood flowing through their veins...)

QUESTION:
Do any other married women or men daydream or fantasize about someone?
I catch myself daydreaming about a beautiful woman I knew in the past, or about a beautiful woman in general telling me nice things about me and complimenting me, and other physical things. Do any other married women or men think about or daydream about these things? Thanks

• ANSWER:
  no but sounds like you are in need of an ego boost. talk to your wife and tell her how you feel. maybe she doesn't compliment you enough. or even know that you feel this way.

QUESTION:
Statistics? Do you think married men go for married women more than divorced men go for married women?
What are the statistics on this question? Just curious to see what answer men and women have with this? I am writing a book for Psycology class.

• ANSWER:
  Ask your husbands girlfriend

QUESTION:
Is it true that married women prefer to fool around with married men?
As opposed to single men? And by "married men" I don't mean their husbands.
I would like to hear what married women have to say about this.

• ANSWER:
  OK, here goes. As a married woman, I do get some action outside of my marriage, and single men can become possessive, and that's not what it's all about if you're going outside the confines of marriage for action. Married men have a lot more to loose, so they are more discreet, and they understand what the rules are. You're not expected to stay with them all night, both parties realize that there are time constraints, and falling in love with each other is out of the question.

QUESTION:
Is it normal for married men/women to fantasize about other girls?
Lets say i get married but i still fantasize about the hot girl i seen at the library is this normal?

• ANSWER:
  It's almost impossible to control the thoughts that invade one's mind. It takes a lot of control and willingness to see that this doesn't happen. As far as your question, Is it normal ? It's normal through human nature to have these thoughts but its the power we possess to defeat these thoughts that is difficult to muster up.

QUESTION:
Do happily married men insist on proving that their wives are better than other women?
like their mom, sister or other women?! any more than happily married women trying to claim that their man is better than their brother, dad or other men?! you think?!

please exclude those with abusive history in the family..

thank you.
by their mom or sister, i meant the man's mom or sister.

• ANSWER:
  Only people who are insecure in themselves would do this. What they are really saying is, this woman/man, is better than all others, because I chose them, so it's about them, rather than the partner.

  We have never boasted about each other, we have shown it in the way we respect each other.
  If this gets recognised by others, fine. If not that's also fine as we have never sought other peoples opinions, nor given ours, unless asked.

QUESTION:
Why are most single women attracted to married men?
As a gender segregationist, I believe once people marry that they should abandon their friendship with the opposite sex. It creates a negative atmosphere.

For some reason, the majority of single women are attracted to married men than single men. It's rare vice versa. Why is that?

• ANSWER:
  They aren't. Married men just feel or think so.

  You can have your rules for marriage just make sure your partner is aware of it before you two get married.

QUESTION:
How common is it for married women to fantasize about men they know?
My wife and I have been arguing. How common is it for a wife to fantasize about men she knows? Is this a sign she is dissatisfied with her marriage? Is it the same as when a married man looks at a waitress or a girl at the mall?

• ANSWER:
  Very common. I am married and I often fantasize, but I'd never cheat on my husband. I am forever his.

QUESTION:
Married men and single women are the happiest people? Do you agree or disagree?
I've seen a few surveys on this topic and they seem to lean towards the view that the happiest people are men who marry and women who stay single. For sure, these are genealisations and we all know that it is very subjective. Still, I would love to hear some opinions! Thank you.

• ANSWER:
  .How does one measure who is happier than whom? I can't imagine any basis for your statement to be true. Happiness is a choice, so the people who are the happiest are those who choose to be...no matter what their relationship status.

  If you based your point of view on what is posted here in Family & Relationships, you'd think most were unhappy...but this is where people come to discuss issues and problems.

QUESTION:
Why do married men get a lot of attention from young women ?
it seems that once a man is married single women are suddenly more interested in him.

i have seen many guys who didnt get much attention from women but once married women flirted with them much more and gave them sexual attention.

what can be the reason?
im not generalizing and saying ALL women do that but generally a lot of them do.

• ANSWER:
  Nine times out of ten, if you're a married guy, then it shows to the world that
  1) Your d*kk works
  2)Your private personality is tolerable
  3) You make at least some amount of money

  Marriage is like the most honest form of social proof.

QUESTION:
Married women! Is it true that married men have to have oral sex?
Is it really something that every man needs from his woman or he will be tempted to find elsewhere. I keep hearing this but I do not want in the future want to feel(if I get married) that I HAVE to have it from my wife because I am a Male!

Feedback from married women please!

• ANSWER:
  Its called give and take - if your not going to give chances are she won't either

QUESTION:
Why do single women always approach married men?
Why is it that when a man is married, he is approached more often by single women.

I have been told by some friends that single women view a man with a ring on his finger as "safe" to talk to, but I have noticed that there is a lot of flirting on the woman's part. I wanted to get the women's take on this subject.

Thanks.

• ANSWER:
  I think it is disgusting when women flirt with men they KNOW is married. Disgusting!

  But psychologically, the reason some women are attracted to married men is because it shows he is worth something. Someone wants him so he must be someone worth having.

QUESTION:
Why do some women attract married men more than single men?
Is it because they intend to attract married men?

• ANSWER:
  Some women have it to be the moth to the flame. Some guys take the chances and some women don't worry who gets hurt as long as she gets some of that forbidden fruit if it works out to her advantage. Most women turn away when they find out but if the guy is smooth and covers up his status gets hook-winked into lies that he is available. An old question on here but the answers will be basically the same ten years back or further or ten years into the future......

QUESTION:
Do any other women find married men with kids very attractive?
I find men who are good husbands and dad's EXTREMELY attractive. I would never act on it or anything, but do any other women feel this way?

• ANSWER:
  I have never felt that way, women who feel like that are normally the ones who cheat with married men.

QUESTION:
Married women and men a question for you please?
Men-has your wife changed since you married her? For the better or the worse? Do you think you had any hand in this change?

Women-does your husband ever tell you you've changed? Has he told you that you're not the women he married?

Can someone please explain to me how it's possible to be married to someone for 30+ years and NOT change?

• ANSWER:
  Everyone changes. I've heard that every 7 years a person undergoes a change in outlook/experience/whatever. So 30 years....4.1 changes have occured.
  So to stay married, both people need to change together and accept the way the other changes since two people will not change in the exact same way.
  otherwise......DIVORCE due to irreconcilable differences....or the fact that he won't put the seat down.

QUESTION:
why do married men get a lot of attention from young women ?
it seems that once a man is married single women are suddenly more interested in him.

i have seen many guys who didnt get much attention from women but once married women flirted with them much more and gave them sexual attention.

what can be the reason?
im not generalizing and saying ALL women do that but generally a lot of them do.

• ANSWER:
  As a guy, that's happened to me before. I have never accepted because I love my wife and would never cheat, but have been offered more than once to "hang out somewhere else"

  I think part of it is that people want what they can't have. Plus I think when you are with someone you are not looking to impress any women. I am a "nice guy" so I often ask how people are doing and have great conversations with both men and women. I am confident and smile alot and I make good money. I guess for younger women, all those things are very attractive...I don't know?

  I would interested to hear what other women say about this.

QUESTION:
Is there a website where I can communicate with other korean women married to black men?
Looking for other Korean women who are married to black men that I can network with.

• ANSWER:
  I'm sorry ... this does not answer your question I was just wondering if you are Black or Korean? I'm looking at your picture and your question and I'm confused.

  But no I don't know a website.

QUESTION:
Do married women like to look at other men?
Do married women like to look at other men as much as married men like to look at other women? If so, are there any differences in how they go about doing it? I appreciate your opinions.

• ANSWER:
  yes, we women look.maybe we are not as obvious,but when eye candy crosses your path...doesnt mean we are interested,just enjoying the scenery.

QUESTION:
Why do married men have to share half of everything, but not married women?
Married men have to share half (meaning all) of everything when he's married, Why does this not apply to married women? For instance, if a woman takes her husband's credit card without asking and spend like 00, he has to deal with it.

• ANSWER:
  Because sadly my friend thats all we are to women a bank!

  They dont accept us for true value they rather take our money and bugger off!

  As the other person said they are evil and selfish and have to have their own way all the time!

QUESTION:
Why do women cheat with married men?
I'm asking this question because I'm trying to prove a point. So you don't have to admit that you are cheating, or that you have cheated with married men, just give reasons why some WOMEN rather have a married man verses a single man. And I know the man has fault in the cheating also, but for now I just want to hear the woman side. Thanks in advance.

• ANSWER:
  Obviously I'm a guy.
  I've asked this, in real life. Some Women will cheat with a married man because they just want sex without attachments. If he is "taken", but has a tendency to "stray", that satisfies them.
  Some Women simply want the guy, and don't respect his marriage. If He goes along with it, He does not respect it either.
  Some Women are cynical, they are trying to prove to themselves that "all men cheat".
  Some Women are egomaniacs, they want to prove that "they are so hot, they can steal another Woman's Man".
  I'm sure there are other reasons & excuses, these are just the ones I've heard, or observed. Pathetic, aren't they?

QUESTION:
Why do some women sleep with married men?
Have you ever did it?
It bothers me a lot to know some women willing sleep with married men. I know it is also the man's fault, but the woman can say no. I know of a woman who slept with a married man and had twins by him. It bothers me so much. I am only 19, but I would never sleep or be with a married men. I think about the wife in the situation and also the children. It is just so wrong.

• ANSWER:
  Same reason some men have sex with married women...low morals, selfish, and they don't think there is anything wrong with cheating or cheaters...

  If people didn't stray from their partner, then it would be less of an issue...but that's unrealistic...there will always be cheaters and there will always be people willing to "play" with them...

QUESTION:
Why do women who date married men always think the man is going to leave his wife for her?
Now you know a man is not going to leave his wife if he can have his cake and eat it too. If a man can have his wife and mistress, why mess up a good thing? Why do women seek out married men? I understand the concept of no strings attached, however, do you think you are the only mistress?

• ANSWER:
  Man 1234 your annoying!!! Look MEN do not always leave there wife for married men. My best friend just had an affair with a married man tat ended horribly.. because he would not leave his wife.
  Women who believe this are just caught up in the whole susupense u can get caught n get him all to urself.. ugh men are pigs.. so are women who do it. I sometimes wish we can pee on something and its ours!! lol !!Sometimes obstacles are what make us try harder to really get higher in what we want to do, and if the wife is that obstacle that mistress is goin to try her hardest to kick her out of the picture..

QUESTION:
How many married men/ women have old friends they still stay in contact with?
Do you have any friends from the opposite sex that you were friends with in high school and you still text on a regular basis?

• ANSWER:
  I am 42 and I still exchange Christmas cards with the girl I lost my virginity to at age 17, 25 years ago. She's also a friend on facebook. We don't talk much, though.

  I occasionally send an email to one of my favorite old college girlfriends, and she is a facebook friend as well. She's got a real sense of humor so we just kid around.

QUESTION:
Why do some women see married/attached men as so much more attractive?
My boyfriend overhead a conversation between two of his co-workers. They were discussing a recently married man and one said "Wow, he's so much hotter now that he's married." The other agreed and added that she'd never thought of the guy as attractive before, but that married guys were "definitely sexier."

Obviously, this is only one example, but it seems like a fairly common behavior among women of a certain age (early to mid 20's, I'd say). What drives these women? Does it have something to do with the fact that there are more women than men and inherent competition? Or the fact that many women see men as commitment-shy, so a man who has shown that he will commit and provide for a family is somehow more attractive?

Something else that I've missed? Any thoughts?

• ANSWER:
  Alot of women in their 30s and 40s think this way. I think they like the challenge. Alot of these women seem to get off on a man choosing them over a women he pledged vows to. Some are jaded and like to prove that the man's relationship isn't that strong.

QUESTION:
How common is it for married men & women to have affairs.?
Generally you only hear about it if someone is sloppy enough to get caught. But sex does become stale in a long term monogomous relationship and an affair can be exhilarating - but who many people actually thke the plunge. Is it worth the risk? How well can that risk be managed?

• ANSWER:
  i think its better to spice up your sex life with the one you have than going out to look for something new which will also bore you after sometime
  do new things together, date her, sleep out, buy new night clothes, do the things that used to excite you in the beginning

QUESTION:
Married men & women do you think this is a good way to bust up my husband and his mistress 2yr affair?
If I tell her he gave me an STD 5yrs ago during his last affair?

We've been married off & on 15yrs with a house, kids and I'm a SAHM. I'm not yet ready to leave due to various circumstances.

• ANSWER:
  YOU are choosing to stay, so YOU don't get to do anything to "bust them up".

  YOU are putting up with it and letting him do it. Either get some self-respect and put your foot down, or get used to being a doormat.

QUESTION:
Why do single women go after married men?
If a man tell you he is married and you have seen his wife.... Why do some women keep pursuing?

• ANSWER:
  Because even married men deserve to be happy.

QUESTION:
Single women being seduced by married men or are the women the actual predators?
I see a lot of single women who have no problem dating a married man.

Some even pursue married men. Or if they are the ones pursued stay with him even after they KNOW he's married.

What the hell is going on?

I want to know why a single woman will stay/pursue married men.

• ANSWER:
  women who behave this way, obviously only care and think of themselves, they don't really think ahead and try to predict what this could do to them and to the wife who by the way hasn't done a thing to deserve this. women like this are just very, very selfish and self-centered. especially having a big chunk of stupidity since they'd rather have a man who is willing to cheat on his wife.

QUESTION:
Do all married men and women fantasize about having sex with someone other than their partner?
I am married and love my wife but sometimesI find myself fantasizing about having sex with other women. I Have never been unfaithful and don't intend to carry out my fantasies but I feel guilty about the thought.Is all this normal in a marriage?

• ANSWER:
  Yes its normal.

QUESTION:
How do you feel about women (And men) who prefer to date married men (or women)?
This isn't about whether or not the married person chooses to have relations with these people... I just want to know how you feel about those individuals alone.

• ANSWER:
  I feel these people are living in a convoluted fantasy and selling themselves short. The thrill of being caught is probably an exhilarating high but after a while when the thrill is gone what will they have left? The person who they are establishing a relationship with is legally committed to someone else. There is no future in such an endeavor. Therefore people are living a constant life of risk, heartache and delusion that repeats itself. This sort of thing is self inflicted stupidity.

QUESTION:
Why do mostly women marry men in prison who they've never encountered outside of prison?
I know men do it as well but they do not do it as often as women. The only man I know to have done this was the man who married the woman who was one of Charles Manson's girls. But here in the USA many women marry men who are serial killers, rapist, and all sorts of crazed maniacs that will never ever be released. What is the reason behind this?

• ANSWER:
  Tehab waaaaaah! is hot.

QUESTION:
What percentage of women have affairs with married men?
I am hoping that I am wrong, but it seems that 3 out of five women that I know have had affairs with married men.

Are we that slutty?

• ANSWER:
  3 out of 5 probably are.

QUESTION:
Why does it seem that most women go for married men?
Even married women seem to do this. Just curious.

• ANSWER:
  for several reasons, first of all ur not divorced, so ur obviously good enough for some women, which makes you 'preapproved'
  second of all it is human nature to want what you cant have lol and in this case its married men!
  kayyyers well gtg email me if u need further help.

  love sarah!

  Answer my first question under my profile please!

QUESTION:
What's your opinion about a woman who claims that young women (18 and above) married to old men are victims?
She said old men marrying younger women are victimizing the younger women because the old men are old and their bride is young. Wtf is that kind of mentality?

• ANSWER:
  I think people can marry whoever they want. As long as they aren't forced into doing something that they really don't want to do, I don't see a problem.

QUESTION:
Is a married woman flirting with another woman or being friendly?
My friend and I understand each other. We get each other's jokes or even finish our sentences. But, the thing is she's married and I'm bi. She doesn't know that I am attracted to her. She sometimes stares at me and when I stare at her for 1-2 sec, she holds her eye contact until I look away. She sometime winks at me. This makes me more attracted to her, but I wonder why she is doing this?

• ANSWER:
  She knows you're bi, and she wants you to find her attractive, that's all...maybe she flirts with men too, some people are just flirty...
  Honestly, no matter what her reason, don't pursue this at all because a) she's married; pursuing marrieds never ends well, and b) she's your friend, and pursuing this very likely would change your friendship forever, possibly ruining it...there are plenty of singles out there, stick to them...

QUESTION:
How do I deal with a married woman flirting with me?
Engaging in extramarital activities like that does not interest me the least. We share a workspace though, so encounters are unavoidable.

• ANSWER:
  Maybe they aren't looking for extramarital activities, some married women just want to feel attractive and that's why they flirt. If you're not interested just politely mention that you have a girlfriend and would prefer to keep your friendship with them on a professional basis.

QUESTION:
What is crossing the line for a married man who is flirting with a married woman?
What do you think about a married man who is flirting with another married woman at work? What behavior is crossing the line? Is any touching acceptable like sqeezing your arm or knee, sitting so close to you at lunch u touch, "accidentally" touching your hand when he is pasing something to you. Are these all harmless or do you think they are intentional and that he is getting something out of it?
very admirable to not play mrdanno. Should be more like you!

• ANSWER:
  oh plz..dont fool urself..u know he's doing it purposfully ..DONT ENCOURAGE HIM

QUESTION:
I am a married woman, and i am flirting with women in chatrooms , is that cheating ?
I am also bi and my husband knows , well he does not know I am flirting with a girl. She is also married . Am I cheating ?I love my husband and I don't want to hurt him , should I tell him ?

• ANSWER:
  Cheating is defined by you and your husband. If he's ok with it, then it's up to do you two and not really the business of any of us here on the Internet.

  Enjoy.

QUESTION:
Is there any harm in a married man flirting w/ a single woman no matter the womans age?
Or the oppsite married woman flirting with a single guy no matter the age!

I'm trying to prove a point, to a close friend!

• ANSWER:
  If there's no touching, it's not cheating but you have to take people's feelings into consideration -- as long as both parties know it's flirting and will never go any farther, then it can be fun and an ego boost but if one person has hopes of taking things farther then there is a real problem.

QUESTION:
This married woman keeps flirting with me right in front of her husband?
He is starting to look more and more angry at me each time she does it eventhough its not my fault. What should I do before this guy attacks me?

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QUESTION:
please help. how do i know if a married woman is flirting?
i know this woman for almost 3 years, she keeps seeing her former boyfriend, sending him gifts, money and everything. this woman is already married with 3 children? does this woman is faithfull to her husband or what? flirt?

• ANSWER:
  Well if she wants to do this - she can but she can also accept the consequences of her actions when the tables are turned
  She is not just flirting but is still trying to be a part of his life and needs to let go for his sake and also hers and her husband and family

QUESTION:
A guy files a report about a married woman harassing him at work, boss says, "she's just flirting," what can?
guy sue for? Boss acknowledges the harassment, but dismissed it as "flirting" even though woman is married.

• ANSWER:
  He can demand a meeting with HR to confront the issue. The boss is completely retarded for ignoring because now that he knows, doing nothing about it would legally be considered negligence should it get our of hand. Every employee is entitled to a work environment free from sexual harassment and there are laws, and recourses up the wall to deal with things like this. First stop would be HR.

QUESTION:
How to stop loving a married woman,she is flirting a lot ony work place?
There is a rumor of 2 of my coworkers already had sex with she and also I saw the way she treat some guys , I'm her boss

• ANSWER:
  Being her "boss", I would have a talk with her. Let her know you've heard some not too desirable talk being said regarding her behavior with some of the male coworkers. You like to pride yourself on running a "respectable department" & this could reflect back on you. I would inform her you're giving her a warning this time, & trust you don't hear of anything further going on in the future regarding this situation. If you don't stop it now, it's going to keep repeating itself. You don't have to say it in an accusing way, just state it as "factual". This should put an end to it all. Let her know it is interfering with the workplace moral which you do not need...best to you...:)

QUESTION:
Help with this married woman flirting thing! HELP!?
I am 26 and this married woman who is 38ys (her husband is in his 60's) seems to be flirting with me. Shes a very attractive woman, and I didnt realize she was married when I first started flirting and hitting on her. I know married women can by flirty, but its usually flirty in general, not usually directed at a certain person! Could she want something more? Ego Booster? I mean, if I was married and I had some chick hitting on me that I didnt want to possibly be with, then I'd prolly shut that person out completely, and not keep inviting attention. Also, if I was a flirty married man, I wouldnt think it'd necessarly be an issue to be openly flirty to everyone, but I would prolly see it as potentially offensive to select one female to constantly flirt with, Opinions?

• ANSWER:
  She most likely hasn't been pounded like meat at a butcher shop for the last 5 years and is looking for you to do the deed.

  Ask her is she wants to get stuffed like a turkey and see what her reply is.

QUESTION:
Married woman is flirting with me and I like it, so what should I do?
should I keep paying my trophy wife extra "allowance" to keep up her act that she doesn't know me and flirt with me until I give in for wild sex, or should I make up a new play acting game? I've got nothing but time and money.

• ANSWER:
  Why don't you ask her??? Same ol', same ol' gets boring...

QUESTION:
What should I do about married woman flirting with my husband online?
We have been playing an online game for sometime now and recently this woman she also is married with kids heavily flirts with my husband online! This is driving me crazy, he had previously told me when it started up that he is not going to let this happen not to worry I am his wife. Its easy to say but its hard to deal with every night when she tries to flirt with him before she goes to bed!! She has a husband. I know I can just wait this out but its so annoying. What should I do? I left my guild partly because of her and now my hubby acts impatient and angry when I ask him to ask her to stop bothering him because he thinks nothing of it, he says. She knows our computers are next to each other and she knows I can see, is she just doing it to annoy me?

• ANSWER:
  It's not kewl and unless he thinks it's okay for others to flirt with you and accept it, and for you to intiate flirting with married men yourself, he shouldn't be okay with her doing it and should've put a stop to it. Apparently he ego won't let him and he's getting a kick out of having another chick pay attention to him.

  If you trust that he won't act on it, then let I wouldn't worry...but will this be the beginning of him accepting other flirting, cybersex, or what?

QUESTION:
Married woman flirting with me, what action should I take?
I am in a bit of a fix as I really like a married woman who I thought totaly unavailable.

We work together and have grown really close.

She is always 'hugging me' and 'invading my space' with touches and careses.

It sometimes goes really quiet for a while when we give each other a certain look.

I have known her for two years she has had a child 6 months ago, and ever since the birth of her baby she has been more touchy feely and wanting to spend more time with me.

I am single and really like her, but respect the fact she is married.

Any suggestions ?
Could it be a hormonal response from her after the birth of her child, she has never mentioned anything about not being hapy with being married.

Its difficult to like somebody a lot who is married.
Could she just beflattered by a yonger man showing her interest ?
As for the NILF guy, SEX isnt the issue, its been made obvious that I could sleep with her, but I like her too much just to have a one night stand with her.

It would mess with my emotions too much to sleep with he rmaybe once and then not again.

• ANSWER:
  IF you have a relationship with someone that cheats, even if it's cheating to be with you, I promise you, u will always wonder if she's doing it to you, if she's going to the store or to meet another, such and so on. It's great in the beginning, but trust is a major part of a relationship, and she will never truely have your's.
  Plus, how are you going to feel breaking up a family? How you going to feel when that baby (who u will end up helping raise) is told by dad or someone the events of why mom and dad isn't together? You sound like a nice guy who's going to let all this stuff bother him as time goes on, which is a good thing.

QUESTION:
What compels some women to flirt with the playa/lady's man, if he's flirting with every woman & married/commit?

• ANSWER:
  Because if she "wins" his attentions she is automatically bumped up to the top of the pack and becomes alpha female by being the woman on his arm.

  It's all about status and image and has nothing to do with the people underneath (which, incidentally, is why the relationships are so unfulfilling).

QUESTION:
How to pick signals from a flirting married woman i know?
She is attractive, sexy, married with three kids. I am in a serious relationship, attractive and horny. We clicked the first time we met. She attracts me. A lot. Once we started making regular and prolonged eye contact and talking about noting she brought her husband to introduce him. Later she came and asked about one of my female companion and how were we related? She would come and make deep eye contact with me with 100 watt smiles, sometimes showing pleasure that i am there. When i was absent for a few days she asked my superior where was i. When she sees me she is unable to break the eye contact and theres a smile on her sexy mouth. I want that body. What should i do know if she wants sex and how to proceed. But we are not regular friends but meet occasionaly at my worklace for a few minutes when theres business as usual.

P>S Dont give advise about moral issues. I am not a kid. Now bring on the seduction ideas.

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QUESTION:
I am a married woman being flirted by married man that affected my marriage life. Can I file a law suit?
I am a married woman, volunteer working for non-profit organization. There is a married man, also volunteer working there, he has been flirted me, starting by implying, then he emailed and called me “his baby lover". His acts really affect my marriage life and made my husband very angry. Can this be called: sex harassment and can I sue him and the organization for this matter?

• ANSWER:
  well stop pretending as if you don;t know what to do! I do not appreciat ethat at all! It is obvious that in order to save your marriage you should leave your workplace TOMORROW(!) and find another job especially since you are just a volunteer there. If you don;t you probably enjoy that flirting and don;t be surprised if it will end your marriage. so forget about that other guy and leave that job immediately. oh my god so obvious. Good Luck

QUESTION:
Why should a married woman I once had crush on start flirting?
When I had the crush she was single and she had a crush on me but I was too shy, naive and scared to ask her out. Now she married with a child and I have no intrest now but every time I see her she's flirting at me, she can't keep her eye's off me. Do you think shes in love with me or just trying to make me jealous of what I could have had?.

• ANSWER:
  'Follow your instincts.' People love to give advice like this. They urge each other to listen to the 'still, small voice inside'. This would be easy if there were only one voice to listen to. The task is harder when you appear to have an entire choir singing different messages from various parts of your psyche. It is not even as if they are singing in harmony. One part of you now is pushing you to move in a particular direction. Another clearly wants you to do the opposite. You cannot use your intellect alone to decide what to do, for you have to follow your heart now. But you can at least use your brain to work out which part of your heart to follow

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QUESTION:
What do you do when you are not getting along with your boyfriend, and a married woman is flirting with him?
My boyfriend and i have been on the rocks for a while, but it seemed to me that we both want to work it out. But since we moved to live near his uncle things have been strange. HIs uncle's secretary who is married flirts with him, she acts like she is his girlfriend. I have found out they talk on the phone at least once a day (" for work"), and she talks on the phone to his mother. She even called him when our dog was sick to see how he is doing!?! No i should tell you that he is working for his uncle too so of course they are going to talk but she acts like more than a co--worker... i am so un-nerved by this. please tell me how to handle this situation!

• ANSWER:
  if your boyfriend isn't cheating on you with this woman he's still trying to hurt you by flaunting their 'friendship'. This woman is immoral and your boyfriend is choosing to give her attention. you are in a very bad place with this and it won't get better. His idea of appropriate behaviour is clearly out of line and this is about his personality not just problems in your relationship. holding on to you is just cruel. You are storing up some major heartache and if this woman's husband finds out you could get into some serious trouble. Sorry but you're going to have to get away from this guy before he drags you into the dirt he likes to roll in. Leave now while you still have some self-respect. I know it's hard to do and it hurts but you can't love him if you don't love yourself enough to save yourself and staying with him would be like self-harming. Real love is out there and it starts with you. Big friendly hug from me til you find it.

QUESTION:
Why do married woman flirt with other men?
Why do married woman flirt with other men?

• ANSWER:
  because a woman is first a woman and after a wife and a mom

QUESTION:
Is it wrong for a married woman to enjoy the flirting of another single man?
This behaviour was of an old friend of mine.

• ANSWER:
  Random stranger flirting is fine, as long as it isn't thrown in the spouse's face.

  Flirting with co-workers, friends, or other long-term relationships is not cool.

QUESTION:
Why are married women flirting with me?
it's not that they're women but that they're married. do i seem desperate or something that i'd have 3some with their husband or are most women bi or i've just met some weird people? it's more than innocent straight girl flirting.

• ANSWER:
  lol..think where in the same boat..wats your yahoo messenger?..this lady who is married also has been flirting with me...don't know why

QUESTION:
why do married woman flirt with married men not there husdband?
i have noticed alot lately that alot of married woman are flirting with me knowing i'm married

• ANSWER:
  why not i guess their bored at home

QUESTION:
Men, what would you do if a married woman flirted?
This isn't about me personally. I'm just wondering.....
Men, if an attractive married woman was flirting with you and showed an obvious interest in you, would you make a move on her (ask if she'd like to get together or something) or just figure she's playing with you and laugh it off?
Men, how would you typically respond?

• ANSWER:
  I'd laugh it off and leave and leave her alone. Getting with a married women would be more trouble than it is worth.

QUESTION:
Is flirting with a married woman wrong?
I am 25 and single, and on multiple occasions have had a married woman come on to me. This isn't imaginary come ons or flirting per se, for example one time I was doing yard work and one of my moms clients was in the driveway in her car and asked me to help start her car. I was thinking, what's wrong with your car let's pop the hood, but all she wanted was for me to lean over her so she could rub next to me while I tried to turn the ignition. It was kind of weird, but not the first (or I'm sure last) time this will happen. At my last company I worked at the CEOs wife winked at me as she walked to the elevator. I'm not premiscuous, I would say.. I'm rather puritan in values actually. But sometimes I fantasize about situations like these (these women were hot). Is this wrong?

How far is it appropriate to be 'used' by older women, who really should know better?

• ANSWER:
  no nothing is wrong in this because married woman also a girl and u r a boy so Between girl and boy flirting is natural thing but always use safety comes first.and always caring the woman's and give emotionally support to them.because love is every-ware in this world just find out.all the best.

QUESTION:
what to do when husband is flirting with married woman who is next door neighbour.................?
need some really, really good advice and tips.

• ANSWER:
  Ego can be a destructive thing. I was the husband flirting with the woman next door. We did a lot of talking during the divorce stage of our 15 year marriage and I learned a lot. One thing I learned is that my wife never said anything when I did something to hurt her, so it was like giving a child permission to continue. On the other hand, I had no clue that some of the things I did upset her.

  My advice is to tell your husband that this behavior hurts you and tell him how it really makes you feel. Speak from the heart. If he loves you, his behavior will change.

QUESTION:
What would you do if a married woman was flirting with you (lesbian in relationship) in the workplace?

• ANSWER:
  This happens to me all the time, One time the girl practically had her jeans half way down her arse and her tongue down my throat.. Yet she is still Straight..women are amazing stay away from them though. xx

QUESTION:
What should I do about a married woman who is flirting with me big time?
From what I gather she is not happy in her marriage and every time I see her she is so flirty. She wants to go to the pool next weekend and sit in the spa.

• ANSWER:
  She's married, thus off limits. If her marriage is so bad, she'll end it and then be available to play.

  Anyone who would cheat (if that's on her mind) isn't worth wasting time with.

QUESTION:
is this married woman flirting with me?
i work at this school for part time since few weeks back and i noticed a women i had a crush on when i was very young.....she was a teacher working there...at first it was hard for me to believe she was working there...couldn't believe my eyes...ha ha...but she was ignorant to my presence for the first few days but later one fine day i saw her and caught her eye and continued looking at her...she looked at me and away and then again she looked and went away....

the next day as i was in the office she came and talked to the person next to me while she catched my eye again...after some time she came again with some work and i helped her finish it and she said thank u very profusely....the next day i summoned up the courage to talk to her and i did so when she came again to the office and i asked her whether she had a daughter?...i asked this in a questionable kind of way as though i genuinely din know...( although i knew )....she smiled or blushed i din know what she did and she told me she had two daughters and walked off....afterward while she was leaving she glanced at me again and left....and the next day i caught her looking again but she turned away immediately then after some time she came to the office for some work now i grabbed a chance to compliment her....i told her her writing looks very nice she smiled very profusely or even blushed i don know and said thank you she was acting a bit nervous too

please help me on this one....i don know whether she is even remotely interested in me or something.....do explain to me whether she might be even remotely interested in me thanks in advance for ur replies and yes tongue in cheek comments are welcomed

• ANSWER:
  Whether she is or isn't is not what is important. What's important is that she is married and you need to stay away~

QUESTION:
if a married woman flirts with single guy married man fall into a depression?
She said hey buddy
cause he said oh noo so I went off back and away from there.
She said hey buddy to me Im single, no I think he might have went maybe to get his gun.

• ANSWER:
  Anyone who falls into a depression over their parntner saying "hey buddy", needs therapy...

QUESTION:
A married woman is flirting with another married man.. Is it normal?

• ANSWER:
  Sure, people have been flirting for as long as there have been people. Even when they are married to other people. Sometimes they even have affairs.

QUESTION:
What should i do, a older married woman with children flirting with my boyfriend?
this woman is my boyfriends supervisor, hes peed off with her keep upsetting me due to flirting with him infront of me, she looked at me and smirked whilst eyeing him up.i was so tempted to slap the little b***** but i am powerless to because my bf could get sacked.she is married is bulgarian has children too.its making me feel sick to the stomach and i fear i will end it with my boyfriend because of her. and i dont want that as i love this guy to death and wanna spend the rest of my life with him.what should i do about her.what would you do if this was your boyfriend or husband this what happening to.

• ANSWER:
  Don't do anything yourself. I'm sure he knows what is going on. What would you do if this person had your job in their hands? Talk to him, tell him what you've seen. If he tells her to fuck off, then he might lose his job. If he reciprocates, he might lose you. That is the position HE is in. The best thing you can do is talk to him, keeping things secret makes things worse in addition to ascribing him motivations he doesn't have.

QUESTION:
Where can I find a Married woman to flirt with?
Clean flirting....I really want one, just online! Because they can open up more, flirt well and teach you things about life.

(I am 27 yrs old! Currently working abroad!)
hahaha...some answers here are funny! I love it.

• ANSWER:
  flirt with my wife please! tell her you are hot and rich and want her to leave me!!!

QUESTION:
What is it with married woman and flirting?
So I've been married for almost 3 years. We have had our ups and downs but for the most part we are very happy. He tells me how beautiful and how great I am all the time. Even with all the good things I still find myself wanting attention from other men. I get myself into situation where flirting happens then you see the line approaching then I back peddle. My husband understands what I'm going through and is not mad at for it. He just worries. Is there something wrong with me? I don't know why just being with him is not enough. Oh one more thing all of my other past relationships either ended very badly (cheating) or just never went anywhere. Another one of his worries. Any advice?

• ANSWER:
  Flirting can be innocent, but it sounds like you’re getting WAY too close to crossing that line. If you know you’re going that far, why not stop as opposed to having to backpeddle?

  My husband and I have never cheated on one another. We’re VERY much into each other and going 6 yrs strong. Sure, we’ve had our ups and downs, but you WILL NOT catch me flirting with another man. Why? I’d rather flirt with my husband instead.

  I’m going to be blunt, I disagree with flirting, as “innocent” as it may be. Because it always crosses the line, someone will always get hurt, and things can always be misunderstood by one person involved.

  My husband has a friend who did just as you do. She approached the line…but see, she fell over the line. And that’s where I got involved. You can look at my husband, you can think he’s a hottie, but when you cross that line…well, that’s where it sucks for you.

  Now she feels like a stupid fool and it makes her look like a whore. Even if it was innocent. So to me…..is it even worth it?

  Why not turn those feelings towards your husband? I don’t grasp the concept of why married women (or men for that matter) feel the need to flirt? Is your marriage not interesting enough for you? If not, well, change it!

  Because if your husband is having worries (even if you say he's not mad) I can assure you that he's no fool. And he probably knows that given the right situation, you'd be end up in bed with another man.

QUESTION:
Is it wrong when a married woman is flirting with you and you begin to find her attractive?
I would NEVER do anything to jeopardize her marriage, should I just avoid her, even though I see her...alot...or just tell her to stop and risk losing a good friendship?

• ANSWER:
  if you find her attractive it means you have eyes for her...thats not good because she is married and that feeling alone is enough to provoke this further....dont flirt back.
  if she views you that way it may not be such a good friendship more like friends with benefits so your best bet is to ask her and i know im telling you to do something i'd never be able to but at the same time it is the most reasonable and wise thing to do...ask her how her husband is one day and see how she reacts...if she believes it is a gesture in either direction she will react in a peculiar fashion and then you can confront her for sure...

  if not it can even be that because you find her attractive you misunderstand her niceness for being flirty.

QUESTION:
Is it wrong to flirt with a married woman online even if shes not happy in her relationship?
Been flirting with a nice lady whos married but in an unhappy relationship

• ANSWER:
  It is sin. Maybe is you stayed out of it she would have a better chance of improving her marriage.

QUESTION:
im a married woman and im flirting around?
my husband and i dont have good communication,i found a person who listen well and make me feel comfortable.im begining to like him

• ANSWER:
  Big rd flag. Stop know try to have better communication with your husband

QUESTION:
decisions, decisions...married woman keeps flirting with me?
I don't blame her and can understand why...and don't blame her I'm a buff, strong, tall, handsome, young, tan and dark haired Italian Stallion, but she's married! I see her about 2x per week at the gym and we've talked and she's given me all the signs and even a few times has complained how lazy and boring her husband is these days. She's even went the distance and brushed up on my you know what a couple times. So women and men what would you do in this situation-should I hit it or kindly tell her thanks but no thanks?

• ANSWER:
  beware a serious mistake that is brought on by your overconfident ego.

QUESTION:
When a man, especially married one, start to flirt or be over-friendly with married woman (who flirt back),?
does this show they like each other? N hope to start a relationship. Or they enjoy each other company n just want to have this good feelings flirting n joking openly. This lady keeps touching the man on shoulder n arm every time she talks to him but not other men, why?

• ANSWER:
  I do not think this is flirting...women have done this to me and I cannot believe its a flirt...maybe I am wrong?? lol

QUESTION:
How to stop a married woman from flirting with my husband?
OK, this may be long but I have no idea what to do/think or say about this situation anymore.

I have a husband as well as a year old daughter. We have an amazing marriage. About two years ago he wanted me to meet a a guy from his job as well as his wife. Well, upon meeting them I did not click with his wife at all but I stayed respectful but could not for see myself being close friends with her and that was ok with me. Well this was the first time my husband and I had met this female. After meeting her she started using her husbands phone to call my husband. Once realizing this he stopped answering. They would not stop calling. Once the random constant phone calls started then the coming over all the time and never wanting to leave became an issue. Well we would go out as couples about once a month for the fact that my husband and her husband were very very close friends. She started wearing very revealing clothes. She wouldn't let me speak. Every time I talked she would interrupt me and over talk me. She would call my husband "honey" "baby" at first it did not bother me. Then when I got pregnant she started bring him things for the baby she would come by and say I need to give this to your husband its for him and his baby. She started taking pictures of him and not even her husband. She would talk about her boobs. My husband ignored her. She has not stopped. I don't speak to her and she knows where her and I stand although she will not get the point to leave my husband alone. Every time something is said about it she gets worse and worse. She goes to his job and flirts with him. He walks away and ignores her. She does anything to get his attention. Even though he is not giving it to her. He doesn't want to say much to her husband because it will cause a lot of issues at work and that's just not a good idea. She wont even speak to me and if she does it is just down right rude. I bite my tongue because its only going to cause more issues now. Anytime we go anywhere if we run into them shes all over my husband trying to hug him and flirting constantly. I don't know how to stop it. We had to go to an event for his job and she interrupted the speech when my husband and I walked in to the room to yell his name and tell him to come sit with her and then gave me a dirty look. I don't even care at this point it just makes me so angry that she will not give up. I am not going to give her the attention she is wanting. I know she is just wanting to cause drama and that's just not my forte. I trust my husband. He understands what is going on but he gets mad when it comes up. But it feels like every time i turn around shes causing an issue. I don't know how to prove to him how disrespectful she is being. I don't have time to deal with her i have way more important things. I just want to know how to get the point across to her for the last and final time and to let my husband see that ignoring her and giving her nasty looks just isn't enough anymore. I know this sounds stupid and I get that but this has been going on for far too long. I just feel like a joke and that I cant be taken seriously that what she is doing has crossed the line. It would be different if she at least paid attention to the fact i am there. Oh and the worst part is she does it in front of her husband and he doesn't even care. Sometimes I wish he wasn't even friends with her husband that would make it easier but life isn't easy, now is it? i would never ask him to stop being friends with someone because his wife is a total slut. grr. please only give me honest true answers on how i should handel this situation.

Oh we don't hang out as couples anymore after the 4th time it was a done deal. And she stopped doing it in front of me now shes just trying to be sneaky about it but my husband tells me about it. ahh. im losing my mind.
*** I agree he should stand up to her, he actually doesnt see that shes doing that much harm. He thinks my perception is wrong and that I made her uncomfotable to be around me and that it is innocent. Blah thats not good now is it. Although he thinks she is a trashy dirty whore. And he would look for another job if he wasnt in the military** Thank you all for posting answers. What do yall think I can do to make the situation easier on my family. This is his so called "battle buddy" even better right? lol
Thank you all so much for giving me some wonderful advice. Yall are a lifesaverI hafta make one thing clear though. Her husband does witness it he sees it all and hears it all and he just doesnt care at all. He does nothing to stop it. He just lets her continue. Also when i mean sneaky I mean trying to be sneaky about it away from me but its still infront of both my husband and hers, Sorry when i wrote all of this i was worn out. ive tried the bold stuff and shes backs off and then when i start to walk away or do something else she would continue where she left off. Its starting to make me dislike military wives more and more and I am a military wife haha woow thats sad isnt it mwhaha. jk!

• ANSWER:
  You're allowing her to disrupt your life, and your husband is also allowing same. Have nothing to do with either one of them. Change your phone # to unlisted. Serve her with a restraining order........♥♥

QUESTION:
Do you think a married man can have feelings for another woman without flirting?
We spend a lot of time emailing, all day, and something tells me has feelings for me, because of him saying he is addicted to emailing me & he said he doesn't know what he'll do if I quit emailing him. We work together. He acts like he is attracted to me, but there are no clear cut signs. Thx.

• ANSWER:
  He is flirting w/ you and not the ego boost (harmless) kind of flirting. No, he is flirting w/ intent. Time to cut off contact that isn't business related.

QUESTION:
Is a wrong for a married woman to flirt with guys? its just flirting nothing more..?

• ANSWER:
  No, flirting is normal. It makes you feel sexy. It is wrong to act on it never put yourself in a compramising position. Avoid temptation. But flirting is fine

QUESTION:
Why is that there are woman who loves flirting married man?

• ANSWER:
  They are single most times and have the idea the there are no good men since they don't have one. A man faithful to another woman proves them wrong and threatens there pride. Women don't like to be alone or wrong. To actually sleep with a married man comforts them in their misery...as it loves company.

QUESTION:
How do I know if my married woman friend is flirting with me?
I am a single guy and I have a female friend whom I have known for several years. I knew her prior to when she was married and we have never dated. We will often meet for coffee and conversation, with her husband's knowledge (I know him also).
She will often ask me for marital advice and she seems to be frustrated with some aspects of her marriage. She will also compliment me, touch me on occasion (non sexually), and phone and text me often. If she were a single woman I would say she is showing me signs that she is interested.
What is going on here?

• ANSWER:
  flirt back

QUESTION:
How can you tell if a married woman is just being nice vs. flirting?
I want to know that there is no interest "in that way" but at the same time I do not want to offend her.

• ANSWER:
  You CAN tell.
  Do the right thing.

  If you truly cannot determine casual flirting with a true come-on, then just ask.

  Tell her you are a bit uncomfortable with the situation, and want to make sure your flirting is nothing more. Tell her you would rather be embarrased, and put it behind you, than to continue "wondering' if there is more on her mind.
  And if there is more on her mind, then remind her she is married, and you would not want to cause harm to another marriage/family.

QUESTION:
question why would a married man flirt w/ a woman and ask a woman hes flirting w/ ask her for sex and he ta?
w/ for sex and he talks hes married

• ANSWER:
  He wants to cheat on his wife..

QUESTION:
How to know if a married woman will cheat?
I always talk a long time with this married woman and we flirt. The last time I saw her things seemed to heat up and when we left we had a long lingering hug.

Now, this week, she's completely ignoring and avoiding me. She says hi, but we no longer talk and stuff. Do you think it's a sign she is developing some feelings for me? If I keep pursuing her do you think I can get her?

• ANSWER:
  She's probably ignoring you because she's realized whats at stake, why not go find a nice single girl instead.

QUESTION:
Is it okay to flirt with a married woman who initiates it?
it will never get intimate as i dont even have this girls number, but a co-worker and i always flit when we work together. she always 'accidental ' brushes up against me among other things. Harmless right?

• ANSWER:
  She is using you as a piece of meat.

QUESTION:
Would you flirt with a married woman?
If you were a guy...would you flirt with a married woman? Would you go for it if you knew more than likely she would go for it too?

• ANSWER:
  since I'm married to her, yes.

QUESTION:
fellas - would you take flirting one step further with a married woman ?
say shes clearly going through a difficult time in her marriage - and shes about 10 to 15 years your senior.

She looks pretty hot for her eage though, and shes clearly flirting with you and teasing you.

shes given you the green lights to do what you want with her - and thinks the same about you.

but would her being a married woman with 2 young kids, STOP you from taking things further ?

would your concience feel bad about having sex with a mans wife ?

or are you well within your rights to have fun here ?

what would u do yourselves ? go for it ? or abstain from engaging in any sexual activity with this woman ?

• ANSWER:
  No man would ever let his "conscience" get in the way of him getting some.

QUESTION:
How do I handle online flirting with a married woman that might've went too far (on both sides)?

When we met she wasn't committed, but during the course of our friendship she got married. Recently we began to flirt online and things got pretty intense after a while (ending in a few webcam sessions).

At first I saw it as fun and games until I realized I began to develop an emotional connection to her. I know there is no future in what we are doing, but I don't want to let go.

Is what we are doing wrong? At first I saw it as just fooling around and fun. That was until I realized I had developed feelings deeper than what I (and probably she) intended.

She maintains that it isn't real so therefore isn't cheating. I agree with her on that point, but I feel that the rules have changed since I found myself becoming attached.

I don't think I can continue this because I know I want more than she can give. I hate to lose her, I never met anyone like her. I'm so lost. Anyone have any sort of advice?

• ANSWER:
  what ur doing is wrong, its not fair to her husband. and in a way it is cheating, even if u havent met, its emotional cheating. i understand that u like her, but u need to tell her all of this, either she leaves her husband for u, or u need to stop talking to her, or things will go too far

QUESTION:
On-line dite for bored married women?
I'm 45, married and bored. I don't want to leave my husband but am looking for a site where I can meet like-minded men to have a little "fun" with. Anyone know of any?
James, I'm 5' 6", UK size 10-12, blonde. Is that fit?

• ANSWER:
  adultfriendfinder.com
  nsafun.com
  or just mail me if you're local and fit.

QUESTION:
Know any QUALITY chatrooms 4 regular happily married women who just want to talk about day 2 day things?
Not looking for a specific Genre of chat ...just some place for a bored married woman to go without having it freaking my husband out...looking for support and encouragement from married women in their 40's ...thanks in advance for your help...

• ANSWER:
  I was looking for one of these yesterday but couldn't find one anywhere. I'm a bored retiree my wife works all my neighbors work. So it's just me and the pets during the day.

  I'm getting tired of these once sided conversations with the cats and dogs if you know what i mean.

QUESTION:
Any bored married women in norteast Texas?

• ANSWER:
  Probably not, but, evidenced by your letter, there are probably a lot of weirdos there.

QUESTION:
what do married bored women do @home alone?

• ANSWER:
  buy a Rabbit Vibe or get a boyfriend for daytime play

QUESTION:
Any bored married women around Linden Texas who want to ............??????????????????

• ANSWER:
  Most married women but not all,don't look for affairs they just happen.You have to be in the right place at the right time.

QUESTION:
do married women get bored?
do married women get bored and want to see other men? i guess a question for the women
ok i see your points of view so wwould it be easy to suduce a married woman?

• ANSWER:
  I hope not, I'm getting married in September.

  Women will only get bored if their man is boring them, so really its a question for the men not to bore their wives.

QUESTION:
Are married but bored women interested in connecting with a guy online?
If so, what are they looking for? An emotional connection, romance, sex?

• ANSWER:
  size

QUESTION:
For Married Women - How do I add spice in marriage in the bedroom?
I usually try to be romantic with my wife in the bedroom - cards, flowers, massages, telling her she is beautiful. The problem is that I think she is bored after 7 years.

She tends to like it when I am rough and in total control- kinda like if I act like a typical jerk guy (which I usually am not). Like she has this side where she wants me to talk dirty and act aggressive - I tend to avoid this behavior because I thought it was offensive towards her.

I know women like the romantic side in the bedroom, but do women like kinky stuff too? What do you recommend I do if I act aggressive? Do women like it if a guy talks dirty, and acts sexually in control? - Kinda like a dominate alpha male?

Would blatantly hardcore stuff like handcuffs, blindfolds, ice cubes, toys turn most bored women on who are married? I dunno, I shy away from that because I think it would be degrading, but I think she may crave it after 7 years of marriage - she is also secretly checking out porn sites too. Help from married women please!

• ANSWER:
  Your problem is very common.It seems that we ladies really want everything!A nice guy,good husband,father figure,romantic stuff AND a bad boy in the bedroom.
  You don't need handcuffs,whips etc. to give her what she wants.Just take full control.Set up some rules like she can't talk,she'll do as you say.Tell her the things you're going to do to her in a very demanding tone.I think she wants submission,so order her around,pull her hair and ignore her complaints.
  Don't worry you won't offend her,you'll only drive her crazy in a very good way Have fun!

QUESTION:
What do married but bored and lonely women like to do in chat rooms?
If you're a married and desperate housewife do you think connecting with man online is worth it? Have you done it? What turns you on or off about cyberflirting? What "activities" do you prefer in a private chat?

• ANSWER:
  I think some times it is just the excitement of meeting another person who makes you feel good about your self because some times being married is hard and being with some one for a while you lose touch with each other like when you first meet some one i prefer just to chat and get to know that person and actually it is kind of scary

QUESTION:
Have you seduced married women before ?
I think a lot of married women are bored. They almost want to be seduced.

• ANSWER:
  And I think some men (single and married) really like the challenge of seducing married women.

QUESTION:
Do married women get bored?

• ANSWER:
  As opposed to what? Sitting at home by themselves instead of with their husbands? I've been married 9 years, and I've been through many things, emotions, good times and bad - but never boredom.

  Your question was not specific, but I get the feeling you're talking about sex in marriage. If someone is bored in that respect, it's at least half their fault for not doing something to make it less boring. And I think usually the type of person (man or woman) who is going to get bored maybe shouldn't be married in the first place. It's not for everyone, and some people need to mature more before they're ready for it.

QUESTION:
Where can I find women who like to cam?
I have found women on yahoo chat, but now there r so many spammers and Indian guys pretending to be women, it's near impossible.
Are there other sites for people who want to cam2cam can hook up?

BTW I am asking in marriage and divorce because this is one of the few areas where the average age is over 15. Besides there may be some bored married women in here who can answer this for me.

• ANSWER:
  You don't like to webcam with Indian guys pretending to be chics? Why the hell not? I thought everyone liked that.

QUESTION:
do married women ever get bored of this?
the size of their man's unit???????i mean in the sense that are you all impressed with it? do you wish it were bigger at times????????i am askin cause i found something every guy fears, an electronic dildo in his wifes closet.......

lol, i am getting over it but still. even i am impressed with the size of the thing, would love to use it on her but she thinks its a secret........i dont know, i am about 5.8 inches and i always wish i were bigger......

• ANSWER:
  i don't know if you should bring this up to your wife...but ...guys...it's not always your anatomy that is in question..."many" times it is the female that is larger than the average female...i am a small woman. just genetics. when i hear some women talk about a man needing to be larger, as in huge, i have to bite my tongue. no woman wants to hear they are "big" there...kind of like being skinny, we want to think we are "tight"...not always the case, in fact, over time, most times, not the case...guys...don't be so hard on yourselves...might not be the peg...but the square, lol...best wishes.

QUESTION:
Any married bi women faithful but bored?
Are there any married women who dabbled with the girlies and are now missing it? I'm 100% faithful and in love with my husband, but sometimes I miss the girls! I'd never cheat on him, just curious to see if anyone has had similar issues...

• ANSWER:
  I've only been with two girls in my adult life, enjoyed it very much. I do miss it from time to time, I even catch myself scoping girls out when my husband and I are out and about. He even picks 'em out for me...lol...if I wanted to be with another woman, he wouldn't have a problem, but I could never cheat on husband....I love him way too much

QUESTION:
Attention bored married woman !!?
I know this is horrible but i got a thing for married woman. I have a GF and im not desperate, but i am BORED with my current situation. If your a bored married woman who isnt over 35 lets start an E-Fling...

I am 25 and have never been considered anything except sexy.

Please contact me (NO DUDES) - evanwllms6@gmail.com

• ANSWER:
  no way

QUESTION:
Married Women out there?
Are there any bored married women out there from bedford or near bedford?

• ANSWER:
  No

QUESTION:
can married women want to sleep with another women?
married and bored. want to know how its like to have another women.

• ANSWER:
  I guess, but cheating is cheating, it doesn't matter what gender.

QUESTION:
Do married women still want boyfriends?
In the past few months, I have one married gal and two "taken" women want to do things with me (alone) including off-roading, backpacking, cycling, and skiing. Are these just bored women or do some women hook a new guy before they dump their current guy?

• ANSWER:
  I think you probably already know the answer to this, but, for the sake of review, the options are:
  1. They see you as a safe "friend"; they enjoy your company and the attention that comes with it, but intend to stay loyal to their spouse. Many women don't get enough attention from their spouse, and/or don't see a problem with male friends. OR, you are available for activities that their spouse might not enjoy, and it might be tough to find a female friend to do with them.
  2. They see you as potential for cheating. See #1 but subtract the "friend" and "loyal to spouse" part.
  3. They see you as relationship potential, and yes, want to try it out a little before making any permanent decisions.

  How to find out? Suggest next time you bring along one of these other women. Maybe they'll hit it off and make a friend w/ mutual interests. If they say they would rather it just be you two, I would think you can safely assume it's #2 or #3, or they just have very poor boundaries.

  

QUESTION:
I'm bored is there any married women out there that there husband is deployed mine is?
I just feel really lonely and would like to talk to someone else going through the same.
He is in the guards. He also is spending all of are money for beer and if i say something he turns his phone off and doesn't talk to me. How am i suppose to pay bills. I'm trying so hard to support but he's making it really hard i need help I don't want to lose him I know he's going through a lot but i think he's taking it a little far. I try not to say anything but what am i suppose to do?

• ANSWER:
  man........i no how u feel everyday ui have to put up being lonely so i just call my friend but there b-si

QUESTION:
are married women borded to do this?
are married women bored to cheat on there husband with a youbger guy .or do they think we want them for life or what isnt this the. number..1.. cause of divorce today
she had .4. kids and was.42 i was just.17 but did her right in her home
she was easy for me. and my copanion to do her streac marked ass we was doing missionary work

• ANSWER:
  they have to be to go with .2 at once whimp this whimp is .lds i have answered his nutty questions different times

QUESTION:
Any married women in San Antonio bored out of their minds???
At the moment?

Because I am.
E-mail me.
Okay, no I am not a man looking for married women who want to hook up, and no I am not a married woman looking for a man to hook up with.

I clearly should have thought this out better. I guess being bored and looking for other married women in my area that may be in a similar situation is just a scam in one way or another.

• ANSWER:
  Expect to have 20 lonely internet addict guys e-mailing you with offers of "lets meet up for sex" in 3,2,1.....

QUESTION:
Do married women cheat ?? Are they bored with Hubby?

• ANSWER:
  Of coarse, and today more often than men. It can be difficult to be satisfied with one man.

QUESTION:
Why do married women sometimes cheat on their spouse ?
Is it because they are bored ? Is it because they love sex ? Is it because they are unhappy with their husband ? Is it because it's dangerous and exciting ? Is it because men cheat also ?

Question from a single man who is being sought after by a married woman and she has made it clear she wants to have an affair.

• ANSWER:
  women always excuse on having a bad marriage, etc but the Truth is that most of the time they do it fo the sex just like the guys

QUESTION:
How do common women deal with a boring marriage? I've been married 1 month and am already bored to tears...?
We got married at the end of March (I was such a beautiful bride!). I wasn't really into the wedding, but the reception was the grandest affair to remember! All of my friends were there, and I was obviously the centerpiece of the evening. Everyone told me that they had NEVER seen such an exquisite and lovely wedding dress, and that even the flowers dimmed in comparison to my radiant beauty that night. It was just like my high school prom, only better and more expensive.

Well, now that all of the presents have been opened (some of them had to be exchanged...people just have NO taste!!), and the honeymoon is over (we had the most delightful time in St Croix....everyone on the whole beach thought I looked wonderful in my bikini....I even got propositioned by a wealthy business man!), I'm starting to get bored.

My husband suggested that I get a job or run a charity, but really, with MY background, these things are just so beneath me. I give money to charities (well, my husband's money), I don't need to sully my hands with actually running one!!

I'm very perplexed about what to do. How do common, run of the mill women keep their marriages exciting? Should I just have it annulled and find a man better suited to my extravagant lifestyle, or take a lover to spice things up?

• ANSWER:
  I have the same problem. I'm so much better than everyone else, these peasants bore me.

  I realize that the wedding itself seems like the most exciting part of marriage, but really the joint account is. You'll find new and interesting ways to spend your husband's money before long.

  Also, interview carefully for the new pool boy/lawn boy. This can make a huge difference in your satisfaction.

  Cheer up, you'll always have the chance to upgrade to a richer husband later, and have an even grander wedding.

QUESTION:
Do a lot of married women have an affair with guys?
Especially if their husband is always out of town, do women like having sex with other men because they are bored, lonely, and horny? What if their husband caught them doing that? And how does her husband or the wife even know if it was the other way around? If the guy had an affair when the wife was away and either one caught each other with someone else, what would happen?

• ANSWER:
  The real question is why so many men have affairs with other women and cheat on their girlfriends/fiancees/wives.

QUESTION:
Ladies... so this married woman is bored with her SEX LIFE, and...?
well she's definitely been spilling a lot to me about her marriage. We've been friends, and now she's telling me how her husband just doesn't please her sexually, has a 3 and 1/2 inch penis, etc. And yes, I'm aware of where this might be leading. She got married quite young though, and I do feel sorry for her. Anyway beyond what I should do about this development with her, I just wanted to know:

How many of you have experienced the same thing, with your husband (or significant other)? I mean being bored with sex, unhappy with his penis, wanting something new, or whatever?

If you have, what was (or is) the problem, and what have you honestly done about it?

• ANSWER:
  She knew he had a 3 1/2 incher when she married him. So, what's the problem? She obviously liked it at some point in time. Maybe she just wants to see yours.

QUESTION:
Am I a bad guy for sleeping with married women?
I enjoy spreading chaos and destroying their marriages. And I get some bored ho.rny housewife sex out of it!

• ANSWER:
  how do you even get that process started dude? i mean how do you even get the ball rolling? how do you approach her? how do you know she is willing to do this? dont they get all mad and say hey im married! how do you know she is willing to go that far? do you make the first move, or do they usually initiate? PLEASE respond in the additional information part, im 100% serious on this i would love some insight. i have hinted at something like this before, but i think they blew me off or i didnt get my point across, ive never been successful with this, and i know it has to be easy, i just dont know how, thanks

QUESTION:
Is it ok to have SEX with a Married Women?
Recently my friend sms me if I can be her Part-Time Lover. Her relationship with her husband has turned cold & bored. What do you think? Should I accept her request for SEX?

• ANSWER:
  Well....if both of you are willingly, why not....Most important is make sure both of you know how to keep this hidden secret well....dun reveal to anyone even your best friends...cos he or she might get jealous.....

  As for those who advise u...."what would u feel if your wife is sleeping wif someone else" ....these guys are basically selfish & jealous....
  cos if this happen on them....i'm sure they will go for it....without giving it a thought....

  Jus do it.....Rem....keep it a secret between u n her ONLY!!

QUESTION:
is it ok for a married women to goto lunch with a gay guy freind when husband not around?
i was bored and wanted to get out. my husband was out of town.my husband got so angry.

• ANSWER:
  Is the gay guy hotter than your husband?
  He shouldn't be angry lol. He just doesn't trust you. There won't be any harm, the guy is gay plus he will protect you. Tell him he shouldn't worried and should have total confidence in you. They guy is like your girlfriend. It's not like you are hanging out with a straight man that could be a threat.
  I think he is just jealous and angry that you are with another man. You know how men are.

QUESTION:
for the married women with husbands that please them sexually?
I have 3 curious questions 1. Does your husband please you sexually. 2. Do you guys do the deed often. 3. Do you ever get bored with him and start looking at other men sexually. Thanks

• ANSWER:
  1. Yes.
  2. 5 - 6 times a week.
  3. Nope. That's a recipe for disaster.

QUESTION:
are more married women looking for bi experimentation?
i'm a bi-sexual woman
i've never hidden the fact
i'm proud of it
LOL
but just recently
at work
i seem to get more married women
coming onto me
and quite forcefully

are men not able to satisfy them?
or are they bored with men?
or what?
any married women out there
who have done this?
only married men who are 9" long

• ANSWER:
  Do you do married men also ? So what you are saying is you are just a common tramp and doesn't care who's marriage you screw with as long as you get what you want.......9" ? You are not exactly tight are you ?

QUESTION:
I am 18 and havent had sex yet and am probably going to save my virgnity until i am married do women like tht?
However I suck at attracting women i am almost thinking about flat out giving up on trying to get dates and the such because every time i try i get rejected by the woman or she just gets bored of me i know that sounds silly but trust me it is happening. It seems like I am not gonna get anything for a very very long time.

• ANSWER:
  you should develop your personality and intellect and then worry about sex

QUESTION:
Do a lot of housewives actually get bored and "desperate"?
I'm 21 and I met this married woman at a lounge. We started talking, and she went on about how boring married life is, and how much things change once you have kids. Anyway, point is she wanted to have sex. I couldn't believe it. This may sound wrong, but to be honest banging a married woman has been like a fantasy of mine, mostly because it's so taboo I think...I dunno she was hot too.

Anyway, I pussied out because I was afraid her husband would find out and come kill me. But now I'm thinking, are there a lot of bored, married women out there that do this kind of thing? I don't ever want to get married now. This is ridiculous, does life really get this fuc*ing depressing once you get older?

• ANSWER:
  I am a student and a homemaker and I am not married to my house! A 37 year young woman like me has a hunky husband who treats me good and makes a good living so why would I want a punk like you? Lay off the cougar stories or write some juicy stuff to a girlie magazine forum.

QUESTION:
For women..Who got married to their high school sweetheart at a young age?
And how long did the marriage last?? From my experience those marriages hardly ever last because the women is getting bored with their husband and looking for a new guy to sleep with cause they feel they have been missing out. This has been the case with some of the married women I have slept with. Yes I am a pig, and I have no morals or ethics. Has this happened with any of you??
I understand what you are saying MaryJane. Thanks for the answer!!
To Kelly: If my type of behavior is sick, then I would say about 90% of the US population is "sick".
Everyone, I must apologize for "Jenny's" behavior. She is a disgruntled employee that I fired a while back when I caught her stealing from the company's petty cash fund. She feels the need act immature to try to get revenge on me.

• ANSWER:
  well it takes 2 to tango so I'm not judging the sleeping with married women part>>>>my step daughter married her highschool/grade school sweetheart >>married about 8 years with one child>>>they are now divorced and both on the 2nd marriage with added kids on both sides. I just think they didn' have anyone to compare with in a relationship and were too young; people need to play the field when they are young and don't get married young either.

QUESTION:
Why are married women the easiest to obtain?
Before I get jumped on for this hear me out. This is a serious question. Instinct tells us to do the opposite of marriage. Our primal animal wants to mate and wants to mate with someone new every so often. But yet women are raised by society and their mothers to marry 1 man for life. Why? Most of them dont want that. Its been my experience that all I gotta do is walk in, charm em a bit, throw a couple compliments at em, invite them out for a drink and their mine. Women want to be swept off their feet and that beginning part of a relationship always offers that. Even if later they realize they were wrong. But the truth is most women are bored with that 1 man they settled down with and its only a matter of time before someone like me says the right thing to make them stray. So why go through all that?

Whats the point?

• ANSWER:
  Sorry, you wouldn't get me, I don't believe there is ever a reason to cheat, ever!!

QUESTION:
Why are there so many questions from women about their married boyfriends?
Who are there so many females who are having affairs with married men?
Asking if these married scumbags will ever leave their wives?
Don't they know he will just cheat on them when he gets bored?
I just don't get it.
Can someone please explain this to me?

• ANSWER:
  It can be summed up in a few words:

  Immaturity/gullibility - They're too young and/or don't have enough life experience to draw an understanding of how life really works. So, when the scumbag tells them they're the most awesome woman in the world, they believe it. They believe that if the wife were worth having or keeping he wouldn't be with them. They're too naive to understand that they're being used for sex and sex alone.

  Insecurity - The scumbag makes them feel better about themselves. With all the smooth talking to get into their pants, they believe that they've found "the one" who will take care of them and love them forever. They're too afraid to go out there and find a real relationship because deep down they don't have the self-confidence it takes to sustain one.

QUESTION:
Do married women and single guys go together well?
Is that a good fit for the lonely bored housewife syndrome? Just wondering if I should... indulge.

• ANSWER:
  1. It is important that a man has a job and helps you around the house.
  2. It is important to find a man you can count on and doesn't lie to you.
  3. It is important that a man makes you laugh.
  4. It is important that a man loves you and spoils you.
  5. It is important that these four men don't know each other.
  .

QUESTION:
Married Women...why do most of you stop having sex with your husband?
One of me and my husbands friends came over yesterday and was complaining about his wife never sleeping with him. It was apparently happening once a month at best. I was completely shocked. Supposedly (according to other married male friends of mine), this is normal for married couples. And it's not the husbands who want it this way, it's the wives. For some reason they lose all their sex drive after they get married. Why would women do this? Are they bored of their husbands? Are they embarrassed because they gained weight? It sounds to me like they are intentionally sabotaging their marriages.

Me and my husband "get close" about 5 times a week. To me this is a normal and healthy amount.
Oh and we have two kids, 2 year old twin boys....so having kids is really not a great excuse either.
Valerie. I CARE about everyone else's marriage because I am trying to help my friend out here. He's over at our house again while his wife is at home being a prude bitch and eating way too hot pockets.

• ANSWER:
  Your husband is a very, very lucky guy. The rest of us have to take care of things in the shower.
  I think it is because most woman don't marry the guy that is the best sex so they don't want to do it unless they are bored and feel bad and that is once a month or less.

QUESTION:
true story, write the ending for 10 points. A good looking married guy , bored , sexually with his wife.?
he seeks out and finds an attractive married woman , they have a ten year long affair, not a love connection but intimate sexual bonding. saitisfactory for both,. the guy explores his sexuality and confesses to gf ( #1) that he has been with a couple of men. , experimenting ,, g/f 1 knows names places etc.,,, then......along comes a single woman he met through a sport, they were both into.. She's available (UNattractive) and quite smitten with him. he's weak and get's involved with the single woman (g/f #2) G/F #2 starts pressuring him to leave his wife and dump g/f #1. He attempts to end the affair w g/f #1 but continues to see g/f #1.. G/f #1 learns about g/f #2 and guy denies g/f #2 existance. this guy has a WIFE ....TWO girlfriends a couple of men he plays with and a one nighter with women now and then.... so who is the bad guy here ?and how did this sordid tale end,, the right guess wins 10 points, which one of the players am i?
nobody has aids or any other std's. just for clarification

• ANSWER:
  The bad guy is the bi-sexual man who is sleeping around on his wife.

  I would think you would be G/F #1

QUESTION:
Do married women suffer from ADD?
It's like they are constantly worried about being bored. If they aren't partying 24/7 or God forbid you have an average regular day. They act as if their life is over or they need some excitement.

I honestly don't believe women give any thought about marriage past the Wedding Day.
This isn't about one person. This is listening to conversations of married women. Maybe birds of a feather. But this constant need to be entertained is ridiculous.

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
Married WOMEN ONLY (serious) : Do you ever get?
say a little bored with the married life. (been wed for 8 mon) It's not that i dont' love him. I guess it's the routine of daily life, perphaps I'm a lil deoressed who knows, not too much sun here.. but you know to think you'll be spendingbthe Rest of your life 2-gether whewn sometimes you drive each other crazy and we can't understand each other. I sometime cry for no reason. we have fun times together, i guess i just worry 2 much perphaps..I should try in GOD MORE!! So ladies, do you ever get boried with the Married life, same old type thing.. Also please state ur age me twenty-3

• ANSWER:
  I am jaco k & I am 31.

  Ok please read this from top to bottom. You will not regret it.

  Romance and Lifelong Intimacy

  It is essential to cultivate a sense of romance if intimacy is to flourish in a marriage. But romance between a husband and wife is precarious. Like the flame of a lone candle burning in the wind, it can easily flicker and die. Your "flame" must be tended with the greatest of care — on Valentine's Day and every other day of the year.
  "My Lover Is Mine and I Am His"
  The word romance conjures up different images for each of us, and our expectations of what constitutes a romantic relationship also vary. Women are inclined to describe romance as the things their mate does to make them feel loved, protected, and respected. Wives, especially those married to busy husbands, crave the excitement of romantic encounters. They long for "some enchanted evening, across a crowded room." Flowers, compliments, nonsexual touching, and love notes are all steps in this direction. So is helping out at home. A man who shares in the duties of cooking, cleaning, and picking up the kids after basketball practice is much more likely to win the affection of his wife.
  Men, on the other hand, rely more on their senses in the area of romance. They appreciate a wife who makes herself as attractive to him as possible. A man wants to be respected — and even better, admired — by his wife. He likes to hear his wife express genuine interest in his opinions, hobbies, and work.
  Though romance can mean vastly different things to each of us, for most the word describes that wonderful feeling of being noticed, wanted, and pursued — of being at the very center of our lover's attention. Typically, most couples maintain this sense of romance throughout their courtship and at least through the newlywed phase of marriage. As the years go by and new duties and responsibilities pile on, however, that romantic feeling all too often begins to fade.
  The Thrill of the Chase
  Whether a few days, weeks, or months after the wedding, something begins to happen to "that lovin' feeling." A man and woman just seem to lose the wind in their romantic sails. It does not always occur, but too often it does.
  Their plight reminds me of seamen back in the days of wooden vessels. Sailors in that era had much to fear, including pirates, storms, and diseases. But their greatest fear was that the ship might encounter the Doldrums. The Doldrums was an area of the ocean near the equator characterized by calm and very light shifting winds. It could mean death for the entire crew. The ship's food and water supply would be exhausted as they drifted for days, or even weeks, waiting for a breeze to put them back on course.
  Well, marriages that were once exciting and loving can also get caught in the romantic doldrums, causing a slow and painful death to the relationship. But it need not be so.
  Recall for a moment the craziness of your dating days — the coy attitudes, the flirting, the fantasies, the chasing after the prize. As we moved from courtship to marriage, most of us felt we should grow up and leave the game-playing behind. But we may not have matured as much as we'd like to think.
  In some ways, our romantic relationships will always bear some characteristics of adolescent sexuality. Adults still love the thrill of the chase, the lure of the unattainable, excitement of the new and boredom with the old. Immature impulses are controlled and minimized in a committed relationship, of course, but they never fully disappear.
  This could help you keep vitality in your marriage. When things have grown stale between you and your spouse, maybe you should remember some old tricks. How about. . .
  •breakfast in bed?
  •a kiss in the rain?
  •reading those old love letters together?
  •a night at a bed and breakfast?
  •roasting marshmallows by an open fire?
  •cooking a meal together that you've never tried before?
  •a long-stem rose and a love note?
  There are dozens of ways to fill the sails with wind once more.
  Even when finances are tight, just being together with your partner can rekindle that lovin' feeling. All that is needed is a little effort and creative flair. Talk with your mate; ask him or her what would bring new interest and excitement to your marriage. Then enjoy together your own unique brand of romance.
  _______________________________________________
  What Makes Marriages Get Better?

  Often we think a couple who is unhappy has only two options:
  1.Stay together and be miserable.
  2.Get a divorce.
  But there is a third option, and many couples successfully take this other road. In an exciting new study, couples participating in a national survey were asked to rate their marriage on a scale of one to seven, with one being very unhappy and seven being very happy. Those who rated their marriages a "one" had incredible turnarounds just five years later — if they stayed together. In fact, 77 percent of those giving their marriage a very unhappy "one" rated their marriage as a "seven" after five years.1 Was there some breakthrough therapy involved? No. In fact, many did relatively little — they just "stuck it out" and things got better.
  As mentioned earlier, another recent study found that about 60 percent of marriages that ended in divorce were not bad marriages, but average.2 They had average levels of positive interactions and average levels of conflict. Basically, these marriages were "good enough" but could be improved. Most marriages go through emotional ups and downs — times of great happiness and times of boredom and fatigue. To have good marriages, we need to ride out the "lows" and learn from those times so that the relationship can be strengthened. If your relationship is at a low point and you wonder what happened to the spark, there is good news. It's not too late to revitalize your relationship.
  Researchers followed up on those couples who rated their marriages as unhappy at first and happy five years later. Here's what the couples told them were the reasons for the dramatic turnaround:3
  •Waiting. Since many couples have unhappy marriages due to outside pressures (like a job loss or the demands of young children), the passage of time changed those circumstances. Things just naturally got better again.
  •Working at it. Many of the problems in marriage are a result of poor communication. Some couples told the researchers they simply learned to take small steps — like listening to each other — that resulted in happier marriages. For example, husbands learned to compliment wives and wives learned to encourage husbands.
  •Personal happiness/perspective change in one spouse. Sometimes, one spouse simply decided not to base all of his or her happiness on the mood of the other spouse. Instead, one spouse took up a hobby or simply made an attitude adjustment that allowed him or her to be more patient and accepting of the other.
  •Credible threat of consequences for bad behavior. Some of the marriages were initially very unhappy because the husbands were engaged in "bad behaviors" — out late drinking with the boys, infidelity or even occasional abuse.4 Just as Dr. James Dobson advises in his book Love Must Be Tough, these wives took firm action and let their husbands know they would not tolerate such behavior. The husbands changed.
  There are many ways to improve your marriage. Today, there are hundreds of tools focused on ways to build strong, healthy relationships. A few examples include weekend getaway-style marriage conferences by Family Life Today or Marriage Encounter, film series and seminars hosted by local churches under the title "Marriage Enrichment" and mentoring programs through local churches.
  The key is to understand that marriage is like a luxury sports car. You wouldn't spend your life's fortune on a new, shiny, red sports car and then stop changing the oil. Marriage also takes regular maintenance to run properly. If it is left virtually ignored for a period of time, warning lights will come on. If those are ignored, it will break down. The good news is that when a breakdown occurs in a marriage there are expert mechanics who can help you rebuild the relationship. You just have to be willing to work on it. (But unlike a car, you can't simply trade it in for a new model. The old problems tend to follow you when they are not addressed. And, if you stick with it, your marriage will become an enviable "classic" you would never even want to sell.

  I hope I answered you questions in many ways.
  Jaco k

QUESTION:
i can't help myself from having affairs with married women. How to stop this habit?
i'm 33 year old single man. I have multiple affairs with married women. Their hubbies don't know anything. every single week i have sex with 3 married women. whenever i get the chance to meet a single woman i skip it. the single woman asks for commitment and loyalty. I can't do that. I can't stick with 1 woman all the time, i'd be bored. i need variety. Therefore i can never marry anyone or have children. Because if i marry, i still can't stop having affairs and it will ruin marriage. I have been living this lifestyle for 5 years now. i wrecked the marriages of 4 women after their hubbies found it and caused 3 abortions too. After those 4 women were divorced they came to me to ask for marriage and then i dumped them too, because i just can't keep any long-term relationship. How do i commit to one woman only who is single, so that i can marry and have my own family?

• ANSWER:
  You sound like a sex addict. They have a sex addicts anonymous. Try them. I am sure you can find it online and find where local meetings are.

QUESTION:
Any of You married women ever been in BWP party?
BWP= bored wives playing
it is a special party for some wives who are close together , they gather in a house , pic up a guy or may and have S-E-X there ,
it is more usual when it contains single girls who are friend with married women

• ANSWER:
  This is the first time I've heard of this, are you sure that you're not reciting one of your fantasies? Why would married women want to do that if they already have a man that they love? Perhaps you are just eliciting married women to do so. =P

QUESTION:
Do married women still masturbate?
This is just one of those questions that come to mind when I am bored.

Did you stop masturbating after you got married?

How long were you married when you started up again?

• ANSWER:
  I know I still do, I never stopped lol

  Sometimes I do it by myself other times my Husband likes to watch

  I have done it twice today already

QUESTION:
Boooriiiing! Hey you married women! Hurry up and get to the good stuff...?
Man this Yahoo Answers is starting to get really boring. You women need to get to all the sneaking around and cheating that you do on your man!

• ANSWER:
  What are you talking about you missed all the good ones, just fell out of bed huh.

  I already told a few cheaters off.

QUESTION:
Why are Married Women always cheating?
Before you unload on me with the: "Oh men do it, too!" crap; I've slept with a ton of married women, and most of them complained they were bored or unhappy in the marriage--but that they still wanted to be with their husband because they loved him. Nonsense.

I was a young punk during these times, yes--but I find it sad that most of these women were doing the nasty with me while their hubby was out providing and still had a nerve to claim they loved the hubby. Then I realized that most married women are just sluts.

Can someone set me straight on the matter? Thanks.
The married women I did were very nice women in general. You wouldn't be able to look at them are tell they were out there, or easy.

I guess you can't judge a book by it's cover, right?
Don't post your dry questions in my topic, moron.
Because of me? WTF! I was like 18 through 20 doing this with women 28 or above, yet it's my fault. I'm the young one here.

That made no sense.
By "young punk" I meant just young and not staring deep into their issues; like I could care less, to an extent. I wasn't an angry, loudmouth punk, though.

And married men cheating is worse? ROFL. Sure.
The irate hubby, eh? It's not my fault they're dropping their panties. I don't force myself on anyone.
Hey, come on! I don't just pursue them to sleep with them. I'm the shoulder they can cry on when things are tough. I'm not a bad guy. All I do is give advice and they just want to be more then regular friends.

How the hell is this my fault?
I'm not a gigolo. I'm a regular guy.
Abuse could be a factor. Most of them never go into many dark things about the marriage; but they let me know he mistreats them.

Sometimes I have feelings for them, which is why I get upset when they want to stay in that situation instead of givin me a chance.

I mean, since they cheat--why not go the whole 9 yrds? That's how I see it.
Eh, who's the old punk? I'm only 20.
Sorry, Mya. I don't have kids.

And you must be one of those slutty women. I could tell by your post. Hahahaha.
Sure, Mya. If you saw me, you would just want me in your mouth. lighten up, will ya? Hostility is never good for the soul.
I'm not involved with anyone, Memory. It doesn't make me anything. I never walked down the aisle and devoted myself.

• ANSWER:
  Well, first of all I can say that you're not helping the matter by sleeping with them, so you have no right to be calling them sluts.

  Secondly, yes, women cheat because their husbands probably aren't performing up to their standard, they're bored, or whatever reason. But men do it too for the exact same reasons. Love or not, people cheat because they want sex from a different source than they've had for the last so many years. It's just a human thing to do.

QUESTION:
Married Women and men, or a couples. ( I need help)?
My problem started when my husband started working as a taxi cab driver. He began talking and texting a woman who is a cab driver as well. I saw their texted messages when my 24 months old daughter accidentally took my husband cellphone and handed it over to me. I got curious so I looked at it. I saw a woman's name but never got the chance to see her number. I didn't confront my husband at that time because I didn't see anything wrong about the messages. It's just plain conversation about works, and money and passengers. I get this feeling or an instinct if that's what you call it, so I begin looking at our cellphone bill and that when I found out that they we're texting and talking 24/7. At first, I don't want to assume that the woman's name on my husband cellphone is the same unknown numbers that my husband has been texting and calling back and forth. I decided to call the unknown number and wanted to hear who's gonna answer on the other line. Then I asked her name and she told me. It was the same woman! I got this phone call from my husband and he was mad because the other woman asked him if he knows this number and said that it was our house phone so basically he gets mad at me bcoz I called the woman. I told him that he should bring all his stuff over that woman's house and move in with her. The bill was 0 bucks and we are verizon and the woman was using T-mobile. He said the only reason his talking to the woman is bcoz he is bored. I do not believed that. My husband even told me that she was fat and married. I think that he is cheating on me emotionally bcoz he spend time, minutes talking and texting her. I already gave him an ultimatum. If I see the next bill on january and he is still talking to that woman our marriage is over and he break his daughters heart because he choose her over his family.
What do you think? Am i being over-reacting or my hunches are true?
I already had a talk with his aunt. Both of his parents are dead, so his aunt is playing as his second mother. I let them know what is going on with our marriage. I respect his family so before I do some step involving our relationship. I tried to let them know about it . Actually, his aunt doesn't want me to file for divorce and she agreed with me that without a doubt his nephew made a mistakes but I told her that I have to do it if he doesn't agree about my rules. I'm doing this for myself and my kids.

• ANSWER:
  "If he is still talking to that woman when I see January phone bill, our marriage is over, and he will break his daughters heart by choosing another woman over his family". In my humble point of view this is a threat, not an ultimatum. As sad and true as it may be, it will invite hostilities from him because you are laying blame.

  He knows it's an excessive amount of texting. Cab business must be extremely slow, when drivers can spend hours texting on their shifts. It still doesn't make it right for him to do it. And where is the income from taxi driving, without paying customers there will not be much. About the same as a paper route, or possibly less.I believe you did the right thing by protesting a 0.00 texting bill.

  The only thing I'm concerned with besides you and your daughter is the way you worded your ultimatum, now you are going to have to follow through with it if texting continues, otherwise your word will mean nothing to him but a little hot air.

  Good Luck God Bless

  I

QUESTION:
Married Women - Am I bad husband for doing this?
My wife thinks I'm a bad husband because I told her that I want her to look sexier to save our sex life. After having inconsistent sex for the last 5 years (doing it once a month), I told her that I didn't feel sexually attracted to her like I did when we were 19 (when we first met) and that if she wanted to rekindle the sex in the relationship that she needed to give me something to look at once and a while. She said that I should accept her for who she is and to stop trying to change her. I told her that I spent 8 years accepting her for who she is (I'm 28 now) and now I'm getting a little bored of the same baggy jeans, non-fitted woman's top, hair down, no makeup, and sneakers look and that it's kind of average looking. She told me that if I wanted a woman who dressed more provocatively or was interested in her looks then I shouldn't of married her.

I'm constantly trying to think of ways to rekindle our sex life. It's hard to after having kids and after being together for 8 years.... One thing I tried was I lost a lot of weight because I thought that it would make her happy that she wasn't married to a fat lard and she told me that she was happy the way I was (but we did have sex a little more after I lost the weight - I don't think it was coincidence).

I told her that she doesn't have to look like a porn star but to wear makeup to look younger or wear heels to force her to shake her butt when she walks or to wear a skirt to show off her legs or to do something new with her hair, all these things would make me feel alive like something was new in my life. She said that if I wanted something new in my life then she would buy me a Barbie doll and have me dress her up instead. By the end of this discussion (which I have every month or so) she more or less told me that she was going to be a lazy tom boy for the rest of her life...

So there's the scenario. This is totally unfair because I love her for who she is, it's just that us men get bored of doing the same thing over and over and over again and we like to have chances to live out our fantasy. It doesn't help that I work in a downtown area with lots of salons and clothing stores so I see all these hot women walk past my storefront wearing some of the most skimpy and provocative outfits and they kept their body in great shape and they kept up with their looks. My wife thinks it's because they don't have kids but I've seen some of these women have children the same age as me so I don't think they have any more time than my wife...

The issue on why I can't just live life without sex is that I don't have sex but once a month with my wife under the current circumstances and I require more than that so I am forced to masturbate every night that we don't have sex. I watch a lot of porn because I need a way to get off.... When we have sex, we don't do any foreplay or we don't try to tease or role play, it's just me ending up on top doing it missionary style EVERY TIME.... My sex life is very snooze-able...

When I talked to a few male and female friends about the situation they said that they would have found someone on the side since my wife wasn't putting out (or doing anything to make me want to come on to her) and that she gets what's coming to her for her unwillingness to cooperate and make her husband happy... I don't believe in cheating but I have been VERY tempted since I have sex every 3rd or 4th week... But I love my wife so much that instead of going out and living out my fantasy with some random girl, I'd rather have my wife be that girl and live out my fantasy being that woman...

I guess let's go back to the question, am I a bad husband for wanting my wife to dress and act more sexy? Would I still be a bad husband if the reason I wanted her to do this was because I thought that it would improve our marriage?
@TheMeow: I appreciate your input on all of this but you don't get it. The lack of sex is because the sex in the relationship is dead. I didn't speak up about the looks until after the 8 year mark. Imagine having sex every 3rd week and imagine trying to please her every need but she doesn't speak up what they are because inside she really doesn't enjoy sex but she does it because she knows that I do... Let's get something straight though, everything else in the relationship is just fine - we hang out together, we do chores together, we take care of the kids together, it's just the screwed up sexual attraction......

I really do care about her needs but I'm verbal, she's not. Sounds like some of you are telling me that I shouldn't have said anything to her but after 8 years of having sex with my hand instead of her I had to say something and get this sex life back on track because as far as I see it, the train was stopped and at least I got the train to think about moving...

• ANSWER:
  You won't like my response, it's very honest.

  No, you're a bad husband for even contemplating cheating on her and putting her down about her looks. Pushing her into dressing up for you won't help. Did you ever think that maybe there's something wrong with her self esteem? If you're always pushing her into dressing up, wearing make-up to look younger (GHASTLY THING TO SAY TO YOUR WIFE WHO YOU "LOVE"), of course she won't want to screw you or improve her look for you.

  So you work on a street that has whores walking down it in skimpy clothes and perve on them all day. How would you feel if she perved on men all day because they have better style and looks than you do in her mind? Great, I bet.

  You need to focus on making her feel better about her self esteem. The poor thing is using the tom boy thing as a defense mechanism after having to live with you trying to fix her all the time. I wonder if she feels beautiful at all, EVER?

  As for the 'boring' sex, why don't YOU try to spice things up? Why is the woman to blame? Maybe you're just crap at anything other than missionary? Maybe she's bored of sex with you?

  As for your little friends, they're immoral whores who don't deserve faithful partners.

  'Living out your fantasy' hey? What about your wife's fantasy? You're probably sexually suppressing her, seriously. Do you really think you'll be satisfied if you force her into dressing up nicely for you? Think again bud, you want it to be out of her own accord. So build her self esteem up. Make her care and NOT by making her feel insecure... but by telling her she's beautiful, buying her gifts and pampering her. Get her a pedicure + manicure. Send her to the most expensive hair salon and tell her she can do whatever SHE wants with her hair (if she wants to that is, don't force her because that may seem like you're doing it for you rather than her). Whatever you do, make her feel beautiful.

  Before sending her to salons and such... do some things around the house. Maybe take some of her duties away. You seem to be the kind of male that makes a woman cook and clean for him and all that. How about you cook and clean for a while so she has more time to herself and maybe starts caring about her appearance. Make her see that you care.

  Good luck and I hope your wife ends up caring for how she looks again based off high self esteem, as in being worthy of pretty clothes and make-up and such.. not because you want her to look 'younger'. Ugh, chauvinistic bastards like you really piss me off.

QUESTION:
guys: married women are more interresting or boring?
when u meet a beautiful woman and find she is married what would be your first reaction?

• ANSWER:
  Respect, and treat her as a married woman.

QUESTION:
MEN ONLY POLL (WOMEN DON'T LOOK): Do you ever want to get married?
I wouldn't.
I don't think I could commit to anything more than a few years, much less a lifetime.
Plus, women always get bored eventually and want a change. It's in their nature, too.

Anyway, do YOU ever want to marry?

(Please star, so other bros can answer)
(and no Women replies. Just go on to another question, ladies)

• ANSWER:
  no

  marriage is the last legal form of slavery

QUESTION:
Why do homosexuals WANT to get married?
I don't get it. I'm hetero and I am against marriage period. I do mean against the institution. Men & women are just not meant to live together in that sort of "married" life. It has been proven time and again: it does not work. If marriage didn't exist for anybody I would not get dumb questions like "are you married/single, why/why not" etc...

Now I have no idea if 2 ppl of the same gender can make it work being that I'm straight. My problem is with men/woman marriage. It is just a stupid thing to do IMO. So idk but my question is why do you gays want to be married? I mean men are trapped by women. Most men (straights) don't want to get married but get coherced by women and then they live a miserable life until they die or get divorced. Most men can't wait to get their freedom back. (Some go as far as killing their spouse for said freedom).

For those that say about "rights", I have the right to jump out my building top floor but I'm not going to do it. For those who will say "equality" how about working to abolish marriage for heteros? That way problem solvfed: we are now equals!

So I was reading a question and someone said "financial tax breaks". That never EVER occurred to me. So is that it? Just for money?? Or what is it that I'm not getting? I honestly want to find out, and I'm not anti-gays, just dumbfounded by something I do not understand, hence my question.

Thanks and have a great night/day.
@Femme I am not against gay marriage, I am against marriage itself. I think same gender living together in a love relationship might have a chance to work better idk (the whole Mars/Venus just ain't working). I might be pro-gray marriage but still against straight marriage if I can see a valid reason. Like the ICU thing or the tax thing, never occurred to me bc idk what tax breaks married ppl get. It does seem very unromantic tho to marry someone for cash but whatever floats their boat.

When it comes down to it, I think I'm more commitment-phobic than anything else. It's like putting me with chains in a cage. No thanks.

As for "equal rights" I solved your problems already: ^^^^^^^read above (2nd to last paragraph) Thanks.
@Butterfly: I'm against marriage because it doesn't work. It turns love into hate. It turns normal ppl into murderers. It makes you hate one another. It's a breeding ground for mental disease where ppl become alcoholics, liars and cheaters. That's why. Plus I once had a parakeet that so hate his ring he died by breaking his beak trying to get it off. I sympathize: I'd want mine off too!

• ANSWER:
  I want to be seen as equal.
  Military won't recognize us as married since gay marriage isn't federally recognized. Peace corps won't send us together to serve in another country because our union is not federally recognized. I want to be able to be admitted to see my girl when she's in the ICU after hours, but you know what in some places the hospitals won't let me in since I'm not "family". Tax breaks are a plus. Adoption agencies prefer married couples for children.
  I want to have the commitment of marriage to my partner. I want that promise between us. I want her to have the wedding day she always dreamed of and for me to be the one she has that with. I want to be able to put her on my insurance and take care of her. I cannot think of one reason for why I don't want marriage.

  Abolishing marriage is a terrible thing. Married individuals are statistically less likely to commit crime than unmarried and marriage is also a social stabilizer in general.

QUESTION:
Why do some straight and men married to women want to be with a gay guy?
I've been looking at some dating sites and I've seen a lot of straight guys and married men wanting some from guys. I just don't get it, if they're so straight why would they want to have sex with a gay guy?

• ANSWER:
  because they're bicurious or in the closet, I'm gay and had a man who had a wife and two kids asking if I wanted some fun but I turned him down, he was kinda cute but I couldn't do that to his fam >.>

QUESTION:
Men, do you ever want to get married?

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
Why do some straight and married men want to be with a gay guy?
I've been looking at some dating sites and I've seen a lot of straight guys and married men wanting some from guys. I just don't get it, if they're so straight why would they want to have sex with a gay guy?

• ANSWER:
  Many gay and bi men indentify as 'straight' to make life easier. Some even marry women.

  That doesn't stop them from wanting sex with men though.

QUESTION:
Where can I find married men that want to experiament?
I asked earlier today if many married men have gay sex according to a lot of studies and people personal experiences its very common (10% of married men do another guy every year). Where do these married men go to get laid? How can I spot them?

• ANSWER:
  Hmm, where can you find gay married men? That's an easy one. HELL! So go there!

QUESTION:
Why do married men cheat just because they want sex?
I have a freind who says he has a really high sex drive and his wife isn't satisying him in bed. So he has been cheating on his wife due to this. I just don't understand why this would be so important that he would need to forget that he's married and sleep with someone else. Just wanted to understand where he is coming form because I just can't seem to figure it out. As much as it would suck to want sex all the time and not get any, I would never sacrafice my marriage for it. Anyone want to explain?

• ANSWER:
  Between the sex and his marriage, can you guess which one the guy values more?
  That's why he doesn't mind cheating.

QUESTION:
Do married men want to hang out with their wives?
I'm not even close to getting married but I was kind of posing this question to myself today. I was thinking about married life and I was wondering when men are hanging out with their friends and riding horses or fishing or whatever do they mind if their wives are there or is it awkward and not fun for them because a girl is around? I don't really think I'm like most women who complain to/about their husbands or think men are stupid or anything like that but I'm afraid my husband will not want to hang with me

• ANSWER:
  if I marry I will hangout with my wife and make her the most happy woman on earth , because she is my wife

QUESTION:
Q for married men. Do you prefer wives that always want sex?
I'd like the opinion of married men, please. Do you prefer it when your wife wants sex all the time & shows it or when she is more resistant & less likely to initiate intimacy? Also, what makes things better for you when you go through those times when you get tired of the same thing?

• ANSWER:
  Read our Profile

  and

  http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhXQ70jJgfZTg.B4yp0aEynsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080731180922AAxgoli

QUESTION:
Why does she now want to stay away from a married men?
This girl in my class became class representative because nobody wanted to. Apparently she only attended one meeting and afterwards she told the teacher she didn't want to attend any other meeting, she liked this young male teacher and she found out he got married recently. He also liked her and he finds ways to get closer to her and he hides his wedding ring when she is around, why?

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
What is it with married men that make women want to get them in trouble?
you woman all know where the boundary lines are. Y do you cross them do you get some sick thrill out of getting married men in trouble. We are not smart enough to play your stupid little games.
That is not true, there are boundary lines that we dont know about looks, smiles hair flipping whatever. Stuff that women notice but men dont, but we get it trouble for.

• ANSWER:
  Some women are sluts and can't stand to see someone happy. I wonder though if you had some warning signs that you ignored? Why did you ignore them? Do you get a thrill from the attention? Does it make you feel good about yourself?

  By the way. I am not meaning to be rude or hurtful. Just wondering.

QUESTION:
why do married men get the other woman pregnant and then want them to get abortions so their wife wont find ou
why some married men know that they have wives at home,and still they dont want to use protection.knowing that if you are not protected it could result into unwanted pregnancies, and std's if the other woman is not taking any birthcontrol.If the other woman becomes pregnant,the married man always wants the other woman to get an abortion, b/c the man do not want the wife too find out what kind of man he really is.If the other woman choose too have the baby , then the married man walks away.Now the baby will grow up without his or her biological father.why not just wear a condom,to avoid the abortion or risk a child growing up not knowing their father. Most of all married men shouldn;t be wanting to get another woman pregnant, knowing it is a possibility that the wife will find out sooner or later. Men risk their marriages by not wearing condoms but,they get mad at the other woman for not killing the baby.

• ANSWER:
  A married man on the prowl is a shark, a vulture looking to rip off any unsuspecting girl or woman gullible enough to open her life and legs to him.

  It is quite smart of you to realize how irresponsible and immature it is for a married man to enter into affairs outside his marriage, as he's looking to take and not give, please only himself, and make a fool out of the woman involved, his wife, and any children he has. It's a way to practice hatred against all of them.

  Don't fall for it! If you're being courted by a married man, ignore him or tell him to get lost. If you're involved with a married man, dump him tonight! Even if he pays all your bills and buys you expensive jewelry, it's all a sham; you're not in his will and he won't acknowledge your relationship to any of the important people in his life.

QUESTION:
What do women want from men?
I don't want any long descriptive words that belong in a novel. I just want to hear straight snappy facts.

More to the point. Why is it every women's goal to get a man married to them?

• ANSWER:
  I think they want support and a good life......!!

QUESTION:
Do most men not have a desire to have children?
If they do want children why do they want women to wait until they are old to get married?

I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 31. I'm still a virgin. We have been dating for 2 years. What makes a man want to wait forever to get married?
We share the same religious beliefs and he is happy that I am a virgin.

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
why do you think some married men still want sexual encounters With other women?
why os having the one not good enough,is it hard for a man when a attractive woman tries to seduce him,to say no even if they have a opportunity not to get caught,say a work colleague ,the pretty secretary who is always flirting

• ANSWER:
  Its all about self control, desire and opportunity. Most normal healthy males will feel a natural desire to have sex with women. What sets some apart are the other two variables, opportunity and self control. If a guy has the opportunity but has strong self control, it wont happen. On the other hand if a guy has no self control, but there is never an opportunity, it will never happen. Of course in the real world, there is almost always an opportunity (or one can be found) so we are back to the heart of the matter, which is self control. Most guys just don't have it, or if they do, it is not hard to get them to back off their principles. (If they have no principles, then that is equivalent to not having to worry about self control.

QUESTION:
Why do newly married men want to be unfaithful?
I have several exboyfriends who have gotten married in the past year. Why is it that as soon as they come home from their honeymoons, they begin contemplating our ended relationship and say how they wish we'd stayed together, even though they've already committed their lives to other women? Shouldn't that issue have been laid to rest when they said "I do"? Is this typical male behavior to marry and then regret it?

• ANSWER:
  Because things with their new wife are radically different after marriage than before and they feel they made a mistake and wish they were with you instead. Take it as a compliment, but tell him he made a commitment and you are no longer an option for you. This gives you full control and gets him to wake up and realize he made a decision he needs to live with.

QUESTION:
why do men want to get married?
because most married men seem to hate it and most of them cheat, so why do they even want to get married?

• ANSWER:
  Do you know the cost of good housekeeping service? In these economic times, I have heard call girls are having to raise their prices to make ends meet. (No pun intended) What other event in life allows a man to have,
  in house coochie
  maid service
  laundry service
  bookkeeper
  therapist
  child bearer
  babysitter
  cook
  personal shopper
  nurse
  consultant
  etc.

  He gets all this for the price of saying "I do."

QUESTION:
Married men....What gift would you want your wife to get you for Valentines Day?
My husband has never been very good at telling me what kind of gifts to get him, for any occasion. What do you think would be a good romantic Valentiens gift?

• ANSWER:
  MY WIFE ASKED ME THAT AS WELL and the thing i told her was i want you to get me something that comes from you she knows my interests my disires my makes me tick so that is my advise to you because we dont know what makes him tick you do look at his interests his hobbies the type job he does things of that nature HAS THERE BEEN SOMETHING HE HAS BEEN ASKING FOR FOR A LONG TIME NOW !!! THIS WOULD BE THE PERFECT TIME TO SURPRISE HIM WOULD IT NOT..HINT HINT REALLY LADIES WE ARE NOT THAT DIFFECULT TO BUY FOR AND IF YOU ARE MARRIED TO A MAN THE LADIES SHOULD KNOW US BY NOW

QUESTION:
Why do some women want to have affairs with married men?
I just don't get it!
that makes sense, thanks sophie

• ANSWER:
  married men have had the time to practice and they're looking for someone to please. now if you're wanting to know what makes a single woman choose a married man, well she doesn't go out specifically looking for that kind of guy it's just that he usually pretends he's single and is mixed in with the other singles and doesn't tell the truth until there's been some intermingling, and then just like any relationship of that kind it's hard to break off.
  there are some women out there who would just prefer to date but there are also serious women out there looking for a husband and then a fibber comes along but the good points outweigh the bad so the fibbing is the least thing of all to consider.

QUESTION:
Do you want to smack married men who get whiplash by checking you out, while walking their baby in a stroller?
Or do you rather accept this as the nature of the male psyche (they just can't help checking women out)?

Are you inclined to forgive, or bitch slap?

• ANSWER:
  Women amaze with questions like this. Men are pigs, those of us who are honest with ourselves admit it. However just looking at an attractive woman does not make you a cheater. I look at women all the time, but I would never betray my wife by having an affair. I also accept that my wife looks at other men, because god knows I am not the most handsome man on the planet.

  The reason women amaze with this question is that they look too, but for some reason have a hard time admitting it. Problem for men is that we are just not quite as discreet about it as women are. The most egregious part of this statement though is that many woman dress provocatively then complain because men act like men. Not that it really matters how you dress, you could put on a potato sack and men will still look.

  Lastly, there is nothing wrong with admiring beauty where you find it.

QUESTION:
Why do so many men get married, when it seems pretty pointless from their standpoint?
On the radio there were some people talking about this. A woman gets many advantages when she marries, such as all of the guy's money, and if they divorce she gets half. So what are the advantages when a man marries? Nowdays, they say that wives don't even put away laundry for them...aren't married men just setting themselves up to be taken for all their worth with nothing in return? The only reason I can think of is if they want to have kids.

• ANSWER:
  Totally agreed!! There is absolutely no reason for men to marry. There is no advantage for us. You can easily have sex, companionship and all those other things without being married. Marriage is nothing but a piece of paper that ensures a man receives a solid @ss-raping in divorce court. Even if a woman cheats on you she still gets half of your shlt.

  The sanctity of marriage is a joke today.

QUESTION:
For married men, how often do you want sex?
1..For all those guys who are married (or long term relationship) how often do you want sex?

2..do you get it as often as you would like?

3. How long have you been together.

4. How old are you.

I ask this to see if I am normal in the amount that I want sex.

• ANSWER:
  1.Every Day
  2.Heck No
  3.16 years
  4. 51

  Hope that helps ya out

QUESTION:
Why do American women hate American men marrying foreign women?
Don't they realize it's their own doing for making divorce a hellhole for men? Perhaps if they didn't demand alimony and child support payments and are willing to give man custody of there children like in the middle east, more men would want to get married to American women. Most American children born to foreign women are raised in the same close nit family structure of the 1950's have a better relationship with there mother, are better behaved and should be able to properly present them selves abroad for the same reason US diplomats can. 90 percent of American women can not properly present them selves abroad.

• ANSWER:
  I once thought all women were the same until I worked and lived in Russia for 3yrs, and now I can tell you all women are not the same. The difference between American women and Eastern European women is the same as night and day, it's that big of a difference.

  @MamaLuna, I have worked in many countries and I do know how Americans act abroad and sometimes it's honestly embarrassing.

QUESTION:
Is it wrong for me to wear low cut blouses and EXTREMELY short skirts, just so I can flirt with married men?
I love attention from married men, because i know they are safe, they already got a wife at home so they are not looking for long term commitments.

If all i want to do is flirt NOT SEX or ruin a marriage do you still consider that wrong?

Yes or no?

Thank you and God bless skirts.

• ANSWER:
  Since you are a dude pretending to be a girl, it might be inappropriate to wear a skirt.

QUESTION:
Why do some married men with kids want to have a homosexual relation?
I know a couple of guys, they are very obese, one is short and one is sort of tall, have kids, married but they tend to stare at this one guy. They seem to get jealous if this guy is talking with a female or talking with friends and not paying them enough attention.

• ANSWER:
  Interesting question. Well, unfortunately, there is still pressure in some social circles for men to marry women, even if the men secretly know they are gay.

  So they marry a woman, they have a child, and think this will all somehow suppress the urges. Unfortunately, it doesn't. People are born gay, it cannot be changed. The more they try to bury it, the more things intensify.

  Also, human nature is curious to begin with. Some men are curious about sex with another man, but might not necessarily be gay. I actually read an interesting report on Netscape.com recently that showed at least 10% of "heterosexual" men admitted to having sex with a guy in the past 12 months. It's actually much more common than people realize.

QUESTION:
Married Men: How do you deal with sleeping with the same woman over and over again?
I've been married for 5 years and it's getting hard. I've had opportunities and turned them all down. But I don't know how much longer I can last. I love my wife, I just want a new piece. But I don't want to hurt her. How do I cope? Get some porno or something? What's your secret?

• ANSWER:
  Love has nothing to do with this.

  You need variety. But you don't necessarily need that variety to be a new woman... if you can get your woman to try new things and mix it up, then you will have the variety you need.

  Here is the real problem with this idea. Most women don't have enough sex drive to even CARE if sex is the same over and over again. They are hoping you get bored and don't want sex. What they don't get is that men aren't like women that way... getting bored doesn't mean we don't want sex it only mean we don't want sex with YOU.

  I would try to ramp up your sex life. Rub some wild on it.

  Here is an idea, but it might not go over well with your wife. Go to a swingers club and have public sex. I am not saying that you sleep with other people. I am saying that you do something that makes sex with YOUR wife seem wild.

  Chances are that your wife does not have enough sex drive to want to do that either.

  You have the same three choices all men have.

  1. Cheat.
  2. Leave
  3. Accept it.

QUESTION:
Gay men married to women?
I been hearing lately “just because he is married, doesn’t mean he ain’t gay” a lot, but as far as the saying goes, gay men can’t get an inch of erection for a woman, so if these gay men coming out lately claiming they were married for so long and just found out their sexuality, does that mean they never made love to their wives? How come most of them have kids without having s3x? and how could they s3x it without getting it on? how could they get it on without liking it or if they were truly gay? They were certainly able to fulfill their wives sexual desire to keep them in marriage for so long. I am pretty sure if these men were married with men for as long, they would get just as bored and would want something different to tickle it and would come out saying “I just found out I am straight and stuffs”
I just don’t buy them for real, What do you guys think?
you can't be a gay man and still be able to make love to a woman , its just against everything what the word gay stands for!
@Yulia, if gays can make love to the opposite sex then they are all bisexuals.

• ANSWER:
  I personally know a gay man that married and had three children, I call him dad..
  Anyway, a lot of older gay men married and had children to hide the fact that they were gay since homosexuality was illegal in the USA until sometime in the late 70's or early 80's.

QUESTION:
Bisexual men married to women?
I am a 26 year old guy and was always attracted to women till the age of 25. I was crazy about women till that age, was in a serious relationship with 4 women, was sexually and emotionally crazy about women. I never ever had the slightest attraction for men. Last year I started seeing a drop in my female attraction and at the same time realized that I was getting attracted to men too. I initially thought its a phase, later started panicking thinking that I have become gay and then finally realized that I am bisexual. I am not strongly inclined towards men but do have a substantial inclination and dont feel the same degree of attraction for women as I felt before, but I still like women, I like a girl very much right now, but dont feel the same intensity when I am making out with her, but I love her very much and want to start a family with her. Can I get married ? Is there anyone here who is a bisexual male and has married a women or does anyone here know of such a case ?
I am scared what if I move on the gay extreme of the Kinsley scale later on in my life, I love this girl way too much to mess up her life, but what I am surprised is how can a guy who has been straight all his life develop same sex feelings at such a later stage in his life, has anyone here experienced this before ? Has anyone in such a case married a women ? Most of the time I have a strong inclination towards women but sometimes I get inclined towards men, I have never slept with a man and dont even feel like doing it. Of all the girls I have dated before I feel my current girl is most special, I ve never loved anyone so much, but I dont feel sexually excited/satisfied with a girl like before,but neither am I very strongly inclined to men. Please advice, I am very sure that I wont be happy with anyone as much as being with this girl, she is life for me, I am just not sure about myself in the future, if I stay the same I am perfectly fine with it.

• ANSWER:
  I've been in the same situation. I've been bisexual and when the right person came along, I had committed 20 years of my life to my wife. My past sexual history was never a problem during the marriage nor was the reason for the divorce, it was something else completely different. I had never cheated on her and I had no desires to lay eyes on anyone else. When the marriage started falling apart, I did meet a wonderful man that I found very pleasent to be with and we are together now and we'll be having our own life. I am very comfortable in knowing that our relationship had nothing to do with the termination of my marriage. I've always believe that you should never terminate a marriage or a relationship because of another person, that would be wrong.

  You can seek professional help but that won't prove anything except for the fact that you paid somebody with a degree to listen to your woes.

QUESTION:
How do I stop sleeping witha married man especially if he is helping me financially/ I want to rid of him?
Help, I just had sex with a married man -the same one again.third time . he is 55 i am 34yrs old single. I am employed part-time looking for full time job. I am trying to rebound. However, he gives me money? I want him out of my life and to get a full-time job. What should I do?

• ANSWER:
  Get a full-time job and stop pursuing a career as a prostitute. Simple.

QUESTION:
Do men really want to get married?
Is marriage something that men want just as much as women, or is it something that men feel is forced on them from women? I'd like to know or hear from men who are happily married or people who know of happily married men.

• ANSWER:
  The answer is yes.

QUESTION:
Why do married men cheat on their wives even though they are getting sex at home?
Im asking this question because it happened to me. My husband cheated with prostitutes and strippers etc... I am now happily divorced lol. But I want to know why men cheat on their wives even though they are getting ALOT of sex at home? Is it an addiction that some men have?
Just to clarify on Alot of sex. It was everyday, anytime, anyway he wanted it. He was always "horny" lol. And I think I am pretty hot so whats the problem?

• ANSWER:
  You aren't giving him enough obviously! The other factor is variety. Missionary or doggy style for 5 years straight gets boring. Did you do it in the shower, on the floor, back seat of the car or outside in the back yard? It's also important to keep the emotional engagement fresh as well.

  If you both were doing all that and the DOLT still cheated, you should have done the Lorena Bobbitt on him.

QUESTION:
Why do married men get bored with their wives and want to look for fun out of home? why get married from the
beginning? I'm scared my hubby will leave me for this other women I've caught him with, has it ever happened that a man leaves his wife and what are the signs he could?

• ANSWER:
  They're mean and stupid. Honestly if you've got a repetitive cheater it would be good if you got rid of him. But, guys very rarely leave their wives for the other woman.

  Harriet

QUESTION:
what a good advice to give to my friend who want to mess around with the married men?
i have a best friend, i don't want her to get hurt again, I'm sure she doesn't want too, I always give her advice about not to go out with married guy but she doesn't want to listen to me. She said she knows what she doing, she been hurt before and left her with two kids with separate father. she said she is smart enough to handle this game. she said to me its alright to go with married guy beside is just a game she will not take it serious about having relationship with married guy. I'm just worried about my friend I don't know what kind of mind that she have she is gone crazy! no matter what advice I gave her nothing happen she still going what she want to do. Please help me with my friend I don't want her to fall down. tell me what a good advice to pin in her head.

• ANSWER:
  just tell her to remember what happend to doctor gordon in saw 1 (movie) she'll quit trust me!

QUESTION:
Some questions about prostitutes. Do prostitutes have a difficult time getting married?
What sort of man would a prostitute marry?
Would any man marry a prostitute?
What sort of a man would want a prostitute as a girlfriend?
Do prostitutes find it difficult to get a boyfriend/get married because of the fact that they are a prostitute? does it put most men off?
What method of transport do prostitutes ussually use for getting about/meeting their clients?
How does a prostitute get a client?
what is she supposed to say or do to get a client?

• ANSWER:
  hmmm. what is your plan.

QUESTION:
Continually being propositioned by married men?
Hello, please could someone ease my mind here.

I am a 22 year old English girl who has done well so far in my profession which is dominated by American men. I want to live in America, however, I am continually propositioned by married men. This disheartens me, as I want to get married one day and would like my husband to be faithful.

I do not flirt or reciprocate their propositions, but I have a few questions;

1,) WHY do married men get married if they are going to cheat?
2.) why do married men cheat?
3.) do these men not have a conscience and feel bad for their wives?
4) do some men not wear their wedding ring so girls like me don't think they are married?

Thanks in advance x

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
Why do I only want to have sex with older married men??
I'm 19, I had a very secure family life, healthy home life, barely any fighting, no problems with me and my dad or me and my mom, never abused (sexually or physically), but yet for some reason I don't get turned on sexually unless it's b/c of an older married man.. not one in specific, just in general.. I don't want to break up marriages but I really feel that I can't help myself from wanting to sleep with older married men, especially when they flirt with me.. what's the deal??
I haven't actually had sex with a married man, I am just wondering why I have this desire to so bad. Also, in similar situations.. why is it always turned on the other woman and never the married man?

• ANSWER:
  If this is your thing maybe you can find a wife who is looking for a 3-some with her man and you can do it without risking the wive's ire.

QUESTION:
Why do married men keep hitting on me?
They know I'm married, but I keep getting these older married men staring, flirting, wanting to get next to me. It doesn't even flatter me anymore because I know they just want an ego boost. It's not like I dress myself up either. Even when I was pregnant, I still got hit on.

• ANSWER:
  Can you say, MILF. Your a hot wife, so just let nature take it's course. In ten to twenty years, you will be wishing for the days when men wanted you.

QUESTION:
Why do men still want to marry skinny blondes with no brains? I've noticed since moving to a new state that
blondes have the easy lives up here. They drive brand new trucks and get to shop all day and go to the beauty parlor and get their nails and hair done. But if a woman with more intelligence is brunnette and over-weight she gets kicked to the curb. What is with this mind-set? Is this why the divorce rate is so high these days because so many men marry these blonde bimbo's???? It seems to me they'd want someone with a few brains because even the blonde hairdye rinses out sooner or later.

• ANSWER:
  A blonde walks into a bank in Sydney and asks for the Loans Officer. She says she's going to Hong Kong on business for two weeks and needs to borrow ,000. The Bank Officer says the Bank will need some kind of security for the loan, so the blonde hands over the keys to a new Mercedes. The car is parked on the street in front of the Bank, she has the title and everything checks out. The Bank agrees to accept the car as collateral for the loan.

  The Bank's President and its Officers all enjoy a good laugh at the blonde for using a 0,000 Mercedes as collateral against a ,000 loan. An employee of the bank then proceeds to drive the Mercedes into the Bank's underground garage and parks it there.

  Two weeks later the blonde returns, repays the ,000 and the interest, which comes to .41.

  The Loans Office says, "Miss, we are very happy to have had your business, and this transaction has worked out very nicely, but we are a little puzzled. While you were away, we checked you out and found that you are a millionaire. What puzzles us is, why would you bother to borrow ,000?"

  The blonde replies... "Where else in Sydney can I park my car for two weeks for only .41 and expect it to be there when I return?"

  So dose that really make them dumb??

QUESTION:
This is a question for men. Married committed or single Plz help me!?
My husband watches porn, is it normal or do I have a right to be worried that this is a sign of problems in our relationship? Does it mean he is looking for someone different, sexier, more beautiful than me to get him into sex with me, or is it just something men do?

Is it reasonable to leave your wife and still say that you love her and want to be with her? I would think stay and try to work it our if you love eachother?

Have you mad marriage counseling and has it helped your wife with trust issues? Have you given up because you think, "she will never trust or forgive you" because of something you've done.

• ANSWER:
  My husband says:

  I have no need for porn, I have everything a man could want in my AngelCake.

  My husband doesn't watch porn...we don't own it. It gives an unrealistic view of normal women. Yes, you should seek couseling, don't waste your time worrying...doesn't fix the problem.

QUESTION:
Men-do most men honestly want to cheat once married?
http://news.yahoo.com/s/time/20110518/wl_time/httphealthlandtimecom20110517thecaligulaeffectwhypowerfulmencompulsivelycheatxidrssfullworldyahoo I just read this article, and I've realized lately, it's not just men in power, successful, etc., it's good-looking guys, (why I no longer am attracted to "pretty boys.." and am getting more and more jaded about men. Not a man hater in the least, just tired of the stories it seems it is soo common that men do this. As a single woman, men--honestly, I'm wanting to know why you would want to get married if you know you'll have an urge to cheat later on, knowing you'll get tired of being with the same woman?
The hard-wiring that men supposedly (look at the article,) have in their brains to spread their seed all over the place, (see how many stds they can catch, j/k,) etc. I am aware of happily married men, but keeping this article and the underlying idea of how often they cheat, is it more a question of "when?" Should I just never get married. Men, Please, enlighten me..I'd appreciate clear and thoughtful responses, no assuming d-bags trying to be witty. Thanks.

• ANSWER:
  I know many (several hundred) men who do not cheat on their wives. Some may have been tempted or fantasized once or twice, but because they are good men who take their wedding vows seriously, they won't cheat.

  I look at the men with great, clean marriages and I notice a trend. They were not sexually active before they got married. It wasn't the sex that attracted them to their wives.

  The press really makes a big deal out of it because it sells. It sells because the weak, cheating losers are looking for an excuse or justification.

  Don't believe everything you read/hear in the news.

  Best of luck on finding a good man.

QUESTION:
Why do married men always want me?
I'm single
I'm very sexy (been told alot)
I enjoy sex
I enjoy pleasing men
I want to be the best sex partner for a man

but why do married men stalk me after I tell them it's over,
I'm honest and upfront with these men,that I just want
some fun,sex and a good time with no strings attached.

and no lie, most all of them keep hounding me,try to buy me things and just bug me after I end it with them.
Why cant men get it through their thick heads that I am done with them and they should be grateful I let them have me sexually for a few weeks?

why do you married men do this?
I asked for adult answers to my question

and all I got were jealous answers from insecure humans.

wtf is going on?

I like married men,
I like to give them what they are yearning for.

If they were truly happy at home,then they wouldnt be stalking me, begging for the love and attention they sure dont get at home.
judging by the answers here,
no wonder these guys cant get enough of me.

• ANSWER:
  You didn't ask to receive adult answers. You asked this question and got EXACTLY what you wanted. You wanted to see if you could piss off a bunch of married women. You knew this would happen, unless you are TOTALLY stupid.

  Get off the couch, go pretty yourself up and go to the local strip club and pick yourself up some fan tab u les married men.

QUESTION:
Married men: what does this man want from me? What is he trying to do?
A co-worker of mine *seems* to be flirting with me. He knows I just got married and he has been married for close to 30 years.
He talks about his wife and seems to still be in love with her. And he has grown children. I have no children.
He teases me and jokes around with me, talks to me, smiles at me, shows an interest in my interests, playfully hits me, stands close to me, brushes up against me with his hands/fingers/arms, and makes lengthy eye contact- staring into my eyes. Then other times, he does nothing at all.
Am I misinterpreting this? Is he not flirting? I am just normal looking. I wouldn't classify myself as hot so I don't know why he would be interested. He is a well-educated, professional man with a pretty wife whom he seems to adore, so I don't get it.
If he is flirting, then what does he want? And what do men do when they are attempting to take it further?

• ANSWER:
  He's a bit too flirty.

  If it bothers you, tell him to back of a bit as this, probably would make your husband jealous.

  Gently remind him that you are not his piece of cake on the side.

QUESTION:
If women supposedly lose out in marriage, then why do most of them want to get married?
Statistics say that single women are happier, live longer and judging by the shape of most middle aged married men, probably have sex with considerably hotter guys than married women.

So, in light of this, why do women still choose to get married?
@Winter Glory: That's just one study. I've read others that say single women have less stress and are happier on average.

• ANSWER:
  I don't know where you got your statistics but I not only question them but find it difficult to give them any credit what so ever. . I believe you have a theory and that is like a nose everyone has one. One truth is women do live longer but unfortunately the gap between women and men's life span is rapidly closing this is in part do to the stress, social and environmental issues that only a man was once exposed to. Now that women are excepted into the work force many issues lead to a shorter life span You talk about the shape of middle age men have you noticed the shape of middle age women?? Be they single or married it ain't all that great. Your question is poorly designed as it's not conclusive. You should ask why do men and women get married? That's a very complex question as they are a variety of reasons. Most very positive and understandable. I will put several out for your judgment: 1)A special bond/love 2) Security for both the man and woman, 3) Procreation as both the man and woman judge each other for the best mate 4) Social strength etc etc. If your reason for not getting married is just so you can have sex with the hoter guys your reasoning is flawed. As a rule the hoter guys are married to the hoter women that's just life "L" Good luck to you

QUESTION:
What do adult married men REALLY want from their wives?
I have this theory and wonder if men agree. Is a predcitable, dependent on you wife boring after awhile? I have been a SAH mom for years. My life is so predictable with no mystery, I wonder if it bores my husband to tears. I am always available to him, he always knows where I am, doing, etc. I just wonder if becoming less available to him and being more mysterious (not to the point of playing games) would make him more intrigued with me? I feel foolish asking this, cuz it kinda sounds like high school crap; but like I said, NOT to the point of playing games. Just basically getting a life outside of this house and doing something for me, so he kinda wonders a little. But where do you draw the line? If I make him wonder too much, he'll start wondering WHO I am doing, and not what I am doing? Any suggestions on how to do this..i.e. add some mystery and interest to me? Yes, I've been a SAH mom for THAT long, I dont even know where to start.

• ANSWER:
  If you have something that works, why would you want to fix it? Unless you are unhappy with the current situation, is the gamble of second guessing your mate a healthy alternative. So many men would give their soul for a healthy, solid dependable relationship with a committed spouse and happy family. If you live in heaven, would a trip to the barrio make you more appreciative of where you are, provided you did not lose your place by leaving?

QUESTION:
Married women! Is it true that married men have to have oral sex?
Is it really something that every man needs from his woman or he will be tempted to find elsewhere. I keep hearing this but I do not want in the future want to feel(if I get married) that I HAVE to have it from my wife because I am a Male!

Feedback from married women please!

• ANSWER:
  Its called give and take - if your not going to give chances are she won't either

QUESTION:
Do single men save more money than married men?
also do single men save more money to invest,CD accounts,savings and then they become richer in life than married men?Married men spend thousands of dollars yearly on their children if they have them also like 0 on food each month if they have a large family.Lots of families this christmas could not get gifts because they had a tight budget.Lots of married men don't have alot of money for themselves because it goes all to bills,supplies for their children,and if they have a wife that likes to shop alot and spends alot of money in shopping at the mall.On the other hand,single men only spend money for themselves also they could budget easier,and average they spend on food is about 0-200 a month.They could work 60 hours a week if they wanted to because they don't have no responsibility and save about 2k a month if they have a high paying job,and then invest every month then in later life they could have alot of money.
also its dangerous if they get divorce because they could lose their car,half of their salary,also pay $$$$$ to child support.

• ANSWER:
  Single men are very bad at saving for the future, most belong to the live for today school of thought.

  Obviously the single man has lower overheads so at the end of the month he will have more left to spend as he chooses.

  I'm 62 and never married yet I do not have a lot of cash as I actually enjoyed my life. I have no idea how much a pair of children's shoes cost, nor do I care. I have enough cash that I can do as I please in whatever years I have left. My intention is to spend it all and be buried in a paupers grave. For sure when I go I can't take it with me.

  Ian M

QUESTION:
Are married men who flirt want whoopee or what?
At my church, I know a man who is in leadership position and he really likes to tease me a lot. I can't help it but I smile every time he does this, I get goo inside for some reason. He is handsome, but married and so am I. I've been going to the church for year by myself. Do men who flirt with a women means he likes her or just like joking around? He even gives me a sexy look too. I counted he flirted with me 23 times since I've gone to church. I want to tell him to stop, especially since I guy told me he noticed this guy jokes with me a lot. I got worried that other people may have noticed too. What does his flirting style mean? What's next, let's go to motel 6?
I was joking about the motel 6. I do want him to stop, though. goo means good inside I forgot the "d" I'm only smiling at him not flirting back with him, I think some of you are misunderstanding the question. Do married men who with a woman a lot want sex? I didn't ask for him to do this to me at all.

• ANSWER:
  Sometimes they do it hoping for sex...sometimes it's just for the attention (who doesn't like positive attention)...we can't know if this guy has an ulterior motive but if you wouldn't accept his attention with your husband standing there watching, then let the guy know you feel it's not appropriate...

  Don't do anything you wouldn't do in front of your partner, or wouldn't want your partner doing with someone else...that's a good way to stay out of trouble with your significant other...

QUESTION:
Is it true that married men get hit on more?
My husband and I do not wear wedding rings (that's another story but it is not because we don't want to wear rings).

I half joking/half serious told him I want him to start wearing a ring so women know he is married. He replied that women will probably hit on him more when they know he is married.

We have all heard this before. Is it a myth or truth?

Why would this be so?

• ANSWER:
  Myth. I wear a ring. I consider myself decent looking for a guy. I used to get hit on as a single man all the time. Getting hit on now is quite rare.

  Personally, I think women are attracted to married men only when 1) the men are attractive and successful, and 2) the women think they have a shot at him. If the married man puts out the "not interested, I'm happy" vibe, then most women leave him alone. But I think sporting the ring is one of the key ingredients to that vibe. On the other hand, if he's flirty, I think he'll attract more women, married or not.

QUESTION:
why the men who are married and has children still looking for a girl and want to get them?
i wonder what is the men reseon for doing that.are they want to play game or they might say true.i wonder specialy about the men who were fallen in love with their wife and after 3 or 4 years they are looking for a girls!!!!!!what's ur openion about it??do you hate of them??im one of a person who loved by married man and he is about 26.27 years old what should be my react?
my man who im love by him was fall in love with his wife.(as i heard)

• ANSWER:
  there's just a few reason, some women thinks that because they've already married to a man, it's not even worth it to try and keep this man in their life because they think it's impossible for him to leave them, so they let themselves go, they dont try to be sexy anymore, they even go to bed with granny panties and shorts, so some men lost interest in them, and i do not hate those men, because they're not getting any love at home so it's only a matter of time for them to start getting some outside. I have nothing against those.
  And yes, they might fall in love with someone else.

  Some other men were forced into the marriage, had no chance to think if this was the right person for them, they didn't know that person enough, but because the girl was pregnant or for some other reasons they get rushed into marrying that person, after a couple of years they realized that it's not a match, so they look elsewhere. Again, i have no problem with those, and yes they might fall in love with someone else.

  on the other hand, some men are just players, they're can't get enough, they have to go outside of their marriage even if the wife is given them everything they want. they just love to cheat, those i despise.

  But either way, i suggest u stay away from married man, whatever the reason is, u do not want to be the one responsible for destroying a family.

  Gud luck

QUESTION:
Why do I always get indecent proposals from some married men?
Whenever they ask me if I'm in a relationship and I answer them no, the next thing they will do is make comments about how they like me and that they want to be the man in my life someday. It's insulting that they even think I would agree to be their other woman. Creepy.

• ANSWER:
  dedicated,

  Evidently you must have the age old curse of too nice/ too pretty. You also might be suffering from the I flirt without even knowing it syndrome. Some women are cursed with an unusually strong sexiness. Men say the ooze sex. It is not intentional on your part, it just is.

  I suggest that you try to understand what it is they are seeing when they watch you or are around you. Solicit other women for comments about what you are missing. You are evidently not seeing it. Somehow or another they get the impression that you do and will. A lot of it's their imagination, but it gets started with what they see. sorry.

  Not trying to offend you by this, but just want you to understand something about the opposite sex. If a man sees a naked woman, he goes off in his mind to where he knows she wants to go. But if you take the same woman, and clothe her in something that gives hints as to what she has, the man's imagination I assure you will fill in the blanks.

  A man's imagination is very inventive when it comes to filling in the blanks. Think of it like this. You know the game, wheel of fortune. Well how many letters do you need to solve the puzzle? With a woman? Come on, I think as a man I can figure out what you want with very few clues, cause my ego makes me think I can.

  Once you get a clue from your friends as to what it is men see, than change the behavior and dress and the results will be different.

  Hope that helps.

QUESTION:
What does it mean when a girl stays away from married men?
What do you think about a girl that decides to get engaged and stays away from a married guy?
They both liked each other when he was engaged but could not pursue a relationship. He is now married and wants an affair with her but she tells him she is getting engaged while smiling why? She is 18.

• ANSWER:
  that she is not scum

QUESTION:
Why do married women have affairs with other men?
my neighbor wants to have an affair with me. I'm 24 years old and she's 33. I am her gardener. She's married and has 3 kids. Why would she want to have an affair? I personally know her husband but I don't understand why she would want an affair?

• ANSWER:
  There are many reasons women have affairs. Usually it is because emotional or sexual needs are not being met by their husbands. It could also be boredom or curiosity. Perhaps a mixture of all of the above.

QUESTION:
For men who have had affairs with married women: Why did you do it?
How did it end? How did you feel about the whole thing? Do you regret it?

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
Why do married women get involved in emotional affairs with other married men?
Is it right for a woman married for 14 years and having two kids to write a passionate loveletter to a happily married classmate?
Why don't women end their marriages before they start an affair?
Can one's inlaws influence a wife to disrespect her husband so much that she get in an emotional affair?
Do women in distress choose the pros and cons before they get involved in an extramarital affairs?
Can doubting the character of a women really drive her to actually live it?
Do women think of their kids and family reputation before they when they start an extramarital affair?
Is lack of something at home the main force behind this wayward behaviour?
Please answer any or all of these mind-numbing questions even though these have mased up my life more than they appear here.
Yeah, It's me. I enjoy crazycat's answer.

• ANSWER:
  I have never once fully questioned anyone that could in clear conscious say they did everything they could have done to save a marriage when infidelity was involved. This is a crisis of honor. Nothing exist in a vacuum and there is always two sides to every story. Having said this the person the goes behind a spouses back to have an affair has shown their lack of integrity and personal ethics. This is your first indication of who has the real weakness.

  Marital affairs can be explained but never justified. Infidelity is a betrayal of the worse kind. It hurts the family, the children, and the marital bond. The whole family emotional health is in jeopardy in this scenario.

  When a man or a woman get romantically involved outside of the marriage it is strictly a selfish, self-centered, and self-justified act. Of course all the other controlling consequences are not factored in. The unfaithful is only seeing their side of the equation. They want what they want without out opposition. This is also an act of illusion and disillusion. This is a crisis in communication and an inability to express their real concerns in the midst of opposition.

  Yes the other side of the equation, the husband or wife, carry culpability. To what degree open discussion can only reveal this information.

QUESTION:
Why Do Single Women Have Affairs With Married Men?
Why Do Single Women Have Ongoing Affairs With Married Men - when the man can't offer any type of public relationship. I know there's no universal answer. But I'm still looking to find what the typical mindset is. Or what some mindsets are. Is a private, strictly physical relationship good enough for some? Or is it the hope that the relationship can someday go public? Or is it both? Or is there a different reason?

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
Why do women have affairs with married men?
If a woman knows a man is married and maybe he even has children. Why would she move forward in a false relationship that can only end in despair.

• ANSWER:
  I don't know. Why do men have affairs with married women? Lack of respect for a commitment made in wedlock applies to both sexes.

QUESTION:
why do married women have affairs?
what are the reasons?????????
is it possible that they catch feelings for the new lover...miss him think of him....what do you think about these women?

• ANSWER:
  The same reason anyone cheats - they lack moral fortitude, they lack maturity, and they are selfish - they love themselves and their needs more than anything or anyone else.

  There are many 'rationalizations' for why someone cheats, but the 'reasons' are rooted in lack of morals, immaturity, and selfishness.

  The responsibility for cheating lays squarely on the cheaters shoulders. Any problems in a marriage would be handled differently by a mature, compassionate, moral spouse.

QUESTION:
Why do married women have affairs?

I'm sorry so many people got offended. I have already heard about why men do it, so I was wondering why women do it.

• ANSWER:
  Shouldn't The question be why do SOME people in GENERAL have affairs? Men Cheat. Women Cheat. Reasons :

  Fallen Out of Love.
  Sex Is no longer there.
  Sex got boring.
  They didn't think long term with their decision.
  They Don't care who they hurt and are selfish.
  They feel lonely.

  The list can go on and on.

QUESTION:
Why do single women have affairs with married men?
Especially those women who are pretty, intelligent and/or successful? Just curious.

• ANSWER:
  maybe fear of a real working relationship or commitment?...could be that they are jealous of the life the wife has and wants it for her own...it could be a lot of reasons just depends on the girl whom you are asking about?...

QUESTION:
Why do married women have affairs with other married men?

• ANSWER:
  They wanted to spice up their lives. If a married woman have an affair with a single man, it complicate things. The man may do something to break the marriage- what if the woman just need a fling- married men are easier to handle, have more experience can easily understand DISCREET.

QUESTION:
Why do married women gang up on single women on here?
Whenever there is a question on here when there is a woman having an affair with a married man, the married women always call her names but say nothing about the man who actualy has a commitment to his wife.

Why do married women gang up like this?

i dont agree with affairs but when there is a question on here regarding affairs i answer it without judgment, why cant married women do the same?

• ANSWER:
  Whoa there, I'm a single woman and I've NEVER had the married women here gang up on me...but maybe that's because I don't sleep with married men. They most certainly DO point out that the husband is a cheating dickwad, they don't just blame the idiot woman that's sleeping with him.

  The type of question you see the married women (and most other users) gang up on is usually along the lines of " Why won't he leave his horrible wife for me???" and those are usually troll questions, anyway.

QUESTION:
Why do you hear more of Married Women who have affairs leaving their husbands....?
Why do you hear of more married women leaving thier husbands for other men than you do of married men leaving thier wives for other women... ??? You hear of men having more affairs but women actually having affairs and leaving... why is that?

Ps does my question make sense???

To clarify... I hear stories of bothmen and women having affairs but of the 2 the woman is more likely to leave the relationship for the man than the man is to leave for the woman.. Correct?

Is this because women tend to follow their hearts so know they want to be with the guy and men tend to follow thier heads and are thinking about money and property etc?
Sorry to hear that Wifey... probably better off without him anyway! xx

• ANSWER:
  Men tend to have affairs because it makes them feel like they still have it. Men tend to stay because they have a need to take care of the person they initially committed to even if they have an affair especially when there are kids involved. Even if the Man falls in love with the affair partner that doesn't mean they will leave their wife.

  Women tend to have affairs because they aren't getting the support they need from their primary relationship. As a result if they find it in an affair it is more likely that they will end their primary relationship in favor of the new relationship.

  Men have affairs because they can. Women have affairs because they need to.

QUESTION:
why do married women only have affairs with hot guys.?
the guys are always way better looking than their husbands

• ANSWER:
  when you cheat your suppose to upgrade. If you cheat with someone ugly they will rub it in your face later.

QUESTION:
Why do these women who have affairs with married celebrities all keep quiet until one is found out?
Once one is discovered or comes out, it's like they start coming out of the woodwork.
Are they trying to get in on the spotlight, even though they're seen as homewreckers, or what?

• ANSWER:
  I think they think they are "playing their cards right." I'm way too absorbed in the Jesse James thing, not sure why. I couldn't care less about Tiger. I think they want a tiny bit of fame and they want money too. So they hold onto the story as some kind of "ace in the hole." Then one comes forward and the rest realize they need to come forward too, or the world will have moved on to the next thing and no one will pay them or pay any attention to them.

QUESTION:
Why do some married women want to have emotional affairs with other men that may be younger?

• ANSWER:
  Because their emotional needs aren't being met by the man to whom they're married. They choose younger men because a woman's sexual peak happens at about age 40, but a man's sexual peak is reached before he's 25. ~:|>

QUESTION:
Why do some women have affairs with married men?
Why do they even want to be used like that? These men just think these women are dumb. I don't know how some women can fall for this trap. I personally lose respect for married men who flirt with me and want nothing to do with them.
It's also very desperate to sleep with a married man lol.

• ANSWER:
  First because they like the feeling (i got him when he was married) second they are just slutty women who don't respect themselves. And third they actually think the man is going to leave his wife for them.

QUESTION:
Why do married women in their late 20's early 30's have affairs?
What are they wanting? Who will they seek out for their lover?

• ANSWER:
  Honestly, because it is a woman's world now. Women know they can and do. Husbands and bf's don't keep us satisfied and we find fulfillment else wear. I'm not saying its right, but women have more power than men today and we succumb to temptation. I know, it happened to me.

QUESTION:
As a percentage, how many married women think about having affairs? Why do you think your number is correct?

• ANSWER:
  less than 30%. unlike men, women are not as easily tempted as guys are. there are boat loads of women wearing tight and low cut clothes with sayings going across the breast and butt. even though in my opinion, women are bigger freaks, they also have more loyalty traits that guys do.

QUESTION:
Why do alot of married woman like having affairs ?
I'm a married man and enjoy having affairs with married woman ..I've been a member on ashley madison for about 9 months.. I had great success meeting plenty of married woman because their husbands could not meet their needs and would like to improve my profile on the site. I was wondering what girls like to see on a mans profile when looking for an intimate discreet affair...I'm just looking to enhance my profile to get even more married girls. For some reason i have more success with married woman than single, Also iwas wondering why married ladies prefer married men ?
thank you.

• ANSWER:
  I think women tend to cheat for the excitement an the desire.. On your profile show that

QUESTION:
why do married men and married women have an affair ?
and while they are doing that trash their partner that they are with, and for some reason dont leave that partner? and why do they have so much to talk about as with their spouses?

• ANSWER:
  It's the unknown which causes excitement. Like hunters, its the thrill of the "kill".

QUESTION:
Why do married Conservative men have affairs with men instead of women?
Is it because they can't knock up men?

• ANSWER:
  I'm a Conservative Married man and have never had an affair.
  If I was going to, it certainly would not be with another man.
  What's your excuse?

QUESTION:
A question for married women who have had affairs...why did you?

• ANSWER:
  same reasons as men,

  Pure selfishness

QUESTION:
Why do girls have affairs with married men?
I usually answer questions on here, this is my first time asking one.
I have seen way too many questions on here by young girls who have been having an affair with a married man.
Why would a woman sleep with another womans husband?

• ANSWER:
  Oddly enough it's not a sexual response as much as it is a respect of the mans maturity. A married man isn't afraid of commitment, quite often is employed, educated, and experienced. A married man goes through stages though. One stage called a mid life crisis. THIS is when most women target their next husband.

QUESTION:
Why don't Indian laws punish women who have affairs with married men?
Wife can file cases of cruelty against husband if he's adulterous.

But why laws spare the "other woman" especially when she was aware of the marital status of her boy friend.Did she not commit a sin by ruining the wife's life?

Or is it that Indian laws think she's a lunatic retarded baby who did not realise she is doing something immoral.So she was spared!

• ANSWER:
  If a woman,married,commits Adultery,that is has physical intercourse with a man who is not her husband,she is liable be divorced by her husband.Similarly,if a man commits Adultery,he is liable to be divorced.The reason why the women who have affairs with married men are not punished is that the married man may divorce his wife and may even marry such lady who is now his love.So,the equation is that unmarried woman can have affairs, but not married women or married men.In other words, a free fish can be caught but not the already a commited fish to another fish!

QUESTION:
Why do married women give their phone numbers and such to single men?
Hi!

Okay, this happens to me a whole lot. Married women approach me a lot at dances and other events and they give me their telephone numbers and ask for mine. These same married women get obsessed with text-messaging, emailing, and such, and try to meet me for lunch. I finally stopped giving married women my number IF I know they are married. BUT there are a good many married women who don't wear wedding rings, never mention a husband, and they ask for my phone number. Then later, I find out they are married. What do these married women want? I have 15-20 married women's phone numbers and it's crazy. I know 10 married women who never mention their husbands and they never wear wedding rings. When I find out they are married, I stop communicating and that makes some of them go crazy nuts trying to find out why I stopped communicating. I'm not making this up. A male friend of mine who is also single said that this happens to him as well. Since Yahoo answers is fairly anonymous, I'm asking the following question.

Married women....What do you want or expect when you give your contact info to single men? Do you want someone to talk to? If it's an affair, I am not into that. I've been told that I am a good listener and that women like that. I try to be nice. Some people think I'm a bit of a risk taker and a rebel, (as is the Yahoo name I chose). But I'm not rebel enough to have an affair with a married woman. But then they make me feel sad with long emails and long text messages about how unhappy they are, and then I respond back. All of this may sound made up, but it isn't. I don't get offended when married women want to be friends, but demand more attention than I can give. I am trying to spend more of my time with single women.

Anyway, just curious as to why married women are so unhappy, why they don't wear their rings, and why they obsesses over single men?
I'm thinking..."If a married woman is that unhappy, why doesn't she get a divorce and then we can be closer" If you have a creep husband and you meet a guy you like, get a divorce, then be closer friends with a new guy. Does any of this make any sense? Or do I sound mentally out to lunch and zany?

• ANSWER:
  Their husbands are not giving them the attention they want or they no longer desire their husbands attentions. But there is something that they do get from their husbands that they are not ready to give up. It's probably an economic thing. It's not just married women that are doing this. Women in supposedly monogamous relationships do it too.

  You seem to try to live by a code of honor about this. I commend you for trying.

QUESTION:
Why do some married men (with beautiful wives) have affairs with hideously ugly women?
I used to know someone who was always having sex with other women behind his wifes back and not only were they real monsters to look at, but they had terrible personalities too. I always wondered why. Can any1 shed any light on this?

• ANSWER:
  maybe his wife was a boring lay & lame in the bed OR he just had a bad character

QUESTION:
to all single women cheating with married men- why do single women date married men?
why do single women have affairs with married men- do you not feel guilty???... do you want to hurt the woman?

• ANSWER:
  I for one don't .But you are putting the blame on the single woman.The married man is the one who is married.And if one says no I won't talk to you or date you he will find someone who will.
  No I don't think they are trying to hurt the woman.She isn't the husband is.And maybe she hopes the wife finds out what a rotten man she married to.

QUESTION:
When women have affairs w/married men, why do they expect their MARRIED lover to be faithful to them?
http://sports.yahoo.com/nfl/news?slug=ap-mcnairkilled&prov=ap&type=lgns
If they couldn't be faithful to their WIVES (and often kids too), why would they be faithful to a side piece? This applies to men having EAs with married women too...
Sorry, I shouldn't say I don't believe you. That sounds too confrontational. I just disagree...
Doodlest, I don't agree or believe you. I wont go so far as to say once a cheater always a cheater. But I think if someone's mentality is to cheat when there are problems, then that way of thinking won't change unless they grow up!

• ANSWER:
  Because they believe the man's lies, stupidly, and have low morals.

QUESTION:
Why do some women want to have affairs with married men?
I just don't get it!
that makes sense, thanks sophie

• ANSWER:
  married men have had the time to practice and they're looking for someone to please. now if you're wanting to know what makes a single woman choose a married man, well she doesn't go out specifically looking for that kind of guy it's just that he usually pretends he's single and is mixed in with the other singles and doesn't tell the truth until there's been some intermingling, and then just like any relationship of that kind it's hard to break off.
  there are some women out there who would just prefer to date but there are also serious women out there looking for a husband and then a fibber comes along but the good points outweigh the bad so the fibbing is the least thing of all to consider.

QUESTION:
Why do married men/women have an affair instead of just getting a divorce?
If you aren't happy, just leave..

• ANSWER:
  Just leaving is not always comfortable. I am in a pretty annoying spot right now. My woman and I live together and we have two kids together. She is angry almost all the time. I have been sleeping on the couch for almost a year. We get intimate once a month if we are lucky and it is typically hurried and barely satisfying. She is so unapproachable I would rather not be intimate than risk seeing her attitude. But to be fair, she says the same thing about me. I see her as the problem, she sees me as the problem. I never cheat on her. I never have cheated on her. She is the only woman I have "been with" in nearly 5 years. The way I see it, I would leave before I would cheat. But honestly if I cheated we would probably get along better. With no relief I stay loaded with testosterone all the time. I am in a perpetual state of roid-rage even though I take no steroids. There is a benefit. I am putting on some good muscle when weight training

QUESTION:
why do married men have affairs with other women and don't tell them they are married?

• ANSWER:
  EGO!
  They want their cake & ice cream.
  EGO!
  They want their wife at home & wifey in the other home.
  EGO!
  They have enough money to support the wife & spoil the mistress.
  EGO!
  Because they can often get away with this and it stokes his...
  EGO!

QUESTION:
Why do married women sometimes cheat on their spouse ?
Is it because they are bored ? Is it because they love sex ? Is it because they are unhappy with their husband ? Is it because it's dangerous and exciting ? Is it because men cheat also ?

Question from a single man who is being sought after by a married woman and she has made it clear she wants to have an affair.

• ANSWER:
  women always excuse on having a bad marriage, etc but the Truth is that most of the time they do it fo the sex just like the guys

QUESTION:
Women why do you have affairs with married men?
Don't you care about hurting his wife and kids
Hi Valerie do you ever feel like beating down some of these ho's i mean even if it ain't your man a friend of mine just found out and i told her i will beat him and that bittch both down for her if she likes and I'm serious

You FN ho's need to stop and think if you know he's married it should never happen and if he lied to you when you find out you need to break it off and call his wife and beg for forgivness

• ANSWER:
  Hi Nina!

  : )

  Very Appropriate question, seeing is today is "Whore Wednesday" here on Yahoo Answers!

QUESTION:
Why do some single women have affairs with older married men?
And I'm not talking about the kind of woman who thinks the guy is going to leave his wife.

• ANSWER:
  ask them!!! lol.......

QUESTION:
Why do single guys like married women?
Why do single guys hit on married women when they know they are clearly married? Also why do they think they can have an emotional relationship with them, tell them they are in love with them, end the affair, and then agree to hook up with them after the affair is over? The woman has to have some emotional attachment to them, are they using them, or do they think that the woman will leave their husband for them, if they act like they aren't interested?

• ANSWER:
  I think this question says more about the married woman than the single guy. Next time you want to have an affair, pick wisely.

QUESTION:
Why do married Filipinas enjoy romantic internet affairs so much?
I'm having internet affairs with like 3 or 4 married Filipina women. And none of them have even the slightest worry or concern for the feelings of their poor, overseas-working husbands. And none of them have ever asked for a dime in the months and years we've been communicating. Just a lot of cybersex.
But I think a couple of them had said that they were forced into marriage after their "husbands" raped them and got them pregnant. So maybe that's got something to do with it.

• ANSWER:
  Rather than to actually engage in adultery married women resort to cybersex.

QUESTION:
Why do these women who have affairs with married men and who obviously have no respect for marriage?
insist on answering questions in the marriage section of Y!answers?

I mean, there actually are people on here looking for serious answers to problems in their marriages. I don't think we need help from women who wouldn't have a problem breaking up someone's marriage.
Carmelia...I get your point, but I would have NO desire at all to hear "the other woman's" opinion of how a married man's mind works. I'd say that 9 out of 10 things the husband told her was a lie anyway.
Karen...his really really big problem with his wife is not any of your business. And he probably wouldn't have that big problem if he wasn't screwing YOU!!!
snowynin...YES!!! It absolutely does make me angry when women go around bragging that they are screwing around with someone else's husband. And then they wonder why people think badly about them. So they try to justify their behavior by saying that they weren't responsible because they weren't the ones who were married. That's bull!! Everyone is responsible for his or her own actions.

• ANSWER:
  Bottom line...these skanks who sleep with married men don't need to be heard. The husband is probably feeding them some line of BS anyway of how his wife isn't breaking him off as much or at all anymore and she isn't sucking his d*ck anymore either. BAM...he's found the slut to do the job. Nobody owes them any respect! If the guys having issues with his wife and with his marriage, maybe he should grow some balls and ask for a divorce, go to therapy, or just ACCEPT IT!

  ***I've never been cheated on or been the skank to sleep with a married man. I'm just stating the obvious.

QUESTION:
TO ALL MARRIED WOMEN WHO HAD AFFAIRS?
A married woman has a husband who has an erectile dysfunction. The husband withdraw emotional support for her because of his erectile dysfunction. The woman went into an affair. Which do you think is the primary reason why the woman went into an affair? Is is because of the lack of sex or is it because of the withdrawal of emotional support? Choose only one please
The husband refused to have his erectile dysfunction treated before the affair started

• ANSWER:
  Lack of emotional support.
  People don't usually cheat because the other person is sexier, better looking etc..... they cheat mainly because of the way the other person they are cheating with makes them feel.

QUESTION:
Why do married men still have affairs with other women?

• ANSWER:
  Not all married men do.I think when someone who is married starts having an affair,whether it be a man or a woman,isnt getting something at home that they need.Maybe it attention from there spouse.But i know that dosent justify an affair.And there are some people out there who just will never be faithful.

QUESTION:
MARRIED WOMEN WHO HAD AFFAIRS?
A married woman has a husband who has an erectile dysfunction. The wife asked him to go and see a doctor and have his erectile dysfunction treated. The husband did not go to the doctor. They even quarelled about it. Instead, the husband withdraw emotional support for her because of his erectile dysfunction. The woman went into an affair. Which do you think is the primary reason why the woman went into an affair? Is is because of the lack of sex or is it because of the withdrawal of emotional support? Choose only one please

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
why are women sluts? why do they have affairs with men that they know are married?
why would you do that -especially in hollywood?

• ANSWER:
  You're a woman asking this??? Where have you been? men cheat too-players

  People have affairs because they are not honest with themselves or their partners and they aren't getting their needs met.

  In Hollywood, it boosts your ratings!

QUESTION:
why do some married women(marriage annuled) get involve with happily married men?jealous with happy women?
I know a separated woman actively involve in extra marital affair with another married man who is happily married. The woman pursues the man and have herself emotionally enshrined, such that the man and his wife's relationship suffers. Most of the time when she knows that thecouple are doing family activity together or just spending time together,she makes varied interrupting calls to disturb the couple. The other woman is a university professor in psychology and a consultant in a particular NGO working in barangays of some local government units. Is her expertise in psychology allow her not to feel guilt, and see other marriages suffer just because her own disintegrated? Does she want to experiment on human emotions and see how far the happy couple will disintegrate too? Why can't she find a man of her own instead of destroying other people's lives? Does she want to prove that married men are easy target just like her own husband who was also an easy target for others?

• ANSWER:
  First of all if this woman is actively involved in an extra marital affair with a married man then that married man is not as happy as he claims to be or else he wouldn't be having an affair.

  When you referred to the "other woman" I am going to assume you were speaking of the woman you know that is pursuing the affair with a married man. If this is the case then being an expertise in any field, including psychology, does not exclude someone from being human and making mistakes that any human may make. We would like to think that the people we go to for help are cable of helping themselves better than this but we are all non-perfect beings.

  If she is "doing an experiment" she isn't being very professional about it because I am sure a part of her oath is "do no harm". More than likely this man is just as guilty as she is in starting this affair. No, that doesn't make it right but remember it does take two to tango.

  As to why she is doing this... She could be suffering from this separation in ways that she doesn't understand. You have probably heard the saying the "the lawyer who represents himself in court is a fool” or something like that... the same holds true for psychiatrist. When you are too close to a subject, even family and friends (but especially yourself) you cannot be objective.

  If this woman is a friend of yours try to talk to her. Be careful to not accuse her of anything. People tend to get defensive when they feel they are being accused of something. Tell her that you are worried about her. Tell her you think her actions are only going to get her hurt and you feel that if she could only stand on the outside and see what she is doing then she would realize this. Make sure you express your concerns in a way that lets her know you are afraid for her... not that you think she is doing something wrong.

QUESTION:
Why do married women always blame the mistress when her husband cheats?
I am just trying to understand why some women put all the blame on the mistress.....i am not saying that the mistress is not at fault here but have we forgotten that your husband was also involved in this little affair....the other woman is not obligated to keep your husband obligated to you...that is his job....yet when he cheats we automatically go to blame the other woman and tear her down....yes she is at fault but she is not the only one to blame...with that being said i would never marry or be in a relationship with a man who cheated on his wife or girlfriend to be with me because if he did it to her he will do it to you....never believe a man when he says he'll leave his wife for you...it rarely happens and i mean think about it would you really want him to?....if he did it to her he will do it to you...and if you think telling his wife will help get him to you....no it won't because 1. he'll either hate you for exposing his dirty little secret or 2. his wife won't leave him...she'll except his apology and his puppy dog eyes and take him back knowing that she deserves better then someone who is willing to risk everything for what is suppose to be meaningless sex....your husbands are the ones risking it all...he knows whats at risk yet he still does it but you focus all your energy and hate on the mistress why is that?

• ANSWER:
  They do this so they can minimize the husbands blame and accountability in the whole event to justify them staying with them

QUESTION:
Married Women: Why Have You Had an Affair?
Was it boredom or were you looking for someone "better"? If it was for a "better" guy, how do you define that?

• ANSWER:
  Wow (*at the other answers*), I'm married, and although have thought about cheating, never have. I should stress I've never seriously considered cheating either... but if a hot guy is on TV, I can't help the images it may put in my head *giggle*. But, I would have to agree with the answers above, and say if I did, it would be because I was bored, wanted something "new" and yes, someone to tell me that I'm beautiful and all that other nice, warm gooey romantic goodness.

QUESTION:
Why do you single women go to the married cheaters web sites to find a man?
There are sites out there that are specifically geared towards married people who want to have affairs. Why do so many single women open profiles on these sites and post how they are looking for Mr. right or they are looking for the right guy or someone who will spend quality time with them? HELLLOOOOOO, it's a site for people looking to hook up! Please explain people.
Beenthere, email me and I'll tell you the dealio.

• ANSWER:
  it's a ploy to get men to sleep with them. desperate women take desperate steps. then they'll try to break up your marriage or ask you for support.
  married ppl should stick to their own kind - that way both sides have something to loose.
  and maybe the site owners put fictitious ads to get ppl to sign up and pay.

QUESTION:
Why do women, married and with children to raise, succumb to an affair?
In my mind, it is obviously the woman’s fault that she goes astray, no one else’s. I know someone who is having an affair.

Should I or should I not tell the husband? So sad that this kind of decadence is creeping into many families. I wish women will see the need for strengthening family ties not just by providing material needs but also by providing role models who are morally upright and God-fearing individuals.

• ANSWER:
  For the same reason men do as well... because they can and/or they feel there is a lacking of something in their relationship, excitement, sex, etc.

  You can always be a REAL friend and rather than out of your own personal judgement (or ulterior motive) trying to end their marriage by exposing her to her husband, you can address her and find out what's going on or at least offer her your friendly ear if she needs someone to talk to.

  I always say, you don't know what's in the pot unless it's you who's doing the stirring and apparently, you're not even holding the spoon. It's not affecting you directly, you're not a part of that family nucleus. You're not the wife, husband or their children. You're simply a judgemental, nosey "friend". I suggest, if you're not going to be the real friend by offering genuine assistance that you mind your business and let them be.

QUESTION:
Interesting posts: WHY DO MARRIED WOMEN CHEAT?
I am contemplating having an affair. NSA sexual affair. Have no intentions on uprooting my roost at home. My husband has taught me that I am not the first thing on his list for way too many years, I've had his kids, I'm a fantastic mother and professional who needs to feel alive, wants to feel alive. Yes, women have needs. They call it "the urge to spread the seed" for men, but the drive and the desire is all the same, male or female. I don't know what in the world would ever bring that back into my marriage, lingerie? bars? swing? he wouldn't do it....my question is "Why get married at all" , some say b/c they'll never be alone, the financial security, they are "happy" yeah right, if so, you are rare and few...being married isn't natural, I don't care how old of an institution it is, and they call it that for a reason.....why can't we have kids, live together, reap the rewards of it, grow old and have NSA's once in blue blue moon...

• ANSWER:
  Woman actually cheat more often than is admitted to. However it is not always about sex that woman end up with another man. Lack of interaction at home, the feeling that she needs more physical closeness, or maybe simply because the husband has an affair himself.
  Marriage is not for everyone, and as we age, it becomes complaciancy that keeps a marriage together often.
  I hope you the best in the future. But before you find "happiness" with a another man, try talking to youe spouse about how things are missing at home. Heck, find a female friend to talk to, you'd be suprised to learn she probably feels the same way.

QUESTION:
Why do guys marry women who dont like sex?
Seems a lot of men complain that they don't get enough action from their wives, so why do they marry women who don't like sex? Is it because they feel "safe" that their woman wont leave them for someone else after having an affair? Why? I liked having sex with my boyfriend, I'm attractive, have a good personality, smart, etc but he still dumped me.

• ANSWER:
  Often when people get married they just dont have as much sex. Its not always the women, sometimes the guys lose interest also. But before marriage the sex life might have been good.

QUESTION:
Married men why do you guys have affairs with other women???

• ANSWER:
  There are lots of answers. Life can get complicated.

  To this day, I do not know if my father had an affair. My mother often thought he might have had one. As an adult I can now understand why he might have had one.

  In his case, it is probable that they did not have intercourse for the last 10 years. She was ill, but more just very cranky and at times mean and abusive in the legal sense.(social services grilled her about my brother) (nobody wanted her to go to jail). As Catholics they did not believe in divorce. Also it helped keep the illusion of a family going, and everyone housed and fed.
  My mom couldn't/wouldn't go see a therapist nor doctor for her various problems which got worse. If my father left her, she could not have survived on her own. As she was thinking about leaving him, she suddenly died solving the problem.

  Others have their own reasons. Many are more mundane - like having their cake and eating it too.

QUESTION:
Have you ever had an affair? If so, what made you do it? (Just curious as to why married women cheat)?

• ANSWER:
  yes sort of didn't have sex with another man only kissed then felt really guilty to me if I was even willing to do that its time to separate from abusive-non affectionate-unless wanted sex husband-
  I never thought of myself as the cheating kind but I was lonely but it was still wrong

QUESTION:
Why would women be interested in having an affair with a married man?
I don't mean the women that sleep with the likes of John Terry and Ashley Cole, it;s so obvious they do it for media attention,and money they get for selling their stories.

• ANSWER:
  having had the majority of my 'relationships' with married or attached men (before I got married) I totally understand why I did it.

  Personally with a married man you KNOW theres going to be no commitment issues - ie hes NEVER going to leave his wife for you - so at no point was I really in a relationship - which left me free to do what I wanted, when I wanted. I had no problem flirting with other blokes despite being in a relationship with a married/attached bloke because they had no hold over me. I saw more of my friends, went out etc.

  Ive always thought the 'other woman' got more hassle than she should do. If a man (or woman) was secure and happy in his (or her) relationship, he (or she) wouldnt be tempted.

  I NEVER put it on a plate, NEVER persuaded a bloke to go out with me, so really in my eyes I had done nothing wrong. If he didnt want to be 'stolen', he wouldnt.

  I reckon that those who do have an affair should definately take the brunt of all bad things rather than the other person.

  Look at it like this. Im married now, I see hot blokes every day, I could have an affair at any time, but I love my husband dearly and nothing could tempt me away.

QUESTION:
Married Cheaters?
Can someone please tell me HOW anyone ( male or Female ) can cheat on their spouse or the one they "supposedly" love? The cheating I am referring to is having unprotected sex with someone other than their spouse. In my opinion the person does or could not possibly love their partner, IF they are willing to put them at risk for STD's or the emotional mess that can occur.
No Alcohol or Drugs were involved during the cheating -- For either party

• ANSWER:
  I agree -- they CAN'T love their spouse if they would even consider cheating.. From what I have seen a similiar situation the
  male was spoiled, and immature. All he cared about what himself. And his "TOYS" (cars, 4-wheelers-snow mobiles, etc) And after he cheated, he felt SOooooooooooo guilty , but it was because he was afraid he was going to get caught

QUESTION:
Given the high % of married cheaters, why do ppl who admit it are judged so harshly on the Y?
Away from this forum ( M & D) for over a year. Came back to read that admitted cheaters are still treated as scum while there is one in every other family. Worse, with the divorce rate being so high, the next person you marry could have been an ex-cheater. ( NOT A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE)

• ANSWER:
  Just because a lot of people cheat doesn't suddenly make it right. They have every right to be screamed at and told that, yes, they are scum and have no self-control.

QUESTION:
What happens to married cheaters after they jump from one relationship to the next?
My husband left me after 8 yrs of marriage and is already in another relationship with a new woman (some skank he met online for sex) Will the new eventually wear off and the old shine through? I'm kicking his *** to the curb and slamming that door if he ever tries to return. Divorce papers have been filed by me.

• ANSWER:
  You go girl, of course this new relationship isn't going to work, it isn't love it is lust. I hope you stick to your guns and slam that door just as hard as you can. You can do better then that creep. He is going to end up penny less, homeless and with some STD. I wish you the best of luck sista.

QUESTION:
Why do cheaters bother getting married?
Since cheaters enjoy sleeping around, why bother getting married and having kids? It seems pretty pointless and cruel to do something like that to family, doesn't it?

• ANSWER:
  They seem to think "It's all about me," and don't seem to care about the carnage they leave behind. The true definition of a sociopath.

QUESTION:
Serial cheaters, In your experience is it better to have an affair with a married or unmarried person?
Professional cheaters, not the people who live in a fantasy world of my spouse never would, blah, blah, blah, one person forever? Hell, you get the itch you scratch it. In your experience which is better? Married or single? I would think married would know the rules and won't get attached, and do things to mark you, you know what I mean.

• ANSWER:
  in this order:

  1.married
  2.has a Boy friend
  3.Single

QUESTION:
Why do you single women go to the married cheaters web sites to find a man?
There are sites out there that are specifically geared towards married people who want to have affairs. Why do so many single women open profiles on these sites and post how they are looking for Mr. right or they are looking for the right guy or someone who will spend quality time with them? HELLLOOOOOO, it's a site for people looking to hook up! Please explain people.
Beenthere, email me and I'll tell you the dealio.

• ANSWER:
  it's a ploy to get men to sleep with them. desperate women take desperate steps. then they'll try to break up your marriage or ask you for support.
  married ppl should stick to their own kind - that way both sides have something to loose.
  and maybe the site owners put fictitious ads to get ppl to sign up and pay.

QUESTION:
Why do women hate cheaters but also have friends who date married men?
I don't get it. Women usually chastise the guy for being an A$$ and jerk but many women also have friends who they know are dating or have dated a married guy but don't go off on them.

What's up with that?

• ANSWER:
  It doesn't affect them unless those women are dating their husbands. No one cares about anything that doesn't have anything to do with them.

QUESTION:
Will the married cheaters relationship work?
I've been married to my husband 1 yr, together 3 yrs. He told me (2 months ago) he was seeing a woman he works with, she is married AND MY HUSBAND has worked with her husband for the last 3 yrs. I know her & her husband. She's been married for 15 yrs & is now divorcing him (for my husband), and my husband wants a divorce. He says he doesn't want to marry her, nor ever get married again. My husband & I are 46 yrs old, have a brand new house, everything was fine NOTHING was going wrong for him to do this to me. Infact, he is the VERY LAST person I thought would ever do this to me. I had 1000% trust in him. He says that she makes him feel something he's never felt before. He's given me reason to believe he's going to move her in the new home we bought together.
I want to know if they're going to last? Can both married cheaters make a relationship work? Her home may have gotten dull, but there wasn't that in our home. He has boxes for me to pack my things and leave. Help!
He even wants to keep VERY personal things of MINE and wants our pictures...I don't understand why if he has gotten himself involved with another woman?

• ANSWER:
  DAAAAAMMMM, I'm so sorry to hear this, but the reality is, KARMA'S GONNA CATCH UP TO BOTH OF 'EM!!!!!!!

QUESTION:
Do cheaters (especially married ones) have a growing up problem?
After all, why would anyone who is thinking in a mature and rational way, risk losing both their spouse and a lot of their money in divorce settlements just to get their rocks off, because wouldn't that certainly qualify as making a dumb decision that comes back to bite someone on their backside later?

• ANSWER:
  They have a DERP problem

QUESTION:
All of you married cheaters answer please?
Do you tell the one that your cheating with right up front that you are married? Or only tell them your married if its going to be an ongoing booty call? Or let them figure it out on their own?

• ANSWER:
  i would never ever cheat on my partner. but if i was about to then i would tell that im married. maybe that someone would stop me

QUESTION:
I am in a 20 year marriage and not happy(both cheaters and married young). I stay out of fear. Is this normal?
I am in a 20 year marriage and not happy(both cheaters and married young at 22). I have wanted to leave for years(my wife refuses to "give up"). But, the fear of being single and alone binds me into this unsatisfactory relationship. What's a guy to do???

• ANSWER:
  Get out now before its to late.

QUESTION:
Married cheaters - why?
Why do you stay married if you want to cheat?

• ANSWER:
  I love my wife very much, I really realy do, she is a great woman. I honestly mean that.

  But seriously, if she doesn't at least make SOME effort to help improve our sex life and start putting out sometime soon, I'll be forced to get that love and affection elswear. I've done everything I can, with no luck, and nor positive results. It's up to HER now t oget checked out medically, change her medications, whatever. It's been way too long (and I don't mean 1 week, I'm talking 2- 3 months, I stopped keeping track after so long) And she makes NO effort to satistfy me, and if I try to talk about it? Oh forget it, just gets her angry.

  It's getting really frustrating, and you know what, my eyes have been wandering more and more as the time goes on....I never wanted to be a cheater, I still don't want to, but I'll be completely honest with you....I can't predict what might happen if I'm hit on or connect with another woman right now.

  Talking solves nothing, I've tried it. Romance, does nothing but get me a "Thank you, you're sweet." She can sit on her bum all day and I'll do all the chores, Dinner is made for her every single night for her by me, when she walks in the door, and I don't mean Ramen soup and boxed maccaroni, She has plenty of space. She cuddles up with me, and then gets pissed at me when all I want is a nice deep kiss. And therapy? She says she'll go but doesn't believe she has a problem.

  What more can I do?

QUESTION:
Married Cheaters out There??
Do you think it is possible for a Married man to stop cheating, even if he find ways to continue after being caught? I just want opinions from those who do this "anomalously of course"!!
How about not answering if it doesn't apply....I am not "stereo-typing" anyone

• ANSWER:
  Can a Married man stop cheating..........answer 'Yes', and it's called will-power. Easier said than done, but once you've learned to priorities/value the important things in your life like your wife, kids, career you'll find yourself pulling away from this addiction.
  Besides i'm sure years from now when you look back on your life... you wouldn't want to remember yourself as a LOSER or someone who didn't have any control over his life...Would you?
  ...and 'NO'...i ain't a cheater ....lucky for me i'm still single and free to mingle.

QUESTION:
why is it dat men always lie and they are cheaters and always desive girls dats why i dont want to get married?
my husband cheat and lie to me he even follows small girls while me am big.

• ANSWER:
  There are perverted souls also in this world. not all men are like him.

QUESTION:
Why do cheaters get married?
You know you are not ready. You know who you are.. So, why get married? You know somewhere down the road you will cheat.

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
Why do women think sleeping with married men doesn't make them cheaters?
Just as the married guy is harming his family the woman is not excused and is part of the same deceptive behavior.

If your not calling his home because his wife will answer

If you stay away from his house due to his wife.

and your sneaking around with him to have sex your just as scummy and guilty.

• ANSWER:
  Y'know, I actually agree with you, Rickey. That makes twice now. Imagine that.

  I saw the answers you got to your Tiger Woods question, and it did indeed seem as though people were placing the onus on Mr. Woods. While I'd argue that someone who's married has a greater responsibility to his relationship than someone outside of that relationship, I do think you've hit the nail on the head here. Certainly if someone knows that the person they're having sex with is married, that person is not innocent of bad behavior.

QUESTION:
Is there a web site to send anonymously to a married cheater ?
I want to touch them in some sort of good way. It's awful that people are living lies. They don't realize who all they are or will be hurting. Is there a inspirational web site I can send to them?

• ANSWER:
  You want to touch them in a good way? Don't touch those. You don't know where they've been!

QUESTION:
Letting married cheaters wife know??
he was trying to get in my pants for months on end and try to cheat. i wsa thinking on letting her know b ut in a VERY subte way. i might call and when she answers say " frank ( her husbands) " realy quitely and then if she says nO its franks wife, then i wil say " Oh im sorry wrong number" That is wi/out me getting TOO involved but yet im also giving her a hint so she can figure out whats going on. what do u thinK?

• ANSWER:
  if u like his courting - don't tell
  if it bothers u - tell (give her a hugh hint if she too dumb)
  if he succeeded in his plan and u gain nothing - tell
  if u liked it and it has the potential for some more fruitfull meetings .. - don't tell

QUESTION:
Hypothetical - Do married cheaters often re-offend? Even if they undyingly swear to be faithful "this time"?
I am just wondering.

I have seen guys get caught out by the wife and swear blind that they would never do it again.

But they do.

Is there ever a point where something snaps and they say "right, I love my wife, enough is enough".

Or would this be hollow as they cheated once? Or can cheating and getting caught be an eye opener to how much one loves their spouse?

I guess if the wife took him back once, he has a licence to cheat. But can a man actually turn good even if he has a wife who would take him back even if he was caught again?
Thanks so far.

I'm not asking for myself, thankfully, I did once have a tangle with a married guy but now have learned to respect myself enough to tell him to get lost.
hi "ai-ight" - yeah I BET he loves her for it - lol! You are right, she is a better woman than I will ever be. I would not take back a cheater.

• ANSWER:
  Yes they do,, once a cheater always a cheater..

QUESTION:
Why do women sleep with married men? Cheaters reply only!?
Especially women who have been cheated on by men themselves. Only experienced answers. If you have not been through this, please don't answer it.
i'd like deep answers. how do people look past hurting innocent kids by their behavior? how do u deceive someone u say u love? is guilt there or just self gratification?

• ANSWER:
  Please, remember this was when I was very young and running wild. I made some unwise choices in my youth. I've grown, I've learned, I've changed. I'm not the same person I once was. So, on that note, I will tell you I've been on ALL sides of the love triangle.

  For myself, when I was the other woman, I had sex with them because I was bored and lonely. Apparently they were too. Before we crossed that line, I always made sure that they remembered that they were still married (most were in the process of a divorce). "You do remember that your married, right?" Only ONCE did the guy ever pull back and end the encounter. The rest of the time I amazingly got the same answer from all of them. "That's my problem, not yours." A problem...that is what they considered their wives.

  When I was cheated on....I took the knowledge I had gained from being the other woman and applied it to my situation. I was his problem. Something about me or our relationship was a problem. I never blamed the other woman. She was just a tool he was using to express his displeasure. YES, I wish he could have found a different less hurtful way...but what was done was done. Some times the relationship ended, but sometimes I stayed and tried to work it out.

  When I cheated....it was as simple as that I was too chicken s**t to just end the relationship. I knew the relationship was crap, but I was just too immature to just say, "Hey, this isn't working out. Let's break up before one of us does something stupid and hurtful."

QUESTION:
Any married men cheated and actually moved forward and changed?
I wanted to know from a males perspective. How many of you have actually regretted cheating and changed once you were found out and are still married and have remained faithful since? Is this reality? Or is once a cheater always a cheater? Married men please (you wont relate unless youve been there done that) I want actual married people with experience.

• ANSWER:
  I will answer your question even I'm a woman, with the experience of being betrayed. You want to know if a married man who had an affair and got caught, change and move on? I think this will depends on that individual if he wants it or not. But for my own personal experience the man I married was different, if I didn't discovered his affair, he wasn't planning to stop it, but because I did, all the lies came out, like he was planning to stop his relationship with the other woman but waiting for the right time. The man I married and gave my world to him didn't change and I'm glad his out of my life now. Now I finally found peace in my life with our children. So this depends if a married man wants to stop, change and move on.

QUESTION:
Hey, can 2 cheaters and/or flirts: get together, fall and Love, get married and make it last?
?? Is this possible??
Can 2 spouses mutually cheat and then hook back up again, cuz they Love eachother??

• ANSWER:
  It is possible....but if it didnt work the first time its highly unlikly it will work out the second time,my 1st hubby was my 1st love & i was his ,i was 13 he was 15,we dated 6 yrs got married ,had 2 children ...we bothe loved each other ..for real worshiped the ground we walked on ..but we both cheated,before we married and after,we never admitted cheating and honestly i never knew why we did,i know now why i did there were things about him i didnt like and couldnt change ,so wed break up and id look for someone just like him...i was looking for the perfect version of him.little did i know i was never going to find anoughter him..hello..i loved him ..but i couldnt except him the way he was ,always wanting him to change,i know now that i should have just loved him flaws and all..he only cheated on me because he knew i had cheated on him..so if you 2 have realized what you had & messed it up?and you have fell in love all over again ,yes it could very well wrk,i think me & mine could live a happy life together now..we are even friends,imarried to a wounderfull an ,if something happened that we divorced,id realy consider trying to give my ex anoughter shot..and i believe it would work now..we were together for17 yrs before we parted,its been 32 yrs since i meet and feel in love with him ,and i still love him..so yes it is possible...good luck Hope It works out..ARIES LOVE

QUESTION:
ARE ALL MARRIED MEN CHEATERS?
The guy I am recently crazy about and have been for years is married. Most of the women at work he has made a drunken pass at but he has never attempted anything like that with me. To the outside world he seems to try to show the world he has it all the beautiful wife, house and job but he still attempts to do silly things with girls at work who have no interest in him!
I wonder are all married men looking for something with no strings attached?
Does something happen to men when they turn 40 as this man is in his early 40's and is now acting like someone half his age- is this because he can't face his age and getting older?
I am fond of him but due to the fact of him being married I would never go after him I think a lot of him and admire him but I am so concerned about his well being!

• ANSWER:
  no

QUESTION:
are SOME married men are really cheaters and bisexual when they get older?
im gay guy and i just found out that im having an affair with a married man, at first he told me he was single he's 46 and im 25. i dont want his family specially his wife will think i steal her husband, i dont want that his family will think im a bad person. i just cant believe that it happened to me if i know that he's married at first this will not gonna work for us, we have a serious relationship already. im just thinking that some men are really cheaters even they are already married and i cant believe he is bisexual he told me before he was gay.

• ANSWER:
  You need to break this off, because his actions are going to hurt a LOT of people if they find out.

  Look, I have a 29 yr old gay son, so it isn't the gay part I object to, it's the MARRIED part! Tell him you can't go on with it, and stick to your guns. He was an asshole for lying to you, and he deserves to be dumped like the trash he is.

  Please end this ASAP...no good will ever come from it.

QUESTION:
Who really wants to stay married to a cheater and Liar?
Filed divorce and ready for the ball to roll .He has already moved on with plenty of new relationships .I would like to wait until the divorce is finalized.

• ANSWER:
  Good For You!

  Keep Your Head Up & Stay Strong!

QUESTION:
Are there more cheaters or faithful married soldiers while deployed to Iraq?
Curious as to what the reality is given all the talk. Is it also true some female soldiers try to hookup with married men on purpose? I said some, not all so please don't think I'm hating on all women, y'all know what I'm talkin about.
I am aware of the spouse issue, but that's not what I asked about.
I also do not base a relationship or the quality of it based on numbers or stats. I asked a question to find the truth in all the talk nothing more or less.

• ANSWER:
  I guess to answer your question its all pretty much MOS and Post specific,there's some places when you deploy there is absolutely NO way you can have sex with anyone unless you are married and on that deployment with your spouse.It also depends on the person and their morals,just because we are soldiers does not mean we cheat more than civilians, that's like me asking while we are deployed to Iraq do our spouses cheat more than other people,it just is not a common since question,Also with women Soldiers I personally (as female Soldier going on 2nd deployment) have never tried to hook up with a married man(soldier or not) or have ever hit on any of the males in my company or unit,they are like brothers to me.but that's just personal experience.That's just like there are trifling females (and males) everywhere,you just have to know and trust the person you are with and judge from what you know of them,you cant really base your relationship on numbers and statistics.Also females who do that are generally looked down upon we are Soldiers and we take the same oath as the males,most of us take offense if we get hit on down range because we are not there to be desert booty for the male soldiers,we are there to do a job,and do it well.In my experiance its also mostly the spouses that cheat on the Soldier while they are deployed,then the Soldier has to come home to a broken home,I have seen this about a million times and is also the reason I am a single Soldier.most times civilians cant take the deployment and having there spouse gone for so long,while on the other hand we are trained for it and use the thought of our spouse and family to push us through the hard times

QUESTION:
can cheaters ever stop if married?
can a person who is married and cheats ever stop if married or will they do it every chance they get and act like nothing has happened with there spouce till caught .
once if caught how in most cases will it end divorced. or looked down on by there spouces

• ANSWER:
  once a cheater always a cheater

QUESTION:
Married men hiring gay escorts/prostitutes to secretly cheat on their wives behind their backs. Is it wrong?
Is cheating wrong if you're married and if you made a promise to be committed and monogamos to your loving wife?

Is it ever ok to cheat if you're married, when a cheater places his spouse unknowingly as risk for HIV and other STD's?

Do you think half of all gay men cheat? And if so, does that make cheating acceptable?

Do you think I'm just being judgmental, angry, hateful, and self-righteous to call out cheaters as scum-bags?

• ANSWER:
  Cheating if you are married is wrong if you are straight or gay. People don't know that the risk of HIV doesn't matter if you are gay or straight...cheating is wrong. I don't think there is a "number" for whether more gay men cheat than straight men.
  I think cheaters are scumbags too (I'm a Psychologist and shouldn't say so). My parents divorced because of cheating.
  Peace, Love & Happiness

QUESTION:
Are Married guys that chat with women online cheaters?
or Married women who talk with guys online

• ANSWER:
  i would say so. if i caght my husband doing that i would say he was cheating. [ i probably would throw the computer out too!]

QUESTION:
Why are so many ragging on Jesse James for being a cheater including cheaters like Donald Trump?
1) It's none of our business.

2) Even with the percentage of people who admit to cheating, there shouldn't be many out there pointing fingers.

3) Even if you haven't cheated, how does judging others who are unfaithful make you a better person than a cheater?

Trump got Marla Maples pregnant while married to his 1st wife Ivana and even he's on these Entertainment Shows judging Jesse.

• ANSWER:
  Why? Because Americans are obsessed with the lives of celebrities, and the media feeds into it. Witness the obsession with Tiger Woods and others. With 24/7 cable coverage, the networks need something juicy to feed on, and there are enough people who follow their lead.

QUESTION:
How do you know if a married man is trying to cheat on his wife? Or just being friendly?
What separates flirters from cheaters?? Assuming the guy has to be discreet - NOT blunt about his intentions b/c the other woman is married?

Any advice about how wrong the behavior is will be a waste of your time... This is purely inquisitive and meant to draw from people's ACTUAL life experiences.

• ANSWER:
  i think eye contact is a big thing!If the husband or wife is looking someone else in the eyes alot thats a red sign. Touching is one to. Hugging can be one depending on how much physical attraction they have with one another.

QUESTION:
Why do women say that they want good guys, but then they date and marry abusers and cheaters?
We're not talking about men who "seemed nice at first" . . . we're talking about men who are grade-A scumbags, and women know it, and STILL enter into relationships with them.

Also, why are women in denial about this, and why do they give flip, dismissive answers instead of addressing the issue?

• ANSWER:
  keep looking for the woman of your dreams she is out there. Try not to be so hung up on looks, borden your view of women, include her way of thinking. As I think you're not interested in why woman choose scum over nice guys. The fact is that you're having a hard time finding a woman for you. I wonder why men care that a women choose scum over him. It should be quite obvious to you. That people sometime present them self in a false way, and become someone unexpected during the course of a relationship. As most people are looking for that great love, but it does not always happen all the time. Your question should be how do I meet decent women.

QUESTION:
Why is it when i talk to other females and im married my wife calls me a cheater?
When me ans my wife first met and got married i told her that i dont talk to most guys and i do talk to other females as friends. Someone tell me why is it right for her to talk to other guys and when i talk to other females im the cheater. I mean i found a message in her phone from a guy saying hi sexy.

• ANSWER:

QUESTION:
what if a cheater married a same cheater?what do u think would happen to them?

• ANSWER:
  There's no excuse for cheating, how did it get to marriage, if you're still cheating you ain't ready for a commitment, please don't create anymore broken messed up families.

QUESTION:
Should married people really worry about getting screened for HIV periodically?
On this forum we've seen many cheaters and whatnot or people who have found out their spouses have cheated. Should HIV tests still be routine for married people, assuming you can never really know 100% what your SO is doing apparently? Just wondering.

I think married people & couples should get tested!You never know when a partner cheats & gets infected. Some guys sleep with other guys & there partner never knows.

• ANSWER:
  Yes I once used to get therapy from a nurse who was a disease specialist. She told me so many spouses got an STD from a cheating spouse. My papa gave it to my mama that way so yes! You never know these days. For a long time they thought my mama had a yeast infection because she was married. She treated my papa like hell and when she was away caring for her dying rents, i bilieve that's when my papa cheated with sexy co-worker who gave him sexy pix of her in short-shorts my mama later found. When she came back from nursing dying rents a fellow employee called her and told her he went home with that sexy co-worker after a drunken Xmas party. She said she remembered seeing a rash on his privates but he said it was a heat rash, it turned out to be herpes.

  Don't trust nobody in this world. Periodically test, especially if you got any issues down there!

QUESTION:
Are Most Women Genetically Programed to be Habitual Cheaters, regardless of being Married, Single, & Loved?
Not referring to "All Women"...but, it seems that from the Beginning of Time (Adam & Eve - if you are Wise enough to realize that it wasn't Really about a forbidden Apple) that this has been the Reckless Behavior of some Women, who Totally disregard the Fact, that they were/are Love, Adored, and Possibly Cared for by their Partner. It Truly seem as though it happens to be some sort of Addiction to Sex with different Men to whom they might be Attracted, during any given Period of Time. And, contrary to what One may assume...in lots of Cases, it has Nothing to do with the Assumption that possibly, they were not being Treated Specially.
Nothing, could be more further away from the Truth...from My Point of View, & lots of other Men & Some Women, "The Worst part of it All" is that they will scheme, & Lye...to Cover UP their Lecherous Behavior, & also Neglect Attention to their Partners & often, Accidentally leave definite Proof via Pregnancy, and Swear the father is their Partner.

• ANSWER:
  Welcome to the new age of female dominance. Where more females than males are going to collage and taking higher positions in corporations. Where women always have the upper hand in courts, in particular family and divorce courts.

  The fact is that women all along have said that men are the cheaters, but the facts do not support heir claims. According to the newest surveys, about 49% to 51% of men have cheated at some time. While 46% to 48% (depending on which survey you read) of women have done so too. I really think that it's a matter of time before women surpass men in cheating habits.

QUESTION:
Where my cheaters at? and would you still be married if you didn't cheat? Pay attention ladies.?
I know if I didn't cheat I would have been divorsed a long time ago. I don't put it in her face and as far as I know she has no clue. To me it's better to get a little on the side when I get bored than to split my family up. I've been happily married for 10 years cause I cheat!!! I can see the ladies faces getting red now, sure glad no one has figured out how to slap through a computer yet.

• ANSWER:
  How about you learn to spell? Or use a spell check? If you were my husband I would have "divorsed" you ages ago when I realized what an idiot you were. (Though I don't date men like you. I have more class than the trash your probably "getting on the side".)

QUESTION:
Is there such a thing as a 100% faithful husband especially when all of his friends are cheaters?
we've been together for 5 yrs and married for 1 yr... al his friends and circle of people are cheaters even the married ones. He talks bout their unfaithfulness to me n sometimes says its wrong. but im scared that if he continues to hang around them he'l get tempted one day. is it right of me to feel this way???

• ANSWER:
  Everyone is an individual. He can be 100% faithful. There is wrong being done all around you. Do you get involved?

QUESTION:
FOR THE CHEATERS OUT THERE: How can you be married, call yourself a good person and sleep with another person?
And another thing, why do you persist on saying you love your partner, but that you lost control emotionally? When you have great conviction, you can't loose control?

Cheaters... I know you are under the delusion that you are a good person who went down a wrong path. Please, let me re program you! You aren't a good person! And you don't love your partner! If you did, you wouldn't have had sex with another person. Please, admit this to yourself and get some help....or leave the person you are deluding...

This is more of a public service thing, than a question... thanks!

• ANSWER:
  when people cheat they seldom are able to see their faults, they feel justified. they don't see what they have done at all. most people won't take the blame they just want to put it on the other guy. having to face oneself is sometimes a hard thing so they make up all these excuses that they love the person they cheated on or that its the fault of the person they cheated on, that they didn't get what they wanted when they wanted it. but its mainly immaturity, boredom, mid life crisis, thinking all their problems will suddenly disappear once they get rid of that person but that is rarely the case because the problem originates within not because of the other person.

QUESTION:
how can punish a cheater married man?
i was in love with a married man who presented himself as a single man , we were in love and even we had sex together and after 7 months we cut because i was suspecting there is something wrong with him and he was hiding something from me, But recently i found he was with me he has been married and already had 2 kids.i am really heart broken and this hurt me too much , when i think he cheated me for such a long time. Do you think how can i punish him, should i tell this to his wife?please help me to calm me down.

• ANSWER:
  You really want to punish him???

  Don't let him know, and stalk him, espcially when he's with his wife or family....... then go up to him and say

  OMG HI! my name is ____________ and im also sleeping with_______________ (husband). If you want to make it worse say Oh you already have 2 children? well baby #3 is coming right up! (pats your belly)

QUESTION:
why married people cheat? do you have any statistics on cheaters of both sexes?

• ANSWER:
  Well humans are creatures that like variety is no doubt about the…. we're certainly one of the few animals that trying to enjoy monogamy. For women but I knew me is important because it brings about support and knowing someone's going to be there many years if she gets pregnant. For guys it's pretty much the opposite direction.

  Sex and frustration did not go well together. Certainly marriage can bring on stress and a host of other problems. However a quick fling with the person down the street invites only fun. People cheat because they can… maybe it's an opportunity that just happens to arise.

  Now I am someone who wrote a book about the statistics of sexuality. And I can tell you it is difficult to get statistics on something that people hide and deny….but…. Men definitely cheat more….. no question about it. While the housewife has the occasional fling with the young piece of manhood mowing the lawn don't forget you're missing one huge piece of data. Prostitutes. There just aren't a whole lot of male prostitutes that are servicing women if anything are servicing men. Women prostitutes stay extremely busy especially overseas where countries like Thailand have 500,000 registered female prostitutes. Even in the United States there are 33 legal brothels …. yes you heard me right legal. Are there any brothels for women??? I've never heard of one.

  Just by prostitution alone men are cheating a whole lot more then women. Without prostitution may be the odds are a little more even. But any time you can go out to Nevada pay for girl in five minutes and be sleeping with her in 10….. pretty easy to cheat

  So while we can't get direct statistics these are certainly indirect ones that clearly show who's the bigger cheater

  Mark

QUESTION:
if there is a law punishment for a married cheater, how do you like the punishment to be?
if there is a law that punish those who cheat on their spouse, how do you like the punishment to be? which punishment that satisfy you the most for a cheater partner?

• ANSWER:
  Actually there IS a law that says adultery is a crime punishable by jail time. The offended party must press charges.

QUESTION:
Cheaters Only: If you are a married man and are flirting with a single girl.....?
Do you suggest going out or do you keep flirting until she gives you the clear signal to make your move?
Hey Aaralyn, why did you click on a "Cheaters Only" question if that's how you feel. Obviously this question is not for you. If you don't have answers please keep your opinions to yourself. Nobody asked for them.
Yeah i guess you're right JJ it is a free country. I guess that means I'm free to REPORT THE BOTH OF YOU TOO! YOU HAVE BOTH BEEN REPORTED! Have a nice day.

• ANSWER:
  HEY

  I LOVE CHEATING

QUESTION:
Best way to inflict pain on married cheater?
he kept trying to have sex w/ me. begged for months. when i finally caved he turned me back down. whats the best way to leave this siutatoin so he feels crappy about himself.

• ANSWER:
  cold turkey....ignore him...he now thinks he can have you...any further attempt will be just to prove that...ignore his attempts and that is what will drive him crazy.

QUESTION:
Why do people get married hoping to change there cheating ways?
I would like to know why get married,and you know you're going to cheated.Do you get married hoping that your cheated ways will stop.Is it true a leopard never changes his spots.Once a cheater always a cheater.

• ANSWER:
  well i think that people want to believe that they can change. Their partner just wants to believe that they will deep down somewhere. My sister did that (married the guy) they were divorced a year later... He had a affair with a 17 year old girl. he is 31. GROSS. he's a freak and he'll never change and neither will anybody else. So think before you do think like that

QUESTION:
Is anyone married to a serial cheater-narcissists?
I got married a month ago, and my husband has shown all the signs of a narcissists, can anyone relate or have any information on this type of disease?

• ANSWER:
  They don't suffer from NPD - everyone else suffers. They'll never accept responsibility - Any failure is result of other people's errors.

  I'd suggest checking http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Psychopathsgroup/ to talk to other Survivors. Then start to plan to run. I wasted 20 years supporting my NPD, hoping that he'd grow up & start being a responsible Adult. They will never change - they do not see any reason to.

  .

QUESTION:
I need answers from someone that married a cheater. . .?
I have been with my girlfriend for more than three years now, and she has cheated on me several times in the past. Recently, she commented on a guy's Facebook page that she cheated on me with about a month ago, and that kind of hurt.

What signs did they show when it came to cheating?
Did they ever stop?

We're planning on getting married within the next two or three years... but I'm starting to wonder if she's ever going to stop.
P.s. I'm in college, if that helps

• ANSWER:
  Leopards never change their spots just locations. A lesson from the wiser don't do it, get you someone who loves you the way that you deserve to be loved. The longer you stay the more it hurts you in th end. Plus cheating can bring certain health risks that can and will kill you, Many Blessings.

QUESTION:
Why do some women find it funny if a guy gets cheated on a lot?
When I was in the Navy, I tended to get cheated on due to being deployed for months at a time, sometimes 6 months. Due to my age, a lot always have to ask why I'm not married. I got the point that I say, I'm not going to marry cheaters. For what ever reason, women laugh guys say, feel ya man. Why do women find this funny?

• ANSWER:
  maybe your nonchalant-ness about the situation. I can't say that I find it funny. I find it tragic.

QUESTION:
Would I be viewed positively as a strong woman for staying married to my husband who is a habitual cheater?
Or would this be viewed negatively as a weakness.

My Husband comes and goes to explore other options and right now were off.

My choice is to work through the broken marriage for the kids and not quickly divorce.

• ANSWER:
  Since you define your marriage as "broken" it is assumed you are not an advocate of "open marriage" and believe, like the majority of married people that a couple needs to remain monogamous. No, I do not believe that most people would view a woman who remains married to a "habitual cheater" as strong.

  Your implication is that this husband of yours continues to cheat. Why, may I ask, did he enter into marriage in the first place.? What happened to his sense of commitment to you? Have you ever discussed your expectations of him as a marriage partner or have you simply chosen to "work through" the marriage by remaining silent. A strong women would make it clear that she is not willing to stay married to a cheater. Your husband's actions do not demonstrate love and/or respect for you ; quite the contrary, and your acceptance of his behaviour sets a bad example for your children so don't by a martyr "for the kids."

  If time and time again you sit back while hubby ventures off to "explore his options" you are demonstrating low self worth. In a nutshell, you do not think enough of yourself to command respect from your spouse.. Since when is giving your husband free reign to screw around while you remain the ever- dutiful wife a sign of strength?

  Since you've never given him any reason to even try to tow the line, you could tell him that his days as "Mr. Stud of the neighborhood '" are over. Tell him you are having the divorce papers drawn up in the event he loses his head again and decides to unleash his manly prowess anywhere else but in your bedroom....with you! He now has exactly ONE option... Then divorce his sorry ass if he tests you. Only then would you ever be viewed as a strong woman. Frankly, I'd be much less concerned with the question of how I'd be viewed and more interested in asking myself : "Do I deserve this BS?"

QUESTION:
What do you think the consequences are for a cheater, married or dating?
I know someone who has been cheating on his gf. I don't think he really loves her.
funny answer vree.

• ANSWER:
  Having cheated once in my life, I know the consequences are huge. You could lose everything that really matters just because you had to act on an "urge." There's an old saying, "What you do in the dark will always come to light."

  This guy may love his girlfriend but be totally selfish, wanting his cake and eating it too. Many times people enter into monogamous relationships thinking they are ready and they really aren't and maybe never will be. I know now that I am ready because no matter how many times the opportunity to cheat presents itself, I can smile, acknowledge the temptation and then not act on it because the person I am with, the love we have, the home and relationship we've built is infinitely way more important to me than a few "hot" sexual encounters going nowhere. Besides, I can have "hot sex" with my significant other whenever I choose - no sneaking, no guilt, no constraints, well except when we're both tired or have "headaches."